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That’s what I’m always trying to tell people when I reply to their posts about how they’re scared to lose their bf/gf, or need to find someone. I’m like, you’ve got to love yourself to love someone else… as cheesy as it sounds!

I know the feeling, it’s hard. I would say, start with the small things.
Call your mom back! Say, sorry about earlier. I’ve been feeling really down. Tell her what you just told us… I know it’s hard, because you don’t want to hurt her, but she’d probably be glad to know what’s going on in your life. When you get upset about pushing your friends away, write them a letter telling them what you’re thinking. Sometimes it’s easier to be sincere in a letter or e-mail than in person.
You’ll be okay!

How old are you?
The best way to find a boyfriend, or anything like that is to know yourself really well. To know what you like and don’t like in a guy, and to have the kind of self-confidence that attracts men! But to do that, you have to be comfortable being alone with yourself. You know how they say once you stop looking, then you’ll find him? Very true! If you’re having a hard time being alone, get out there and do stuff, make more friends, or whatever. The more people you meet the more opportunities to find someone special you will have.
But really, try to be happy just being yourself, like lillian (above) said!

how much time do you have? a photo album is a cute idea for a gift, with pics of you two and your friends.
but as for the celebration, go out to eat and have some kind of a surprise element, no matter how small. I mean, picnic in a park, special dessert, concert?

It’ll be okay, really. I know how awful that feeling is, though, i had it all through high school, and I’m in college now and I still get panicked thinking about grades!
Sometimes it helps to prepare people. You could say to your dad, ‘Ugh, school is so stressful this semester. I’m so worried about grades, but I’m trying to work really hard.’
And yeah, he might be tough on you, and it might suck, but you’ll get through it. There’s always another quarter or semester to bring your grades up, and remember: in like 30 years neither you NOR your dad will be able to remember what grades you got!
(You’ll be too busy being president, or winning a nobel peace prize, or discovering a new element, or writing a book…) :D

huh? he asked you, so why would it be random?

aw, thanks.

Right, whatever, either way it bothers people who fight for human rights.

http://www.ftc.gov/bcp/conline/pubs/c…

go to this website!!

They don’t work, that’s why people always talk about how diet and excersize are the only things that work… because they are. But really, can’t you talk to a doctor about this, they may have something to recommend…

It does suck, but there are things you can do!
Vote democratic, for one… :p
The best thing in life is to surround yourself with friends and family who you love and can support you. That way you won’t let the bitterness get to you, and you’ll have people to help you in times of trouble.
And hey, please don’t use the word ‘gay’ as a synonym for ’stupid’. I know it’s just a little thing, but it’s offensive.

What are you trying to do that you’re fighting so hard for?

Try not to let the bitterness get to you. I know it sucks to have to be the parent and not the ‘friend’, but they do need that stabilizing force in their lives. Trust me, they will appreciate it so much more when they get older, and they will realize that mom is the immature one. And hey, at least you get to spend time with them, even if it means you’re up to your neck in stress.
I would say, get a nanny or something, so that you don’t go out of your mind. Let your oldest children know that you love them but are struggling. Ask them to help pick up the slack around the house and in caring for the 7 year old.
Also, there’s places with good resources, advice, classes, and help for parents, so search around on the internet and see what you come up with.
Hang in there. It’s strong parents like you that will raise amazing kids!

Take them with you, go to the ER right now! Or call 9-11 for an ambulance, if it’s that bad.

Where’s the suicide helpbot?!?!?
Okay, here’s the line:
“If you are contemplating suicide, hurting yourself, or you are seriously depressed: please, seek professional help!

Call this hotline (1-800-273-8255) operated by our friends at the
Suicide Prevention Lifeline, anytime, for free, professional, and
confidential assistance.”

But seriously, the best way is to talk to someone. I mean, you can always kill yourself tomorrow, or the next day, there’s no hurry, right? So take some time now to call a friend, or a family member, or that number above! No matter how dark it seems right now, having someone there for you can be what you need.

Laugh.
I know how hard it is, and how stupid it is when people tell you to laugh, or just ignore them, but really, it’s the only way. Try not to get upset when they say that you’re a lesbian. For one thing, there’s nothing wrong with that. Just roll your eyes and say, ‘Wow, you seem pretty obsessed with what I do. Are you sure YOU don’t have a crush on me? Jeez.’
Or ‘wow, this school seems really obsessed with homosexuality, I wonder why that is…’

Whether or not those kinds of things will work is anyone’s guess, but it might make it easier for you to not be so emotionally invested in it, and upset by it.

The main thing you need to do is talk to an adult. Is there a school counselor you can talk to? (sometimes they really do help!) or your parents?