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I would venture to guess that he was either hoping you wouldn’t notice him being ‘freaked out’ or hoping you wouldn’t notice him staring at you.

[quote Anonymous]i don’t mind really but it would devastate my family…….there are a bunch of pastors and churchy people in my family and they would all be seriously distraught. i don’t know[/quote]

Atheism is not the hallmark of his character. And it shouldn’t be a deal-breaker either. As long as you’re willing to look past this part of his life that cannot harm you unless you allow it and try to see him as a human being who possesses the fundamental qualities that only a human could possess, you should have no problem accepting him into your life. Would it devastate your family? Perhaps it would. But are you going to forever be bound by your family’s prejudices and intolerance that you cannot ever make a decision without worrying about how its outcome will affect your family? You need to start making decisions based on what you feel is right and your level of tolerance, and not your family’s. Yes, you might pay a price for it by telling your family. They may not like it. But they don’t have to. They may forbid you to ever see this guy again. But you’re free to choose whomever you wish to see. They may even try to tell you how “ungodly” your decision is to be with this guy. But God doesn’t wish for any person to show intolerance. In the end, given this particular situation, you’re not looking to gain approval from those whose opinions do not necessarily matter. This is *your* decision and it will only affect *your* life. So I ask you to think very carefully about this before going any further.

Even if you’re serious, one does not go hunting for demons. Have you ever seen a demon?

I don’t think you’re going to get any serious answers because, quite frankly, there are real problems in the physical world that merit more serious attention.

I think it’s safe to say that your friend is feeling some degree of jealousy and is trying to give you a hint that she is hurt by the news - hence the reason she abruptly signs off without saying good night.

I really don’t understand why she is acting this way if she has no inclination to be more than a friend with you (inferred from your statement that you had feelings for her but she ended things).

If she cannot continue to be your friend knowing that there is another girl in your life then her friendship was probably never worth it, in my opinion.

Perhaps it just needs a good old-fashioned stiff kick. That usually does the trick.

Thanks for the invite. It’s nice to see an uplifting post every once in a while.

Those deserts look delicious.

Happy Birthday. :)

If you’re giving his girlfriend a reason to suspect you’re doing something with her boyfriend that you shouldn’t be doing, then your fear is quite natural and even well-deserved. I think you need to put yourself in his girlfriend’s shoes for a moment. How would you react if you were in a happy relationship and some other girl comes along and starts making advances to your boyfriend? Would you not want to instill fear in this other girl - whether accidentally or by design - so that she might stop trying to steal your boyfriend?

You know what you’re doing is wrong, no matter how much you attempt to rationalize it by blaming the guy for liking you too or flirting with you more. And because you know that it’s wrong, you will naturally feel scared of the person in this picture whom you are doing wrong - his girlfriend.

I wish I had time to watch the Olympics. But funnily enough, I have time to spend on here.

[quote ☠Scrapple☠]You said you were 12, being 12 gets you banned[/quote]

What if you act like a 12-year-old? Is that still grounds banishment?

There is a lady at my workplace who will utter positive affirmations almost every morning when she first comes in. Although the tone in which she is uttering the positive affirmations seem to be lacking enthusiasm, I think she somehow feels more motivated to work after she’s finished. I have never tried positive affirmations, but I guess if they can work for my co-worker, as well as many others, perhaps they might be able to work for you.

You’re welcome, verge. :)

Indeed, I think there should be a class set up for specifically teaching students better study/learning habits and techniques.

Thanks for the replies.

The simple answer is you will have to trust him. There’s really nothing you can do to stop him from meeting another girl - just like he cannot stop you from meeting another guy. A long distance relationship requires a great deal of work and a strong commitment from both individuals in order for it to have success. But even then, it is still lacking the basic elements of a traditional relationship. The truth is there are too many things that can cause a long distance relationship to unravel, which is why the success rate is very low. I know that’s not what you wanted to hear, but I figured you would appreciate the unpleasant truth over a comforting lie.