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just because a guy has a type doesn’t mean he only likes that kind of girl. if he really likes you it won’t matter what you look like or act it’ll be who you are! go for it!

try different things, and see how she responds vocally and physically. if she’s shy and doesn’t tell you like ‘oh, that’s good’ or anything, then ask her, or try new things.

I would say you are too young. That is to say, it’s not like you’re immature or stupid, (i was your age only 5 years ago!) but teenage years you have SO much stuff to deal with… let this be something you wait for. It’s not like there’s not other ways to satisfy the hormones… safer ways that don’t put you at risk for STDs or pregnancy… NOT something you want to deal with. Plus the emotional side is a huge deal. It’s good that you love him, but what if it doesn’t last… will this make the breakup worse?
Of course, it’s your body. You should be using TWO forms of contraception if you do, (condoms AND the pill or something like that) because, well, think of jamie lynne spears for one. Jeez. Also, even though it sounds awful, maybe talk to your mom or an adult friend… sometimes they do give good advice.

you need to find another adult to help you… a friend, a counselor, a social worker, anyone! there are resources out there, ask around! you shouldn’t have to deal with this alone.

yeah, that’s awful. i’m not sure about metric, so i don’t know how thin you are but either love yourself for who you are or see a doctor if you think it’s really a health issue. if that’s the way you’re meant to be and not to be annoying (i’m sure you know this) but a million women would kill to have your problem.

I’d have to go with Casablanca. It’s the best romance, the best action movie, the best war movie, etc, etc, all rolled into one. Plus everyone knows like 27 quotes from it, even if they haven’t seen it!
Amelie is amazing, too. I like L’Argent Du Poche, it’s an old french movie but it’s really cute. It’s called Small Change in English.
I could go on and on!

You need to seek legal help, I think. I know your issues are moral maybe, and have to do with how mad you are at your mom, but maybe legal help can give you some options.

Are you arts? Ornaments, maybe, if they’re Christian? But baking something is always nice, if you know how!

he doesn’t, obviously she has a right to be jealous if he has ‘feelings’ (romantic) for another woman… are you asking how to deal with this?

It’s not about them, it’s about you. If you don’t want them fussing over you, let them know that it happened awhile ago, and you’re okay now. (even if you aren’t.) But if you want some advice or cheering up, let them have the honest truth if you’re upset over it.
Make sure you apologize for not telling them sooner, if you think they’ll be offended. Just say you wanted to think about it on your own for awhile.

Me, too! I have finals and I haven’t started studying… a 12 page paper in a foreign language…
I think I’m past procrastinating and into depressed, though, I can’t even get out of bed, and this has been going on for weeks. Hm. Clearly this should be it’s own post, I need help as much as you.
But good luck on your work, I’m sure you’ll get it done!

The choices that some brave people made in during the Holocaust to go against the law and the regime and try to save the Jews from death camps, maybe? But I’m unclear about what the topic is… do you have a topic question for the essay?

To take your mind off how much you miss her, why don’t you write her a letter? It’s not a way to get in touch with her right now, but people LOVE getting mail! Just tell her regular things about what you’ve been up to and what you did today and the tv shows you’ve been watching, nothing too intense. Also, writings more work-intensive than some things so hopefully it’ll tire you out! Or if you really want to take your mind off it, I could recommend some websites for silly fun. But writing her a letter would be productive because she could enjoy it later, when you give her the letter, or send it to her!

what is this for?

It’s important for human society to advance. If we didn’t have the mental functions we have now, we could live, you know like cavemen. But we wouldn’t have technology or housing, etc, etc.