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• Okay, So there is this girl. posted (5 months, 1 week) ago
  We dated for almost 7 months back in 2004, but it was a young 13 year olds couple relationship. She …

• This might sound strange, but has anyone ever felt more than human or as if they had something special or unique to them? posted (10 months, 3 weeks) ago
  Or that they had some soul purpose in life?…

• I feel like I have no control in my life, I’m way to stressed out, and I do everything how I should yet it always ends up as me getting in trouble posted (11 months) ago
  feel like I have no control in my life, I’m way to stressed out, and I do everything how I sh…

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• I don’t know what to do.
  

  if you are trying to keep anonymous you may want to make sure you keep the reply anonymously box checked, but i don’t know, you may have just wanted the original post anonymous, just giving a hint.
  - written 5 months, 1 week ago

• When is it considered abuse?
  

  It is abuse when it the treatment is no longer comfortable in your own judgement. However, some of your examples sound like abuse, unless they were meant in a playful manner. If you are yelling for help or for someone to stop something and they are covering your mouth, that is abuse. A pinch as long as it is a quick little pinch, as opposed to a long painful pinch that leaves a lasting pain or mark, I wouldn’t consider that abuse. Pushing someone off the bed for talking too much, once again if it is meant in a playful manner, not abuse, but if it isn’t in a playful manner, then it is abuse. Restraining someone when upset, that depends on how you are being restrained, and why you were being restrained, as in what you were doing as a result of being upset, if your actions as a result of being upset required being restrained then it is understood. You shouldn’t be strapped or tied down to something or tied up restrained, but maybe in a comforting hug. However, if you got violent as a result of being upset, and required forceful restraint and at the protection and safety of others or themself. So if in a hugging, comforting manner then it is okay or forceful at the safety of others or themself, then it is okay, however if it is forceful or being tied up or strapped or tied down, for an unjustified reason, then it is abuse. HOWEVER, I STRONGLY AGREE WITH THE FIRST STATEMENT MADE BY “DOYOUKNOWTHEMUFFINMA”, IT MAY BE ABUSE AT THE POINT WHERE YOU COME TO HELP.COM TO FIND OUT.
  - written 5 months, 1 week ago

• HELP, I am stuck in a loveless marriage and scared, I have 3 children who love there father and would choose him over me.
  

  You should confront your husband. HOWEVER, think from your HEART, not your head. If you aren’t sure how to do that ask me, most people don’t know how, yet alone know there is a differnce. My point is to think from your HEART, and ask yourself, do you want it to work? If your answer is yes. after confronting your husband tell him you want it to work and seek marriage counselling.
  - written 5 months, 1 week ago

• i am sad, always sad.
  

  I agree strongly with the post above, just think about your kids especially. Do you want your kids growing up with a mother who is depressed and let them learn that it the proper way to be ALL the time, or that a person should be happy all the time, and on occasion be upset. Think about it. Its your choice, no one elses.
  - written 5 months, 1 week ago

• my gf just broke up with me and its like i just woke up from a dream.
  

  Look, your feelings could have been very strong for her, which it sounds like, so it won’t be easy to get over right away. If you are lucky, she’ll realize that what she did was a mistake and ask for you back. Unfortunately if that doesn’t happen, it can be a long painful recovery, as hard as it is to accept that, it might just be the way it is. However, I’m sorry to hear about the end of your relationship, and best of luck.
  - written 5 months, 1 week ago

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