theresape's shout trail with bookworm16 - Help.com

Thanks, but it was a pretty stupid and pointless post. I just want someone to force me to change, who will push me to get there if they need to. I’m so reluctant to change that I need someone to help me.

Bookworm, honey, I don’t think your post about love was “stupid” at all. I thought about it all night, and also thought about my response to it. The yearning for real love is universal and understandable and valid. What is “stupid” is the song, which puts too many demands on love. What you say in one of your later messages–that you want someone who will love you and be there for you no matter what–is very reasonable. What the song spells out is the expectation that your lover will make you whole, will cure all ills, will make you “fly,” will restore your faith when it is wavering, etc. No one can do all that except God, if you believe in God. (I’m not sure what I believe about God). Look for a real love, Bookworm. Not some godly creature who will come riding in on a white horse and make everything perfect, but just some well-meaning and decent human being who cares about you and will do his best to be there for you. That’s what you want. Celine Dion is a mirage; she’s all make-up and soft-lighting and special effects; the kind of all-healing love she sings about is a mirage, too. You’ll find love–REAL love, not smoke-and-mirrors love. But don’t ever think that your yearnings are stupid.

oh ok
thanks for telling me!
x

I think maybe touching is part of the therapy for autism–something parents are taught to do. I’m not sure, though.

I hope your Easter was happy, too! I love your nom.

Happy easter!
:D
xxxxx

I just figured out about shouts. Hey back!

hi
thanks for your help
do you have msn so we can talk some more?