theresape's shout trail with ~Shie~ - Help.com

you are welcome.. and i know.. i wish i could help fix her wings too..

Thanks for sending me the information about Broken Wings. What a relief! I just want to see her move from a life of suffering to a life of joy. Wish there were ways we could turn all this positive love and concern into new wings for her!

Thanks for sending me the information about Broken Wings. What a relief! I just want to see her move from a life of suffering to a life of joy. Wish there were ways we could turn all this positive love and concern into new wings for her!

Yeah, she’s covered–in a shirt two sizes too small and enough make-up to paint a Las Vegas chorus line. I realize some people consider such outfits “acceptable” for 13-year-olds. I also realize high school kids in TV shows and movies are expected to have sex. But I believe that out of such standards come teen pregnancies, cycles of poverty, abusive relationships, unfulfilled lives, and broken hearts. I would have thought you would understand that. When adults conspire to look the other way in the face of such premature hypersexualized behavior, kids suffer. I don’t care what people do with their bodies at age 30, but I for one would like to see children protected and nurtured, not decked out like little nymphets, to use Nabokov’s term. Apparently her mother agrees, since she’s trying to get her to church. Fortunately, her mother is one adult who is not turning a blind eye. I am another.

totally understood… and thank you for explaining… so yes.. i agree with you… however.. i guess i have a hard time forgiving and letting go myself… as i have forgiven and forgotten in life.. only to be done wrong again… so now.. i make statements.. either verbally or physically such as ignoring a person.. when i have had enough because of wanting to get the point across..

I wasn’t sniping at you, L’il Bit … sometimes a person NEEDS an assuring pat on the back. What I was trying to do was to get hotdog to put this all into perspective and put it behind him. I tried first with humor (you probably read that early in the thread), then with stronger words. I absolutely agree that he needed to communicate what he was feeling, but you’ve got to learn to express yourself and then let SOME things slide if you are going ot maintain a relationship. My husband and I have been married (sometimes happily, sometimes rockily) for 40 years, which sure as heck would not and could not be the case if we held any and every thoughtless statement or action against each other. You’ve just got to let some things go, is my thought. But I spoke too harshy, I know–I hope my apology will ease the sting a little. Hotdog seems like a nice fellow–he just needs to lighten up a bit for his own sake. Wish he could adopt some humor. Me, I’m always willing to admit when I’m wrong and to laught at myself when I’ve been a silly arse. Not laughing about hurting his feelings, though.