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mango
Fort Collins, CO, US
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mango's Top (3) Replies by other users' votes
- (2 votes) Is selfishness a virtue?
I don’t understand why charity would be the opposite of selfishness. I looked in a dictionary and found that charity is “benevolent goodwill toward or love of humanity.” Aren’t you a part of humanity? Besides, when I do an act of goodwill, I’m helping myself just as much as I’m helping someone else. If you actually love people, then doing good things for people will make you happy. Thus, it is selfish. If doing nice things for people doesn’t make you happy, then maybe you have the wrong motivations. Maybe you should focus on truly loving others, then acts of charity will be selfish because they make you feel so good.
I think that “morality, goodness, and uprightness” (as Felicity mentioned) are shown when helping others makes you truly happy… which cannot happen until you are happy within yourself. If you haven’t taken care of your own needs and feelings and you are making others happy purely because you want to think of yourself as a moral or upright person… well, that’s not moral, at all. When you love yourself, then you are free to love others. When you see your own beauty, then you may see the beauty in others. When you simply force yourself to do nice things for people and you see this as selfless or as a sacrifice… that’s when you have the wrong motivations. True morality is born of love, not from learning a set of rules.
I’m not saying that being selfish makes you moral… that’s not true at all. However, until you can love yourself - you can’t make deep connections with other people and it will be hard to show true charity. I just think that true morality involves loving yourself and other people. I think that too many people are afraid of seeming proud or arrogant, so they fail to ever love themselves. I think that leads to a lot of sadness and confusion.
- written 1 year, 10 months ago – voted for by Happiness Is a Warm , 'Bell - (1 vote) i feel so stupid… i feel used..
Wow, that’s a difficult situation. Sounds like it’s his move. He knows how you feel, so you just have to wait and see if he was sincere about wanting a relationship. If not, you can still make the best of the situation and move on. But if he doesn’t want a relationship, I wouldn’t give him any more of your time, since it sounds like you’re looking for someone who will respect you long-term - not just a casual thing.
Don’t feel too bad about it. What you choose to do with your body is up to you, not anyone else. No one has any right to judge.
- written 1 year, 10 months ago – voted for by chelsey010 - (1 vote) Puppy Probs.
It sounds like your puppy is old enough to get neutered. But I don’t know if that’s related to his itching problem. There are a few things that can make a dog itch like that. Really old dogs get circulation problems in their hind legs, which can cause a lot of itching - but your dog is just a puppy. Mange can cause a lot of itching and dry, scaly skin. He could also be allergic to his dog food. Finally, he might just have dry skin. In any case, if you take him to a vet to be neutered, the vet can probably find the source of the itching at the same time.
In the meantime, you can go to a pet store and ask for a hydrocortizone spray. This should give him some temporary relief.
- written 1 year, 10 months ago – voted for by najpaj97