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Thanks for nipping that one in the bud. You were right it was 2 different people. - You make this job so much easier Theresa - cheers Marie

Thanks, but it was a pretty stupid and pointless post. I just want someone to force me to change, who will push me to get there if they need to. I’m so reluctant to change that I need someone to help me.

:-)

theresape I really like your posts and replies. I added you to my friends’ list. Very insightful thoughts!

Words are never wasted except on the young.

Oh my god I think I love you….Only joking {=0). On the same wave length or what. Nice to see you.

Sorry for confusing you. There is someone on another site called tahrasep, I just wanted to know if you were the same person. I am usually lazy when writing, and expect people to understand me the first time, which they never do, so I have to explain anyway…

I rarely have a reasoning behind my nicknames. One of my friends uses plox a lot when she chats, I just picked up on it at that time. You’re probably not interested, but it’s some kind of nerdy internet lingo for please.

theresape = tahrasep?

It is an American cosmetics company. www.stilacosmetics.com
And this is what I just learned: “The name Stila (pronounced STEE-la) was derived from the Italian word “stilare,” which can mean “to pen”. Stila’s official website is quoted as saying that they chose that name because they believe every woman’s makeup should be as individual as her own signature.”
Kind of fits in with the quill in your avatar! Funny!

my avatar is a “Stila” girl. Stila is a brand of cosmetics…one of my favorites and they always have these vintage-y looking girls in their advertisements and I just think they’re really cute!

hey I’m just curious…I can’t tell what your avatar is. is it a quill?

LOL–I’m not sure I have a higher IQ than every other poster, but sometimes I AM amazed by how low they can go. This guy yesterday was a doozy. I love to talk to you because YOU know what I am talking about, and SOMEtimes you even agree with me. ; - ) Except, as I said before, you’re nicer–or, well, not quite as blunt. “Experience” is a byproduct of age and of having lived, ahhh, vigorously, but what I really hope I bring to this forum is a lot of common sense, expressed with compassion but with no coddling. Now, the truth—and I’m sure you know this—is that it is far, far easier to see the situation clearly when you are not in it, and it’s far easier to preach common sense than it is to practice it. So I know all the pitfalls because I have fallen into them–LOL! No guarantee that I won’t fall into more of them, either, mas1s! Even at 61, I have not fully developed all my risk-version tools!

Actually the IQ bit was unfair - life experience would be more apt

Glad to see you - dont know what it is about you - but my world is a bit warmer and safer when you are around. I love this time of day on Help - you absolutely know that you have a higher IQ than every poster lol - they are so sweet and just starting out in life - I truly enjoy talking to them

My goodness - I just wished for you - and you appeared. That is spooky - Mas

I see your point there. It’s absolutely not OK. I could only understand under an extreme circumstance (like a cheating spouse) that a person might react that way, but nobody should go around slapping other people.

Oh, I’m so sorry this whole thing was so stressful for you! I must try to stop discussing that matter anymore!!!

Yeah, it’s very addicting!! :) I hope it wasn’t all the stress over our “argument”!! I’m sorry if I added to the stress here… but anyway, back to helping folks, right?! :)

Hi Cattail–I hope you’re having a good weekend, too. After all the stress of the past couple of days, I vowed I would not even LOOK at this site over the weekend. But I couldn’t resist–just addicted, I guess! (You could call it The Thinking Woman’s Jerry Springer Show—lol!) Theresa

Peace! :) Thanks for sharing your experience. I hope you have a nice weekend! I do respect your point of view and appreciate all the advice you offer on help.com!!

you are welcome.. and i know.. i wish i could help fix her wings too..

i really appreciate everything and i hope all is well with your son.. Atleast i know i’m not in this boat alone.. But we talked it over and things are going great now and i feel alot better about things.. thinks for opening my eyes..

Thanks for your shout. I hope my advice really did help. I didn’t say very much! My 25-year-old son was recently in the same position. He was with a WONDERFUL and very beautiful young woman whom everyone loves, including him. But something didn’t feel right. He COULD have just kept following along the expected path; they might have married, they might have had kids, they might have lived happily ever after. It totally broke her heart AND mine when he decided to break free. But I admire him for taking that honest step, which I think required a lot of courage. Who knows? Maybe it was the right woman, wrong time; maybe he’s just not ready for a til-death-do-us-part sort of relationship. It was only recently that this happened, so I can’t tell you the long-range outcome. I only know that faking your way into a marriage is not honest and fair. So I congratulate you on working this through now, instead of just taking the path of least resistance. I wish you the very best, whatever decision you make.

thinks for the advice it really helps out a lot..

Ha - you should laugh at this - I had one Jewish and one Catholic grandmother - but no - I also had one Protestant and one Church of Scotland Grandfather. I read a lot about Moly Goldberg when I went to stay with my Aunt Jean - she was a fan. She could recite the scripts like they were yesterday. Do I have an insight - probably - but that’s a question you never expect to be asked of you in a lifetime lol. I can give you my view from across the Pond but it would only be the impact of what I read and actually admired the woman. Regards Mas

Girl called goddess-amazin looking for a few pointers on c-sections and epidurals. She has a post - oh god I’ll have to get the link I’m uselss - bet you I shout myself with this lol Hello and Regards Mas

Glad you are both happy with the outcome of this little misunderstanding. =) Feel free to contact me with any other problems.

i didnt mean to ome off as a jerk with the whole bubble boy thing lol

Sorry, I don’t now know. Why don’t you post that as a question to the whole audience?

I thank you for removing that reply. It makes me more comfortable, because the previous solution left his attack on me unanswered. I hope that child gets herself straightened out. I am not at all straight-laced about adult sexuality—I’m a flaming liberal onthat subject—but when I see a child whom I believe to be in danger I DO turn into Supermama. Again, my appreciation for what I feel is a more equitable resolution.

Emotive Hard-core, it was a genere of music, most commonly called “emo” today. The hardcore part was used because they were songs about deep emotions where the singers would yell loudly, kind of like metal music. The minimum age is 13. I did remove his one reply as to prevent any arguments. Had I not known about the emo thing I would have assumed what you did about her name being about porn. Us americans have some weird terms.

Actually, he did attack me, calling me “harsh” and “judgmental,” whereas I merely ASKED him what his interest in this child was. Two negative adjectives vs. a question. It seems to me that he’s the aggressor. I’m content to let it go–we don’t need to debate who said what to whom. I do wonder, however, where you think the name “hard-core,” for a music genre, derives. I also wonder whether you looked at this child’s photograph before concluding that she was naming herself after a music genre. Finally, I am wondering whether there is a minimum age for participation on help.com, and whether a 13-year-old (however sexually precocious) should be exposed to some of the things one reads on here.

The user is not associating herself with hard-core pornography. She is associating with a type of music genere. It’s an american thing which is why I understand why you would think that. Also, he was not saying she should use that name, but it is her right to do so. He may have came off as attacking you but I believe he just wanted you word your opinion in a less aggressive way. Some people on here leave when there is a reply to them that seems aggressive and he(while he may agree or disagree with what you said) didn’t want her to leave because of a misunderstanding about what her name means.

Do not imply that users are interested in underage children. Would fall under attacking other users. As for the “x’s” it is a new thing that came along with either the metal or “emo” scene. It doesn’t mean pornography but was used to reference what “group” she was a part of. Emo stands or stood for emotive hardcore, so the x’s were just adopted into users names. To them it is the equivalent of adding “-”’s to the beginning and end of your name.
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Wow You are good

i lik da wa u spll i duz

Theresa I think it was one of those days - You did your best but my goodness was it in the face of adversity or what. I thought that poster would have mugged you if she could have reached through the screen lol. Stick to your guns. I’ve never seen you give bad advice and you are one of the people on here who writes in English - it’s refreshing. Anyway off to bed in a little bit I’m all typed out. speak soon Marie

Thanks. I called you Mary Swanns in the story. If you want to tell me your real name, I’ll use that; I’d prefer the real name, really, but you might not want to say it here. Again, my appreciation.

The article is for a dean’s newsletter at the Boston University School of Public Health, and it’s a feature about a researcher who studies childbirth trends.

Sorry shouted myself - again
Lol yes I have total recall - my first sight when I opened my eyes was the stitches - I assumed it was normal. He had 7 very expertly done (by a plastic surgeon thank god) stitches. Remember I didnt see him for 24 hours after birth - they do things differently in Spain. He has a little line of hair that never grew and horror of horrors I didnt tell him but when we were out today he has 3 grey hairs growing from that exact spot - at 15. Got to be something to do with the damage the cut made as he has chestnut brown thick hair everywhere else on his head

all those money asking post’s are all the same it’s always 10,000 5,000, or 500

I made a concious decision this year to eradicate all drunks from my life, unfortunately one of them has now given up drinking (well fortunately really) and dont remember the chaos and havoc they caused me. I’m not bitter (ha ha) I wont cast it all back up ever (maybe). Drunks are gods way of letting you know how lucky you are as they wear their illness on the outside

I just read your shout. It’s funny how 2 people can readthe same thing and read something completely different. I read “lousey $895 as in, it’s only this much, but I still cannot afford it. And you read ,”it’s $895 and my stinkin landlord won’t get off my back”.
That is a great lesson for me to remember I read things and they are colored by my experience.

I thought of another motive of mine. I’m not sure if you share it, but I know I’ve done this.
Sometimes my anger here is misplaced. I’ll read a post and it is similar to someone in my life, or some situation I still carry some anger about. So in reality, this poor soul is getting the blast I wanted to give to someone else!

lol… I want you to know that you’re not the only one who gets angry at people’s whining. I had a nasty little argument with this cutter last week. She drove me nuts. I knew even when I was typing, that I was shutting her down. It didn’t matter that what I was saying was ‘right’. As soon as I came across as hostile, she stopped being able to receive it. I knew I was angry and was only going to make her angry as well. I wanted to shove her truth, as I saw it, down her throat.
I’ve decided since then, that if I feel annoyed by someone, I will not post. There is no point to it, aside from satisfying some nasty little urge to shake some sense into someone.
I have been extremely pig headed in my lifetime, but honestly, never had an epiphany whilst someone was yelling at me. The understanding I needed to overcome my problems always came in the quieter moments.

In my own way, I was trying to say that when you try to ‘help’ when you feel an utter lack of compassion for a person’s plight,(even if you feel they are full of sh1t and deserve no sympathy)you end up doing more harm than good.

Thank you for not tolerating it. I was glad to see (after answering your shout) that it had been deleted. As for her other post, she herself had raised the point that she was having difficulty making healthy friendships–she felt locked into an abusive friendship because she found no one else wanted to be her friend. I was simply pointing out a potential reason for this difficulty; it would be helpful for her to know that this kind of talk (i.e., promotion of animal torture) diminishes people’s ability to attract friendships. I do wish her the very best in forming relationships with people who are not hurtful to her, as I told her this morning in a final post. I do not plan to communicate with her again.

If you look at her reply, it was deleted. We didn’t tolerate it - it was deleted. The reason we asked you to stop attacking her was because you followed her to another post and called her an animal abuser. This we also do not tolerate.
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Please stop attacking SpiritedSoul on posts.
Thank you.
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