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• I broke up with my boyfriend of a year and a half about six months ago.
  

  Some of the most successful people in history at one point had no direction to thier life. All it takes is one event to start the spark that leads to greatness.
  
  Maybe he just has not come into his own yet. Good things come to those who wait, patience is a virtue, and he will come around when he comes around on his own time schedule noone elses. You have to decide if your willing to be paitent enough, and if your willing to let go when your patience is gone.
  - written 1 year, 11 months ago

• I am newly engaged (for about 3 months).
  

  Spending time apart is hard, and it does take its toll on a relationship. her feeling out of place might be due to the fact that you have been away and the settled in feeling of being around you and your mother is gone.
  
  I would give it some time, don’t force issues on her, and be gentle. Do special things that remind her of why she loves you. Don’t smother her, but I would put extra effort into reminding her how you feel, and do things that she would not expect. Flowers to her door, class or where ever you can catch her. The little things make a big difference, Or at least thats what my wife of 15 years has taught me =)
  
  Also keep in mind that the time you have spent apart led to life style changes that your return will now change, so its a big transitioning period for you both. Take it slow, and over time she should become used to you both being together and life will become normal again that your together and not apart.
  
  Hope this helps.
  
  Best of Luck
  
  P.S. Your story hit home with me, and brings back a lot of memories. I too was away for Basic Training and Tech school and had only been married for a week when i left. Hopefully you two will love each other as much as my wife and I have.
  - written 1 year, 11 months ago

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