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That is beautiful. I cant tell you how much I want to believe that is true

You are not crazy, you just need some support and guidance. There is no shame in that, especially not after all you have been through. You have shown so much strength, and dealt with things that most people could never imagin. Recognise that.

I wish you all the best brokenwings, and I truelly hope you visit us again soon to let us no how you are.

Hugs xxx

hehehehe, the poor lady, that brings new levels to the pleasure pain theory.

Yeah, jcd, thats what I thought. and, P.man, how are you such an expert.

There was a programme about embarassing sexual incidents, the poor emergancy services have seen it all before. Man got it stuck in the pump of a swimming pool at a hotel, had to pull it apart to get him out, man got is stuck in a hoover, and it sliced it off, so when he called the police and ambulance, he said a stripper had sliced him, but when they investigated and found the remains in the hoover, the truth became clear. It could be a lot worse.

Be yourself, RELAX! Good luck!

YOur completely right. Instinct is to need to fix what has happened, but you need to let things lie, and let the dust settle. You are not the first to have been in this situation, and will certainly not be the last. Everyobdy has regrets, and I’m glad you accept that he has just as much responsibility for this situation, well more so than you.

Do you love him? You say you are worried about his wife, how do you feel about him right now

The man involved in this situation holds responsiblity to this too. Its him that held the responsiblity to his marriage, not you. I am not condoning what has happened, but dont be too hard on yourself. Try and stear clear, let the dust settle, let his wife ask him the questions if she needs to and just see what happens.

I hope things work out ok for you.

what type of things is she saying. Step out of the box and ask yourself what is she gaining from this, attention??

Dont fear the inclusion of services. They will want to get to the bottom of this and help you and your daughter. I would request a phsyc evaluation in order to get to the bottom of this. Childrens minds are very complex, and this needs to be unpicked professionally, and the support your daughter needs given.

what help do u need

YEah, its depentant on where you are in the world but you can order a copy of your credit report for a tenner or so, gives you full details of the lenders etc and the type of account it is. You can then approach them directly first as a first port of call. It may be that you have been a victim of id fraud, and they will need to pursue an investigation.

Social services may be able to assist due to your brother. As soon as anybody says the terms social services, it brings an image of kids being taken away and stuff liek that. You are 18, but you can speak to them about the affect it has had on you, and the continuing affect it is having on your brother. They are trained to encourage and bring about change, have access to the appropriate assistance and support networks. dont be afraid to turn to them. You are a student, they may be able to assist in housing and things like that for you.

Write the letter to your uncle, even if you have no plan to give it to him. It’ll get a few things out for you. Think about the words you have written and the potential impact they will have once you have written it, and decide where you go from there. You have nothing to lose in writting it, might just help you express your feelings.

You seem to be more worried about your mum’s depression rather than the impact the most recent events are having on you and your recovery, and you impotence at being able to help her as she wont accept it. As I said before, everybody has ownership of their own thoughts and feelings, and you can not change that, you can not help anybody who is not willing or able to accept the help or want to help themselves. Focus on you.

Talk to you brother too, dont assume that he is fine with the whole situation, support eachother as you both know how it feels to be in eachothers position, with the cards you have been dealt.

Dont give up Raver, look how far you’ve already come,

I think you should talk to him. He has obviously shut down a bit in response to what you have said in some self preservation thing. Explain what you meant, and how you feel, and that you do not want to affect the closeness you have had previously, but that you do not wish to rush things too soon. Re-assure him of your feelings, I guess this must have knocked his confidence a bit and he is now weary of how to act around you. As I say reassure him.

I’m sorry to hear you feel like that hun. You’ve have already been through so much and struggled your way to be the person you are today. You should be very proud of that.

Unfortunately, I really dont know what to say about your parents. Fact of the matter is, after all this time, the likelyhood of them facing fakes and taking responsibility of THEIR part in all of this is fairly small I guess. I would think that deep down they know it, and that is why they have their own battles with depression and alcoholism, they just dont want to admit it.

You are in control of your happiness. Its very hard, but dont let them take that away from you.

Like I say, I am really sorry I am not able to give any practicle advice on this, but just know that I will be a listening ear should you need it.

Have you spoken to them about how you feel. That you have detatched yourself for a reason of self preservation more than anything. I would try and talk to them, or perhaps, if you cant, or are worried that it might all come out wrong, write them a letter. Even if you dont give it to them, it might help you get out all the feelings that you feel about things. I do it all the time, and never give the people who I am writting to them, but some how helps me express and understand how I am feeling.

Hugs, xxx dont give up hun xxx

You said that crying some wont help much will it. Letting out the emotion that you feel can only help. Sometimes crying, even when your not sure what brought it on can really help. It doesnt serve to practically change anything, but emotions need to be released. There have been times when I’ve cried so hard, it hurts, but that helps, and that is good. Dont be afraid of that.

You say you want your smile back, it will come. Fill your time with things that give you hope. Each of us have at times felt this way, and have own own reasons as to why this is, and our own way to pick ourselves us. Find strength in the things that make you happy, that your enjoy doing, although you may at the moment have little motivation to do this. Just dont give up hope, as this is what will see you through these times.

You are such a caring and thoughful person, you have offered your guiding hand to many of us on this website, and I’m sure you extend that to your friends and family. Be proud of the person that you are, and except that everybody needs a guiding hand and support, no matter where that comes from. Take comfort in knowing that there will always be people available to be a listening ear, all you have to do is ask.

Hugs xxxx

As lillies quite rightly said, your want and need to get things back on track is the first step in the right direction. Only you truelly no where that path will take you, but follow your heart and the things you enjoy, the things that make you happy. Follows your hopes and dreams, and spend your time doing the things that you enjoy the most, follow the things and people which give you strength. Many have felt the way you feel right now, but everybody has their own reasons, and their own road to recovery. Have strength, you are master of your own destiny.