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I think you should just point blank ask him why he is no longer in love with you. It could be more than the talking, maybe you guys just drifted apart. I think it has to be something more because he has been with you for 15 years so he knows that you are a talker. Also, as much as you talk is as much as you should listen. He’s not a talker tell him that’s fine but let him know that you are there when he wants to talk ready to listen. Could he be seeing someone else? I would suggest marriage couseling if both of you want to save this marriage. In the end you cannot stop being you just to get him to love you because you won’t love yourself for being someone your not. A compromise where you both change a little but still be true to yourself is good. JMO. Good luck.

why did you guys break up in the first place?

glad to help. good luck

yeah i wish all the time, mostly to go back and make different choices because the ones i made lead me down the road i am now and this road sucks. my husband is a verbal abuser and treats me with little to no respect. the only choices i would never undo is the one that gave me my daughter.

i think that if it is an issue with you then you need to let your best friend know. my younger brother and his best friend were in a similar situation. when his best friend relationship ended she started looking towards my brother. they were friends way before she ever met my brothers best friend. the thing is that since his friend was dating someone else he didnt think much of it. they kissed; he felt guilty told his friend and his friend got upset the girl got upset that he told and non of them talked for a while. he talks to them now but only after apologizing and i dont think his best friend trust him the same. the girl and he were friends since elementary so eventually she came around and apologized to him for putting him in that situation. things changed and that is the bottom line. i think you need to have a good heart to heart with your friend and take it from there. as for the girl, i dont think she is worth either one of your time. JMO

soryy for the typo its “dump” not “dumo”

I dont think he is a best friend at all. he would have came to you before he started dating her letting you know he was interested or that she came to him (whatever the case may be. He is suppose to be your best friends which means “bros over hoes” (for girls it would be “hoes over bro” LOL). If she was really crazy about you she would have stayed away from your best friend. Its a two way street so dumo them both out of your lives. JMO.

i’m glad i helped. always remember things may not always be as bad as it seems. trust in yourself enough to know that. jmo

In the end it’s your decision just make sure that you think it through. JMO

Well sounds like you have half your answer. If you are worried about growing up too fast then you are not ready for this step. If he really cares about you then he will understand and still be there for you and try to meet you halfway. You are at an age where you are really starting to learn about who you are and who you are becoming, you have to define yourself by your thoughts and actions and not by whether this guy will leave you if you dont go live with him. If he loves you he will wait for you. JMO

If part of the problem is your parents I think you need to find a way to talk to them and tell them what is going on inside you. If part of the problem is high school in general I would suggest getting into something you enjoy and see if there is a club with other people that like the same thing. If its academic problems talk to a guidance couselor about what you can do because you are struggling. If you are the shy type that doesnt make friends easily then find other ways out like writing or painting or signing or yelling into a pillow - whatever makes you feel better. If you can only see your friend on the weekends don’t constantly look at the calenday counting the days until the weekend gets there instead do stuff that takes up your time that will give you more to talk about when the weekend is here. if both of you have cell phones - use text messaging or im if you both have access to computers. Just remember that this is you high school years and its a phase, make the best of it. You have to learn to let your feeling out because keeping them bottled up will only hurt you in the long run. JMO

Yo said you met him online…have you met in person? how much do you really know about him? these are questions you need to ask yourself first. Second, you are 18 years old girl so dont try to grow up too fast… believe me when I say things only get harder so enjoy your youth. Go to college, hang out, do everything you can before you truly commit to someone who may not agree with you having a level of freedom that does not include him. If he loves you he will want you to do all you can before settling down. You daid yourself in you letter that he said he found a nice place to start a family. Are you ready to start a family? Do you understand all that intales? These are things you need to think through and discuss with him as you dont get your youth back - you get it only once. JMO

Why do you think you have depression/ Is there any one you can talk to like a parent, teacher, or guidance couselor? Pills are not always the answer. Sometimes you just have to get to the root of what are causing these feelings of sadness and then deal with them. having someone to talk to is always a great help and please if you are at a point that you are considering suicide call the number the helpbot gave. You are too young and still so full of life to think in that way. Remember to take a deep breath and relax. Things are not always gonna seem this way. JMO

I have to agree with mental-s that everyone makes mistakes. What makes a perosn different then those jerks are if they are sincerely sorry and learn from their mistakes and not repeat them, but i also agree with sherryn that people are shaped by their relationships but not just in regards to the bad but to the good. I will tell you that to this day I will never trust a man 100% because of a past hurt but then again he never apologized or thought he did anything wrong so I understand where sherryn is coming from. The question is this : is this guy sincere in his words and does he really feel sorry?

Hey girl, the green pills are like sugar pills they have no hormones. It is there so that you don’t forget to take a pill everyday. You can go with out them but then you may forget when it time to start your new pack. It is best to start when you start your period but you can start anytime (most pills pack start on a sunday so if you cannot change the day it is easier to follow the pattern). Eventually your period should pretty much change to the pattern of the green pills but not all the time (I don’t). It’s no biggy though its easier to calculate when it’s coming. JMO