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I have missed you terribly my fuzzy friend. I too made myself disappear, but not for tax reasons. Please contact me somehow… this is the first time in over a year that I have checked for you here, and I have not checked my yahoo account either, but I will if I know you’ll be callin lad… I was so worried about you. Glad to know that you were just hidin from the tax man. What ever happened with the mysterious Katriana? I hope you and your boys are well. xoxoxo S

Haha you gave me a good laugh that I needed. Yeah, life has plenty of bumps along the way, no doubt. As I told someone last night, so long as you keep getting back up you’re winning the battle.

This place went weird over the last year. I mean it was already weird but just when you thought the management couldn’t be more apathetic, CNET sold Help to CBS who seem to be intent on finding the most incompetent or lazy admins they can. Almost everything is broken, the avatars, tags, and they took away the auto scroll function on the posts (one of the few things was good here) supposedly to speed up the site.

Anyway several people have made spin-off sites. The chat crowd from here found a new home at Fourthings’ site called zomgsrsly.com. Anubis and I started one called Luminosity. It’s at http://luminosity.ning.com if you want to join. It hasn’t got as much action as here, but few if any trolls and there’s lots of the old regulars there.

Anyway, see ya here or there. You should post about your year in self-imposed exile if you haven’t already.

I tried to spend a year dead. For tax purposes. Nowhere is safe from the IRS, though.
Things got real sh*tty in my life and I kinda dropped out of everything for a while. Until I remembered that life is what you make it, and that I didn’t have to brave the world to talk to people, if’n I didn’t wanna.
And I kinda missed this place.
I trust you’ve been making the kids behave in my extended absence.

Hey paranoiaman, welcome back! Where did you go?

hullo? any fury body there?

Where you iz? I am checking on you… not gonna even pretend to hide it… miss you. Think of you often…

Where you iz? I am checking on you… not gonna even pretend to hide it… miss you. Think of you often…

Where you iz? I am checking on you… not gonna even pretend to hide it… miss you. Think of you often…

Dude, you’ve been gone all summer. Where have you been?

No worries, I am even worse at spelling and grammer, all that Jazz :)
knew what you meant though..

Oh that is fabtastic news :D
Glad your feeling better!

See you soon :)

shit did it again… not used to this system once again: So glad the flutter exists regardless of how faint at times. Look forward to the communication. ***happy happy joy joy*** seeing you has made my week, or more! *GARGANTUOUS HUGS*

I read your shout now, no need to apologize to me, I am just so so glad to have connected with you. I am glad to hear you’re in a good place, now kindly remove the red X from your mongrel face, it offends! I know you will write when you have more time, just like to let you know that you matter to me in a real way, which you should already know. :-)
I am at work as well, not doing what I am paid to do, but procrastinating well.
love,
S

I see you:)

shit I shouted myself! -very inefficient of me: Can it be? Is it? Is it you? Is this the first time you have been here in a while? THe only times I come here I send you a shout, it is not very often for me either, but after getting your email and writing you back I have been looking for you…. I haven’t even read your shout yet, I will respond to that as soon as I do.

shit I shouted myself! -very inefficient of me: Can it be? Is it? Is it you? Is this the first time you have been here in a while? THe only times I come here I send you a shout, it is not very often for me either, but after getting your email and writing you back I have been looking for you…. I haven’t even read your shout yet, I will respond to that as soon as I do.

I will NOT give up on you! I miss you.

hello? hello in there?

Brian… Check your email.

are you okay?

Noticed your pic and then saw you have changed your profile.
Whats wrong?
I think you are a wonderful person, you always manage to make me smile.
I hope there is something I can help with.

Heyo, now I’m concerned. >_

why are you crossed out :o

i did the balloons like the movie for my little girl’s birthday this past weekend …but really i think i did it for myself :]

and i hope he does, too. your guess is as good as mine :]

precisely why i won’t leave my husband. all my hard work for the next woman to enjoy? never.

based on your reply, the woman in your life is very fortunate indeed.

Heyo B,
I thought if I got up early enough I might catch you… no luck. I couldn’t sleep… I had 2 glasses of wine at dinner, and a swig of Sake… but when I drink these days I’m up to pee at 2 am and then little luck falling back to sleep… Especially when I am meeting a trainer at the gym at 6 am…. So after I got all of my stuff organized and did several loads of laundry I thought I’d stop by to see you. I have been thinking about you and wondering how you are… How are you my friend? How are things with the lovely Miss K? And the boys? and the sofa? and of course the ex?
I miss you, but you are often in my thoughts. I send you thoughts of peace every chance I get. :-)
Love, S

Happy monday lovely :)

missing you B

Hehe. Thats so lovely to hear. It sounds like your really coping well and getting on with life :)

I’m not too bad. The moods are still there…but like i was talking about in my post, i’m really happy with things even though there are times i want to strangle him. Had a lovely morning with him before work, it was funny and a laugh so that was nice :)

Hello my hairy little friend, how be the? xx

you seen that midnight oil filmclip, power & the passion? it’s quite frightening,and not just because of peter garrett’s dancing.

you have not yet failed to make my day. thank you for your reply to my am/aus/etc post. if you do not do so already, you should write speeches for people, or for yourself, and get up and say them…

i think my whole lifestyle just changed quite dramatically overnight… feels good to get angry.. but people just don’t care about this stuff. i think i shall have to be more discreet in future, don’t want to end up arguing too much with (dare say I? dare say I? I DARE!!) idiots.

it is comforting to know that there are still people in the world who can read the writing on the wall. i take comfort from the fact that even though i may face some serious apathy, i am not alone.

You are right, I guess I just lost my moral compass for a while, but my conscience has made me take a look at myself, hence the apology. I did not like what I had become, one of them. So I need to take a step back and regain myself. The apology was the first step in that. I like to think that when I am wrong, I say I am wrong.

However, I feel I was not wrong in defending my friends, or exposing what was going on, just in how I went about it. I sank to a level I did not like. So a bit of public humiliation will do me good. A bit of humility does us all good at times.

Thank you, that meant a lot.

Hi. There is a saying - if you can’t beat them join them. But that is not an option, so… I don’t know, I really don’t.

I thought of you this morning as soon as I woke up, yes I was still in bed, barely awake thinking of you! I listen to NPR (National Public Radio) and heard that Trump the Chump was trying to steal Scottland’s coastline for a golf course, heard he wasn’t gonna give up cuz his mum was from there, and I thought…”no wonder the rest of the world hates us…. when they think american they think of the Donald” -I suddenly feel nauseous, but I swear I had NOTHING to do with the location of my birth, it just happened….
LOVE.
=D

gotta get my peachy rear up to the shops… buy some veg for stirfry…. oooooohhhhh yeah… i shall return… interfrastically.

nly fw vwls… ty (french poronunciation of ‘y’) mny vwls z bd fr th bwls.

yes, i felt the need to update my persona somewhat… i think i’m over big weird earlobe and i need to go back to exploding amnesia. when i grow up i’m going to have SOOO MUCH AMNESIA!

god i’m starving. a big ole famine face, me.

you are altogether too witty a man.. you sahould watch yourself…

you have msn? i only just put it on, it’s a crock, but my cuz is in ireland and… eh, gyod, who CARES?!?!?!?

You made me smile again! I love that about you. =D

LMAO you make me laugh :D
And thank you for the complimants too :P

I like you!
You seem very funny and nice :)
Just thought I would let you know.

thank you very much, people often tell me i age nicely.

LOL… have a nice day!! :)

“Does your argument apply if a girl is raped, but doesn’t call out kicking and screaming and only reports it after the fact?”

Not at all… rape is an altogether different issue!!
But just touching someone you were kissing and cuddling with all night is not anything like “rape”…

OK… well, nice arguing with you!! Catch you next time!!! :)

My husband sometimes kisses me or touches me to wake me up in the mornings too… is that assault, because I didn’t say it was OK and I was in fact sleeping?? Nevermind that we were kissing and cuddling before we went to sleep… that doesn’t make it OK, right?? Having already accepted this touching earlier doesn’t really equal consent to him doing it again, right???

I was throwing it back at you, I had no intention of “reporting” you… I’m OK having a good argument and I can accept people have different opinions. It’s obvious the guy was feeling incredibly guilty over nothing and like he needs mental help. IMO, maybe that girl does who was all over him that night, slept next to him, wanted to “cuddle” with him, and now acts all upset that he touched her… maybe SHE needs mental help!! … and he may quit his job over this, he’s so upset… and she’s a huge hypocrite after the fact!!! Yeah, he feels like a rapist now!! He did nothing abnormal. IF the woman was asleep, how did she know what happened? How does she complain now, but didn’t stop him then? Did YOU ever touch a person who slept next to you while they slept?? Do you think anyone ever has? Imagine being drunk, camping out and sleeping next to someone you were making out with all night…
As a woman, I would know full well the chance I was taking sleeping next to a man in a tent… uh… especially one I was kissing all night, who was drunk, and who I said I wanted to cuddle with all night!! This was not “normal guy friends” here…

Report me for “slander”, I believe you called it. Have I in any of my replies called him a rapist? I pointed out that I was not labelling him such. The young man in question feels bad, rightly so. Before he had revealed that there had been petting (not sexual contact) between them on that evening you were already telling him he had done nothing wrong, she had lead him on, as it were. No matter what had happened beforehand, he made a move on a woman he believed to be ASLEEP. Hello….sexual assault.

Hopefully, the “poor guy” wont be so f*****g stupid again. And I note that as a woman, that makes you ideally placed for insight into what “any normal guy would do”.
Good luck, falling asleep near any of your “normal” guy friends.

And believe me, if I’m spoiling for a fight, there will be no dubiety about it.

Goodbye.