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• I need to get someone in my family a housewarming gift. posted (3 weeks, 5 days) ago
  Everyone is going to be giving such typical things though, and I want mine to be unique and special …

• Lets go on a virtual help.com holiday. posted (1 month, 1 week) ago
  Mondays are just so depressing. Where shall we go? I wouldn’t mind the Bahamas!…

• For all you guys who own a camera, or know a bit about camers. posted (1 month, 4 weeks) ago
  I just made a music video using an incredibly good camera worth a few thousand dollars which Canon l…

• I have a friend who I love more than anything. posted (2 months, 4 weeks) ago
  I see him as a brother, as a best friend, as pretty much everything. I’d trust him with my li…

• Is anyone here a teacher for young children, or does anyone here know or have a child who just turned nine? posted (3 months) ago
  I have a question about reading abilities for children of that age and would love some help if poss…

• I think everyone has that one first love where they realised what love actually was, or else they thought they did, and where their world revolved around posted (3 months, 1 week) ago
  think everyone has that one first love where they realised what love actually was, or else they tho…

• Throughout our life, we are forced to conform to societal standards, rules and etiquette. posted (3 months, 3 weeks) ago
  As we grow up, everything that is so great about being a child is forced out of us, so that we can …

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Cecilia's Top (5) Replies by other users' votes

• (1 vote) I am in so much pain.
  

  It’s fairly ok now. I tried calling my doctor, but it gave me another number to call which directed me to calling an ambulance, which I didn’t need. So we rang the hospital to see if they new a doctor on call and they said to just come in. They did a bunch of tests and in the end just gave me 5 different antibiotics. Apparently my white blood cell count was high which shows I am fighting an infection. And they gave me something for the pain. I have another scan to morrow to check something, but I feel 90% better. I’m just hoping I don’t get worse again. Thanks for all your help guys!
  
  - written 8 months, 3 weeks ago – voted for by Michael Leibman

• (1 vote) any atheists on here?
  

  You know what Dani, I left help.com a while back to avoid idiots and twats like you who literally must have zero brains. You randomly attack people for no reason, are rude, yet pretend to have a sense of morals by telling others they are in fact the rude ones. And you are so **** one minded about stuff. Not ONCE have I insulted people who don’t believe in God. Yet you call people who do delusional. That is rude, wrong, and down right RIDICULOUS. You are just pathetic. I will leave you to ‘help’ the poster. If you call that help though, I just feel sorry for you.
  
  - written 10 months, 2 weeks ago – voted for by Anubis

• (1 vote) -
  

  And don’t think I am condoning your plan by what I just said. I would never want you to kill yourself, even if it’s way into the future. Personally, it would haunt me that one day you might, and that I was no help. But I gather you couldn’t care less about that from what you said above. But Fourthings was right. If we do go on living, it is because of other people, and we can’t just kill ourselves. It just isn’t right. For one thing, Livvi would be so upset it would break her heart. Same with your parents, even if you don’t get on right now. There is an endless LIST of people who would be so upset and who’s lives would be ruined as they would a) miss you and b) feel guilty that they didn’t and couldn’t help.
  
  You know what, life can be SHI.T. It really can. It’s not just you. There are plenty of people out there who go through hell and back. Illness, depression, death, you name it. But to give up on life because of that is wrong. You’re letting it win; you’re letting it defeat you. And though your plan above is probably all about getting the upperhand on life and feeling more in control and hence the whole ’screw everyone else and the world’ attitude, that is actually putting you totally out of control and letting everything else get you down and have the upper hand.
  
  I don’t know if that makes sense. Either way, why don’t you drop that act and actually ask for help as to how you can improve your life and feel better and reach your goals? We here all care about you. I have barely even spoken to you before but I care. I took a whole hour out of my day to read your post and fourthings massive reply (and obviously the smaller ones). He clearly cares. As does everyone else.
  
  The way I see it, you have two options.
  
  1) Continue on with your ’screw the world’ plan, not listen to anyone, not obey anyone, and in doing so do nothing you want to do as it will inadvertently be obeying someone. You will end up bitter and resentful and you just won’t enjoy lif
  
  2) You can actually ask us for help, ask your family, ask Livvie, ask friends, or even just ask the professionals who are in your life right now. You can actually set about making a difference to your life, and slowly getting step by step closer to what you really want and what you want to aim for and achieve. You can let in all the good things in this world that you are currently pushing away. And BELIEVE me, they are there, even if you have to look for them they are there.
  
  
  I really don’t know if this helps….but in my head I have a lot I want to say, and actually saying it is hard. Don’t take offense by anything I say, just try to understand what I actually mean!!!
  
  - written 12 months ago – voted for by Sans

• (1 vote) i slept with my sister and now im scared she’s pregnant!
  

  My mum is dead. And you weren’t even born when she was alive. So don’t dare make jokes like that
  
  - written 1 year ago – voted for by ishaggedmysiste

• (1 vote) Anybody know anything about macs?
  

  I worked in a technology shop for a bit which specialised in reparairing laptops and stuff. They had a special lab with technicians and I was lucky enough to occasionally work with them and learn stuff from them. That is definitely very odd for a new laptop. From what I gather, there is a possibility of two problems. As I am not an expert on this, I can’t remember the exact names, but one is called the interter I think, and is a wire or something which connects the screen to the laptop, and that could possibly be loose, or else the other is a more serious problem which does require a new screen. This is only me trying to remember similiar problems from when I worked in the laptop lab though.
  
  I am a mac geek and I have never heard of that on a mac before. Weird. But as others say, go to a local computer store. Not a big store, or a big name one. They hire people who don’t have a clue, and who aren’t willing to really help, and they will just send it out to mac and you may get it back within a year. Go to a very small technology shop and they will only be too delighted to help and will probably fix it for you very cheaply or send it out under the guarantee!
  
  - written 1 year, 2 months ago – voted for by Miss Minnie

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• Lets go on a virtual help.com holiday.
  

  Ok, cool. We’ll need those. Don’t forget the swimming togs. Tell me, do you agree with the Bahamas being an agreeable location? Or any other suggestions?
  - written 1 month, 1 week ago

• just need a moment to vent - my brother has a rare
  

  I’ll say a prayer for you guys. as that is all I can do to help. I can also listen. If you ever want to vent, just shout me. I can’t begin to imagine what it is like for you, and I wouldn’t even want to. I just hope that you get the support you need, and that your brother suffers as little as possible. My thoughts go out to you.
  - written 1 month, 1 week ago

• Resolved.
  

  Hey Fourthings. You probably don’t need any advice right now. But the one thing I thought the second I read your post was ‘do not decide your future on your girlfriend’. No one should ever do that. I don’t care how much in love you are right now, that can change in a split second. If you are meant to be together, fate will make it happen. And you can call that cheesy, but I don’t even mean it in that way. The fact of the matter is, if you both want to be together, you will make it happen no matter what. If you ‘lose’ your girlfriend, which you are worried about, then it isn’t meant to be. If it was, she could easily wait out the long distance knowing that you are fulfilling your life dream. I know that you would do the same for her. If she was to break up with you for trying to achieve your life dream, or you were to break up with her for that reason, then it clearly wouldn’t be a relationship that would have lasted anyway.
  
  You probably don’t need that advice now. But make this decision based on what your heart tells you, and don’t factor in your girlfriend or your parents if you can. If your parents are offering you the money, you may have to see it as a lucky break and forget what effect it will have on them, as hard as that is. They wouldn’t offer it unless they really wanted to see you benefit from it, and maybe that to them is worth more than anything else they could buy with the money. (or maybe not, I am really just guessing here)
  - written 2 months ago

• I have a friend who I love more than anything.
  

  I don’t know why it confuses me so much either Fourthings!!! Hah hah, I actually don’t. I am such a girl at times, which is annoying cus I really don’t get girls. I can usually understand guys much better as I mainly hang out with guys.
  
  You know what, you are right though. I do love him. It took you being stubborn to make me admit that. I guess I didn’t WANT to love him, and hence firmly convinced myself that I didn’t, yet still had all the stress that goes with loving someone and not having them love you back. I kept telling myself that I couldn’t love him as he was like a brother, but as you said, he isn’t. Hence there I can love him. *sigh*
  
  Thanks for the advice Fourthings. I forgot how insightful you are
  - written 2 months, 3 weeks ago

• I have a friend who I love more than anything.
  

  ******** Fourthings. ********. I am now just SO confused. I went out last night with a good friend who I never put much effort into keeping up. I figured I’d distract myself by meeting up with different people. But I ended up drinking, and she said ‘why is your friend _______ not here? Let’s invite him.’ Long story short, she invited him, and he asked to speak to me before saying yes, and asked if I wanted him to be there. My heart went out to him because he sounded so sad. And of course I wanted him there, that wasn’t the point of the argument/conversation we had had.
  But I spent the whole night and today while I was with him worrying that I did like him but I didn’t know it. And then thinking I couldn’t like him because I didn’t know it and that was stupid. But then thinking about what you said. And going around in circles in my head. You have just confused me even more!!!!!!! I think I really just need to go back to my plan of giving him some space, and me.
  - written 2 months, 4 weeks ago

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