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yup

i talked to her via msn yesterday (does that make me a coward? lol) and basicaly told her how i felt about the whole deal that i gave her my all and did all the big things and the little things and i didnt see how she could have needed more. i also said that if someone she met only 2 weeks ago was better than me doing all that then theres nothing more i could do and i have nothing more to offer her.

Shes coming round on saturday night to pick up her stuff that she left, no idea what im gonna say to her. I don’t really want to push her away but do i have a choice?

I dunno do i play the friend card and wait in the sidelines again or just call it a day once and for all…

I’m so lost right now.

@smicki you sum it up rather well, i dont know what the pro’s and cons are of moving on from her. Guess its something i need to think about.

@littlenick lol

@smicki - i don’t know, ive gone through the ignore route before and the before she left to go abroad we ended up going for coffee and meeting up.

I dont really want to let her go, i dont think i ever will. but i dont want to be strung along while being used at the same time. Its been 1&1/2 years since we broke up and since then weve been back and forth so many times it makes my head spin. I was her first long term relationship and i know when she walks in the room i brighten up.

the thing that makes it about 100x worse is the **** guy shes dating looks alot like me…

Thanks for the replies so far guys, i just needed to vent its been keeping me torn up for days now, I have talked to her breifly since i found out (found out via facebook on my main page she didnt even have the backbone to tell me herself.) I sent her a few texts about her at least having the balls to tell me, shes tried to talk to me since but i just cant bring myself to do that at the moment.

Update: Where to begin, She ended up coming back from her travels after everything fell apart and stayed with me for 3 weeks while she got on her feet. Its weird she says sometimes she really wants me then othertimes she dosent at all and dosent undertstand it.

She got her own flat about 2 weeks ago and already has a new “Guy” so i dunno what to do again. Remain friends and hope that things work out or just cut and run for good this time. I’m tired of not knowing whats going on, all i know is that i really do love this girl.

well im off i dont have time to give compliments to you right now, i know your prob down but youll grow out of it and when your older youll realise how silly it all was ;)

take care your in good hands here

mick/mickey means poking fun or jibes.

Saying stuff like

“me, (jokily) oh dad im so sorry to have hair but i understand if your jealous that i have some”

is taking the mickey and should expect a defensive response, ive taken the mick out of my dad for his shaven hair, he shaves it because he doesn’t like people knowing hes losing it and is going grey.

p.s it dosent matter where the hair was the fact of the matter is you girls get your hair everywhere!!!! EVERYWHERE!

[quote Droman52][quote Johno2090]My god you guys need to get out more, your all serious about this? from what shes said in this post then he is just joking and playing even if he does say it in a serious tone. It amazes me the state of the parenting these days kids don’t have a bloody clue and can walk all over their parents.Treat your dad how you want to be treated if you want him to be nice don’t take the mick out of his lack of hair, he might shave it like that but it doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt him when you say that.Grow up and like you for yourself, don’t put others down and they wont put you down either.[/quote]

What if he want joking? From what she said, he came out of nowhere and insulted her hair.[/quote]

he came out of nowhere are you blind? read this

Dad, “erlack. Thats revolting your hair gets everywhere.”
me, (jokily) oh dad im so sorry to have hair but i understand if your jealous that i have some
Dad, (seriously) well even without hair i have looks, i dunno what youd do if you didnt have hair

now reread:

Dad:My god your hair gets everywhere! (maybe its in his soup!)
Her:Oh dad, i have hair you dont, your just jealous i can put it in your soup!
Dad: Well at least i have my looks! You can have your hair!

How is that coming out of nowhere? its not its clearly a respones to Dolphinlurver10 being a kid and poking jibes at her parents and not liking what she gets back. I did it with my dad but fortunatly i knew how to take it.

My god you guys need to get out more, your all serious about this? from what shes said in this post then he is just joking and playing even if he does say it in a serious tone. It amazes me the state of the parenting these days kids don’t have a bloody clue and can walk all over their parents.

Treat your dad how you want to be treated if you want him to be nice don’t take the mick out of his lack of hair, he might shave it like that but it doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt him when you say that.

Grow up and like you for yourself, don’t put others down and they wont put you down either.

erm theres nothing wrong with what your dad said, if your gonna knock him about his lack of hair then hes more than within his rights to mock you about something that winds you up.

lol either, this post is 7 months old!

lol i don’t really think ill be able to move on, ive been seeing a few girls and i cant shake the waay i feel about her, i think maybe in a few years im going to go find her and sweep her offf her feet. in the mean time who knows ;)

Well Well, Thought i might give yall an update.

Went for coffee with “Her” the other night got on well everything seems to be going ok. She told me shes leaving to go to Thailand next month and wont be back for a few years which sucks since were getting on now.

oh and i ended up in bed with her last night after we spent the day picking out suits and stuff….

weird situation lol, i know im not doing myself any favors but i promised to keep you in the loop ;)