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Lol. I will do.
I know. its eating me up already. I feel like a bad friend for liking the guy she likes
And if i learn that he likes me b4 i’d told her, i’d tell her how i feel.
If it was after i’d told her, i’d talk to her about the fact that we both like each other but then i know she’d prob say she was ok with it even if she wasnt cos she wouldnt want to stand in the way which i really dont want her to do. :|

I completely understand that. I’m putting her before him in the sense that I don’t want to tell her so she doesnt get hurt, but by not telling her I’m deciding to not do anything at all with him. I would always tell her b4 him but i suppose I’m risking my own happiness to protect her.

I understand how you feel. But you can’t help how you feel if you do like like him. Our feelings aren’t our decision to make. Its whether you want to listen to your head or your heart. However, your heart is beahving like this for a reason. :)

She knows nothing will happen but I dont want to hurt her and I dont want to spill my heart to him if he doesnt feel the same. I’m scared i’d loose the closeness with her as well because of it.

Just see where you’re feelings take you. Time might be the best answer for this one.

I want to but I don’t want to hurt my friend.

Life is what you make of it.

If you love something, let it go, if it comes back to you irs yours forever, if it doesnt, it was never yours to begin with.

Instead of waiting for a perfect moment, make the moment perfect.

Maybe you need to take a break or a holiday and get away from it all. It sounds like you need more excitement in your life.

When I was thirteen I weighed more than you (about 15 stone). I think one of the things you have to do is to understand why you eat more. Is it for emotional reasons, boredom etc… this will help you to control your food intake cos you know that for example when you get bored your gonna wanna eat so you can try and occupy yourself some other way. Also, I joined Weight Watchers and that really worked for me. I last three and a half stone in a year. Also, its more important to maintain youur weight if your not losing atm than gaining cos then you’ll have less to lose. Good Luck!

Oh and I’m scared that i’ll frighten him away or make things awkward if I just tell him how I feel and he doesn’t feel the same, especially cos we hardly know each other.

It just seems that he talks to everyone else but me. There’s the obvious “Hi, how are you?” but nothing more. I just really don’t know what is going on.

Choose who you love. You might resent picking the person you don’t love because you dont have feelings for them.

Its nice to think they can. It gives us hope.

Definately carry on with your medication and your counselling. I did and that helped me recover. Also, try doing lots of things that you enjoy. The only thing that you can really do is be patient. It took me three years to get over it.

DVD’s, console games like wii fit.