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• I want more time with my kids! posted (1 year, 4 months) ago
  I’m married with 2 little ones. My oldest daughter is starting kindergarten this fall and I a…

• I don’t want to get a divorse! posted (1 year, 4 months) ago
  !BUT.. Long story as short as I can: moved in with my boyfriend 7 years ago, got pregnant 4 months i…

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• I want more time with my kids!
  

  Thank you for responding. It sounds like you have been where I am maybe just a couple years ago. We truely do make the most of all the time we have. It’s just that finacialy speaking, what I make now is big and loads of hours. Where as a part time job could actually work if I find the right one. Maybe I have the vision of making cookies and having them ready when my little one gets off the bus.. I am no June Cleaver, but the idea of more time at home is so nice! Thanks again, I agree that it is much more about quality than quanity!
  - written 1 year, 4 months ago

• BOOBS!
  

  Well, I don’t know you so this is a very very personal question.. Was your period normal? I mean you said it was shorter than normal, was the “flow” normal or less than usual?? Also do your bras feel too tight? The two times I have been pregnant my boobs were what tipped me off. Get a pregnancy test. It’s the only way you will know and then you can figure things out. It may be nothing.. Have you been working out, did you lift heavy things recently?? Maybe it’s just muscle pain.. Eather way, you should find out. At least you won’t have to wonder..
  - written 1 year, 4 months ago

• Anyone ever seen a ufo or had a visit?
  

  absolutely! Are we so arrogant to think that we are the only ones out there?? I have not personaly seen or been probed!! But I absolutely believe that there is life OUT THERE.. Have you ever read the book communion by Whitley Shreiber? I am not sure on the spelling of his name, but if you haven’t read it, you should check it out… Also the follow up book called Transformation.
  - written 1 year, 4 months ago

• i am 18 years old and pregnant.
  

  Jessica, I have a fair amount of experience in this area!! My own first daughter was a “surprise” before I was ready and I was most certainly a surprise before my mom was ready. I was 23 and doing fairly well at work etc but not at all ready to be a mom and not necessarily ready to commit to a life time with the father. My mom was your age when I was born. It was 1977 so an un-married mother was NOT ok in white picket fence USA. She conceled her pregnancy by moving to Hawaii and I lived with a foster mom for 6 weeks awaiting adoption. She came to say good bye to me and took me home with her that same day!! (home is minnesota) The most important thing I can tell you is, it probably won’t be easy, but it will be amazing. My mom and I are very close. Do you have family support?? That has been a huge resorce for both myself and my mom..With regard to you are not in love with the father…If he is a good guy and supportive of you and the pregnancy, that is wonderful! I don’t know what your religious beliefs are, but please do yourself and your baby a favore by not getting married…You have enough on your plate right now! You are both about to go through a life changing event. rushing into anything relationship wise might not be the right time. Take each day as it comes and TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF!!!! That is truely the most important thing right now. Find any support you can and rely on those that love you. P.S. When I was freaked out and thinking my life was over, my boyfriend reminded me that now I get to be Santa! Those types of happy thoughts, get you through..Congratulations on creating a new life!! Who knows who he or she will become??….
  - written 1 year, 4 months ago

• My heart is breaking -Losing my family - Update on Need advice Trying to find a reason to live
  

  Wow! It sounds like yoy have a whole lot of stuff floating around in your mind and a whole lot of time to think about all of it in a job that you despise…Given the amount of time most of spend at our jobs, it is so important to do something you can live with. I love my job some days and others I literally promise never to go back to “that —-ing place” again! If you are not able to live with your family anymore. Maybe it is time to find a new place and a new job. Even a no brainer kind of job till tou find the right one.. Maybe find a charming smaller place that may not have so many memories and may not feel so emty for you??I couldn’t tell for sure if you are moving out, or they are??It sounds like you are feeling like a burden but have they ever really expressed that to you? If you are at all like me, you are by far your own worste critic. You mentioned that you are the babysitter. If you are entrusted with your friends children both k-9 and humane, obviously you are a loved and trusted friend. That says a great deal about you as a person. I have 2 small children and a dog and I wouldn’t trust them with with just anyone! This could be such a wonderful turning point for you. I hope you can find a way to see that.
  - written 1 year, 4 months ago

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