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• I am so bored … posted (1 month, 2 weeks) ago
  am so bored ……

• I am really really down to day. posted (7 months, 1 week) ago
  I have been for a few days. All I want to do is sleep this feeling away. I have work to do ……

• I want to share the thoughts in this letter I wrote a friend of mine this morning. posted (8 months, 1 week) ago
  We were talking on the phone last night. Something we were talking about caused me to suddenly bec…

• Wishing you all a safe, enjoyable and fulfilling New Year. posted (9 months, 3 weeks) ago
  May all of your dreams come true … Shalom, Namaste … God Speed at ‘cha.…

• OMG … Sweeney Todd posted (9 months, 3 weeks) ago
  I just got back from seeing this movie. I don’t know what I just experienced. I can not de…

• Help … I have this pop up crap spontaneously appearing on my screen. posted (10 months) ago
  Where do I go to delete it? I didn’t ask for it …. I see the url’s how do I get…

• Okay … there is this man I met on line and well, he is a fruit cake. posted (10 months) ago
  Just an odd ball. How do I get rid of him? He is persistent and well frankly an idiot. UGH̷…

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brightshine's Top (5) Replies by other users' votes

• (1 vote) What can i do to stay focused when im studying for exams?
  

  Knuckle DOWN! FOCUS. Man, this costs money and time. What you playing around for!? Sit down and GET TO IT!
  
  Okay, that was the voice that used to tell me to get going!
  
  
  SCHEDULE your TIME!! Schedule in time to study for exams. Make certain you have taken care of all your distractions prior to ‘STUDY TIME’. Clean the house, dust, do WHAT EVER happens to take your mind away from your studies BEFORE you sit down to study.
  
  I suggest ensuring that you eat healthy and get exercise - cardiovascular, before you sit down to study. This should have all systems go.
  
  Plan … Plan … Plan … and make it happen. Now, GET TO IT!! What you waiting for? Knuckle down here … time is money and these classes aren’t cheap!!
  
  - written 4 months, 2 weeks ago – voted for by Hope

• (1 vote) HousePeople Poll #1 :: Is it possible for a husband to commit rape against a wife?
  

  It is abuse, plain and simple - - Physical, sexual, spiritual, emotional and mental abuse - a comprehensive attack on the human being.
  
  I would contend that a husband imposing sex or a wife demanding sex of their spouse exemplifies the epitomy of abuse.
  
  As Lilies has mentioned it is a violation of trust. Sex incorporates a connection between two people on each of these levels of being … when sex is imposed … it is damaging to each of these aspects we function within. This obviously means the one who was violated has wounds to overcome in each of these levels of being.
  
  Imposing sex on anyone, under any circumstances / condition is rape. I think we as a species have come up with this concept to describe what it means to be violated in this manner.
  
  My heart goes out to your contact whom is struggling with this situation and to all those who are struggling with having been violated in this manner. I wish strength and healing to each of you.
  
  Marriage does not constitute ownership of another being. It never should.
  
  I realize in some societies / cultures sex perhaps may be thought of as the right of a spouse. It would be interesting then to know / comprehend how people from those cultures perceive this topic. Do we end up feeling violated because we have already predisposed ourselves to the expectation of having control over our sexual choice … or is this authentically a fundemental human violation?
  
  - written 7 months ago – voted for by Queen of Lost Vampyr

• (1 vote) I tried to be nice and a good moderator however Im obviously not according to many users.
  

  Sounds like it was a good experience for you Ditzy. Helped you recognize your limitations. Monitoring and managing others behavior is tough. It does require you to be somewhat squeeky clean and/or have a tough exterior. I imagine it would be an unrewarding position.
  
  You did bring up a good point, many of the moderators do not follow the rules and this makes it very confusing for the users of this site. Especially when users are held accountable to the rules by the same moderators whom break them and allow other users to go ‘under the radar’ = unaccountable. As well, when moderators do not follow the rules the TOS becomes undermined and respect is lost.
  
  Keep hanging around and HAVE FUN … that is what life is all about.
  
  - written 9 months ago – voted for by Orion

• (1 vote) I’m 40 yrs old.
  

  Where is the pin to burst the bubble woman. It is time. This is NOT love. This is an unhealthy relationship. There are other needs he is fulfilling within you and they have NOTHING to do with LOVE.
  
  Lil Bit, brings up a GREAT point, he could get 1/2 of everything if you marry him. For heavens sake DONT do that. Your daughter needs you! Focus on her.
  
  This guy is bad news and he is using vulnerable women to survive and get HIS needs met. Stop being one of these women.
  
  I know it is hard … get counseling … find out why you have insisted on allowing this leach into your life … you seem intent on allowing him to suck you dry. You are ASKING for it!!
  
  Sorry dear. Be strong, get your priorities straight. Love yourself and your daughter first and foremost.
  
  - written 10 months ago – voted for by Sandra67889

• (1 vote) HELP stopped Birth control in middle of pack!
  

  You body’s natural cycle is 28 days. The birth control pills inhibit your body’s natural cycle. By stopping you messed up the balance. If I were you I would start by counting 28 days from the beginning of the pill pack you stopped and then 28 days again … This is when you should expect your period.
  
  Your body is trying to get back to its natural hormonal rhythm …
  
  If you do not want to get pregnant, I would ABSTAIN from sexual contact until you have your next period.
  
  Don’t stop taking your pills mid cycle anymore. It obviously confuses the picture.
  Why did you stop?
  
  For now, let your body regulate itself again.
  
  
  TheIrisLad … I will check it out. Thank you.
  
  - written 10 months ago – voted for by Mr. TJ.

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• Hi.
  

  a can of pea brains … yea!
  - written 3 weeks ago

• i feel really depressed guilty and confused =|
  

  Many people get cremated, like.me … my dad was cremated also. We buried most of his ashes under an evergreen tree, we have a marker that says, “more than a father” because he was … he raised us alone, several years ago when being a single parent was not as common and certainly not a father as a single parent.
  
  We were able to place special tokens of love in the ground to be buried along side of him. I placed a statue of the madonna to be near, love and protect him always.
  
  I did not see his body, it was okay with me, I have seen enough dead bodies. I did not need to see his for ‘closure’. We will scatter his remaining ashes from a plane he loved dearly. My brother is restoring it, he is also a pilot … he will take the ashes up, fly upside down and pour them. Dad will be honored and proud.
  
  Always remember the greatness of your father. Each one of us has our unique greatness … it is the gift we give to each other … always remember your father’s unique greatness and smile. This will help warm your heart and let you feel the connection to him.
  
  Thinking of you Sweety.
  - written 3 weeks ago

• Slot Canyon Climb Pictures
  

  Dead horse canyon - yes. Grand Staircase - no. Gotta get out though, get caught up with work, BF (in California) and house responsibilities … it’s a tough life! lol. . . .
  - written 3 weeks, 1 day ago

• Slot Canyon Climb Pictures
  

  Mesa Verde? Yep, it’s beautiful down there in Indian Country. :)
  - written 3 weeks, 1 day ago

• Slot Canyon Climb Pictures
  

  That is terrible! I saw a snake up LCC a few months ago. I only go down south in the spring and fall. I want to drive to Zion National Park and camp soon.
  
  Have you been down to the North Rim of the Grand Canyon?
  - written 3 weeks, 1 day ago

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