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hey how u doing, u still out there?

Thank you, and a happy new year to you too.

Thankyou, im ok thanks…cant sleep though. its 2am here in the UK. how are you?

Hey dude, it’s “defenestrate”.

lol you too!

made ya jump!!

argh! lol heya chick

How are you since the other day? I was thinking about you.

:) thank you, a friend from here shared it with me.

yeah you too… :-)

…. we are all raging lunatics in one way or another!!
I loved the bit about being fish faced :-) that was hilarious..!

hope you don’t mind me saying that..i could really relate, the way you expressed it was genius!

yes… and it made me laugh…
(sorry about that :-/)

I appreciate that you strive for Less. I could not agree more. LESS is so much more. It unclutters the mind as we unclutter our surroundings. We can live with so much less, indeed, than we do. It makes our lives so much less complicated. Leaving only footprints, so to speak. I think it allows room in our minds and our lives for only what really matters, don’t you?

And Falkirk would only be a better place if I spontaneously became a singularity and sucked this pee-pee soaked heck-hole into my event horizon. With chips.

Toodle-pip

Is that a “Lesbian, sex-free commune”, or a “Lesbian-sex, free commune”? Could make all the difference ;) And are there DVD’s available?

Bye, thanks and heve a reet good New Year if I don’t make it back here afore then.

PS Banksy rocks.
I got a kiss. From my wife. :) and other less good stuff too.

welllllllll thankyou for your advice…I’ll bear all of it in mind…your filth littered wisdom has given me plenty of insight into the male phsyche…..
****runs of to join a lesbian sex free commune***
Thankyou though….seriously :-) Falkirk is a better place with bloke like you in it.
p.s He brought me a book of modern anarchist art which was great so he’s not all bad…
I hope you got something good too xxxx
(I was being a little silly about the whole earring thing…it was an metaphor/analogy)

You are not sad. What is sad is that we men are so f**kd up and so far up our own ass*s that we so often don’t realise that we are dismissing what our women are telling us they feel strongly about, what they want from us. And at this time of year, if a guy cdoesn’t know what his girl REALLY wanted for Christmas than he needs a good slap (not painful. Slap him with your breasts, perhaps) and needs to recognise that he should have been paying WAY MORE attention.
Just so as you don’t lose sight of the fact that we men are sex-mad monsters, I’m sure that he’d love the opportunity to provide you with some pearl jewellery. By pearl jewellery I mean a euphamism for ejaculatory emmissions about your face kind of way.
See?
Dogs.
We bad. We luv ladies. We luv sex. We luv ladies.
The lot of us. Don’t be fooled. And don’t give up. Just try harder with training him.
You can call me names. I don’t mind.
Anyhoo, after boring and disgusting you, I must bid you farewell. I would invite you as a friend, but after reading my filth-laden witterings, you know why I don’t got none already.
Luck and a big kiss. (No tongues. Maybe next time)

oh thank you !! …. I want nothing more in the whole wide world than to be bought a pair of earrings…..
Sad but true!!!
I’m an idiot really, he is always telling me i’m great but I don’t believe it because i’m NOT GETTING EARRINGS !!!
I know that is really silly. I have sparalled into the depth of self loathing over this stuff… it is rediculous…
I am going to try a new way….
I want to feel special not just the wielder of pain and angst and frustration…
It’s so hard…I think we live in an age where our gender differences have been neglected and to be honest that is a big part of the problem….
how are guys supposed to be guys when women are as they are (as a whole) and vice versa..
feminism was a big mistake in many ways
I’m sorry you have been a total s**t….i don’t think we realise what is good till it has gone.

Please do not call other users names http://help.com/faq#sect6

I loved the girl for too long before she became my girlfriend (later my wife) without saying anything to her, without telling her how I felt about her, without letting her know that she made me crazy, that I just couldn’t get her out of my mind. When we’d been together a while, I got real lazy, expecting that she would magically just know that I still found her incredible, sexy, fascinating, without being told. BIG F***KING MISTAKE.
Remember the (rather sh*t) Billy Joel song “Tell her about it”? No? lucky you.Now go find a copy. Listen to it. Listen to it again. Low listen to it sgain and remember what he’s telling you.
A million analogies would go here…
love is a garden, tend to it, water it, nurture it to make it bloom. Turn your back on it and it goes a little wild.
Women want to feel like they are the most special woman in the world. If she is, then tell her she is. If she’s not, re-assess what’s going on in your life and who it’s going on with.
Men want to feel like they are being “The Man” for their woman. Providing, protecting, sheltering, caring. In return they want to be loved. And they want sex (well, duh)
Ladies want sex too.
Lots of sex.
Us guys are really very poor at communicating. We just expect stuff to work itself out and make our demands expecting them to be met. We are poor at give and take. We are raised in a world which constantly tells us it is their for our taking with no explanation, no hard work.
You girls are incredibly adept at communicating and usually are in fact the glue that holds everything together.
Men are stupid. Give him a chance, but DO NOT MAKE THE MISTAKE OF LETTING HIM OFF.
We men are lazy, conniving, greedy selfish sons-of-bit***s who tend to think below our waistbands first and with our brains second.
But we can be re-educated by the right women.
Be firm about what you want. If it is too much for him, then maybe he is not right for you. this is harsh sounding, but think about it. Relationships need compromise, but more than that they need compatability.
Feel free to throw rocks to make me shut the f**k up at any point.
Thank you for your kind words, but I have been a tital sh*t to my good lady.
Us men can be real ba**ards.
My final summation.
What he feels about yuou should be something like this:
In the movie “The Incredibles” (bear with me here, please) Near the end, the big fight scene in the city with the giant robot-thingy.
Frozone sees the thing go by this window and rushes to where he keeps his suit .

Frozone: Honey?
Honey: What?
Frozone: Where’s my super suit?
Honey: What?
Frozone: Where is my super suit?
Honey: I uh - put it away.
Frozone: Where?
Honey: Why do you need to know?
Frozone: I need it!
Honey: Nuh uh! Don’t you think about leaving to do some derrin’ do! We’ve been planning this dinner for two months!
Frozone: The public is in danger!
Honey: My evening’s in danger!
Frozone: You tell me where my suit is woman! This is for the greater good!
Honey: I am your wife! I am the greatest ‘good’ you are ever gonna get!

And that is it in a nutshell. When your foolish, wandering eyed dog of a man realises this, you are on the road to recovery. Like me.
Good luck and Namaste.

Thanks paranoia man….I am a control freak and a big tantruming baby really! and i really do need to give him more attention… What about my reaction to him and his reaction to me…? The crazy stuff?
It’s bloody hard… I feel so torn and desperately crave total solitude at times and want everyone to c**k off!
But…love makes the world go round i guess…
I am going to practice detached kindness and being nicer and getting my head out of my butt

I’m sorry to hear you have broken up with your wife. That is sad. You sound like a good’un :-)

Ok. As a general overview, there is some sound advice already there. Respect, honesty, let them know the real you. All great stuff. Now here’s the downer. What I really think is that you CAN’T MAKE someone else do anything. All we ever really have power over is ourselves, our own desires, our own responses. People change, sh*t happens, we allow stuff to get in the way of what is really, really important. Showing that we love somone. What we want is the chance to give love to our significant other(s). Our heart sings when love is given back in return. But we can’t make it happen. We can manipulate others for the response we desire, but what we really want is the genuine spontaneous love between two people who have bonded and enjoy sharing, enjoy just being with another person.
I am entirely the wron chap to be giving relationship advice. My marriage went to F**k at the start of the year, largely because of my habit of keeping things to myself and I am currently engaged in the struggle to keep things on an even keel with my fabulous wife.
The struggle is a daily one. Never become complacent about the need to reassure, compliment, thrill your partner.
Nothing lasts forever. If you work at it real hard, and are very, very lucky, then love will stay with you for your lifetime. Not a bad trade off.
The one, painful lesson that I finally think I’ve learned ; NEVER take your partner for granted. If they light up your life and set fire to your groin let them know. Every single day.
I dunno if any of this is of any use whatsoever to you, and feel free to point out my stoopidness in missing anything obvious that you wanted me to comment on. I’m ghere for a wee bit yet, so get in touch.

How can you make a relationship with some one you love work forever…(thogh that’s not the point :-/

earlier on today…if youclick of the ‘all post thingy’ it is on the first page…i will paste it hang on

Can you give me a pointer? How long ago was it left? And don’t worry, there are quite a few of us total nut-jobs on here. We ought to start a support group

that’s what I’m looking for and I thought u were the man…
It is called how do you stay woth someone you love and make it work….
I want an honest no bullshit blunt opinion..(pls read the replies where I have elaborated (ranted)

No problem. But be warned, I have all the subtlety of blunt trauma to the head. Where can I read it?

I will try to be as honest and as forthcoming as I can muster. But I am a lying dawg. Take your best shot.

You can ask me anything. Whether I answer or not…

maybe i’ll do that….anything to avoid doing what i should be doing….!
:-)
I’ll think on the rest and let ya know!:-)
**whispers***bye brian…..

and stop shouting yourself

or..well, don tbe shy..thats all..I am not..but i gotta run for now..2 hour drive and the meet is in 3 hours

if i am gone and you are still bored in a while..hmm..I have several old posts that you would prolly enjoy beating up as a mental health pro..

i have a lot of posts, but the oldest are the best..

other than that…tell me how i can help..I am a very good entertainer, hehe

i dunno! Thanks for askin . i’m just playing.. :-)

how can i help?

sorry..i have to go soon..not NOW

god i’m bored…

yes maam?

That means im cheap and old!!!

No problem. glad to see your feeling better :)

5.17am? this is getting confusing, I keep sending messages to myself

I study music, although I also did a years worth of writing

yep! it’s pretty crazy. don’t know what to do with myself back in weston tho

My ex lived there…I liked it alot, lots of interesting things going on…some nice pubs too..
Are you studying at Dartington College?

My ex lived there…I liked it alot, really nice vibe and lots of interesting things going on…some nice pubs too..
U studying at dartington?