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Nice to meet you!

I have just had you pop back up on my friends list.
Nice to see you back after all of this time. Please let me know if life has been good to you, during your absense.
Just to get you in the mood for some nice things, try this link, that is if you like TinkerBell. http://www.theperfectpicture.org.uk/t…

Also you might like my latest post.

Happy monday lovely :)

You are all of you, still in my thoughts and I am still hoping that life will treat all of you kindly.

Hi there ‘bell.

You have my continued support for as long as you need it. I am just a few clicks on the letters on you keyboard away. Dont be afraid to use it, some situations dont have a difined path, or route, or a time limit. They are the normal as much as the things you do every single day of you life.
I never waste my time on the mundane things if I can help it.
Feeling hurt is a normal feeling so is feeling happiness, some situations sometimes seem to have only the hurt parts but there is usualy some good and happy parts to be found, if only we look hard enough.
It can never be a waste of time sending and sharing good thoughts, you are welcome to that any time.
Most things are resolved at some stage, it is only our impatience and our time limits, that make it look like, it doesn’t or wont ever be resolved.
Keep talking to me about how you feel, the good and the bad bits, I will always respond if I can

I am still here and remembering to send some hope and strength your way.

saw this and thought of you :)

I saw this and thought you might like to share it with little angel. http://www.funnyfrogs.com/

Thinking and hoping about and for you.

Smiling is infectious. You proved it right. :) thank you for answering my post. Not fully, but i’m on my way there. Happy Valentine Bell.

hey. its an all new ‘younglove’ wat do u think?

Thankyou for your shout bell.

I am trying to do all the right things to help myself cope. But its just so hard. I don’t know how many times i need to keep trying before i give up.

I don’t have friends though. Not outside here. I know how much you all care, but in real life…at home..theres no one i can reach out to that is just ‘there’ or near me. anyone i could ring lives ages away.

Should you choose to wear your thigh highs and march anywhere, rest assured you shall have a loyal following of lost boys dogging your every step, ‘Tink, led by me. And eyeing up your fairy pins, obviously.

I think your grip on life in general is a rather sound one, my fairie chum; do not be so hard on yourself.
The truth will prevail, ‘Bell. As will its fairie champion. Now I really must go howl.
Namaste.

Hello, Tink’.

I hope today finds you well and I hope with all my heart that you and your loved ones are closer to the happiness you deserve. I have been driving myself crazy today, thinking too much about the ethereal connections I have made since falling into this site. You have been incredibly kind to me ‘Tink, and I wish there was more that I could do to help you. I am afraid you will have to make do with happy thoughts for now, at least until my plans for global dominance come to fruition.
I will clap for you fairie. My love to you and those dear to you. Now I must go and run and howl and pine.

Believe. And do keep wearing the boots.

No need to apologize, I read your goings-on in our furry friends shout box. I am so sorry to hear all. I do hope though that your man doesn’t give up on his baby. She is still too little to understand or make decisions that are in her own best interest. It’s not that she doesn’t love you both, it’s that she wants to be loved by her mum as well. You both need to show her that you will love her no matter where she lives and that if she ever needs you or changes her mind you will be there for her to come home to… that is not an easy thing to do, but it is necessary for her to know that if she is hurt or needs you she has some place safe to go.

Thank you. I appreciate that, as wonderful as this site is, there are time when a rest is required to re-charge.

That is a very good idea, thank you for that, I will consider this further, and I agree, there is always hope in situations, its just finding them, and perhaps viewing the situation from a different perspective.

thanks again for your support and consideration.

I wont be here very much for a few days, I need a rest from it for a day or so. I will though be checking the shouts from time to time.
Is there a way you could give your angel a mobile phone to take with her? And some way you could get to top it up from your end?

That way you can give her the chance to get in touch with you, when times get hard for Angel.
It’s just a thought that came to me last night, I dont know if it’s worth thinking about.

There is always some sort of hope about every situation that arises, it needs to be looked for sometimes.

If you keep in touch over this troubled season you are facing, I will try to look for it with you and if I see any hope. If I do I will share my thoughts with you.

I am glad you found some beauty in the website, dont forget it is there and just enjoy what you can.

I am glad you can see the possitives of the situation you are facing. The negatives are always easy to see and feel.
Putting them asside as much as you can will help.
You will find this easier to do by trying to continuasly see the love and beauty in what you where so lucky to have had in your life.

It isn’t going away for good, it’s just changing where it’s at.

This wonderful little person might be just what hope needs to fullfill a change in the woman you dont like.

Perhaps your wonderful little girl will be able to bring a change for the better to this person.

Is your little girl an angel?

I met an angel once, she changed my life for the better.

The website is www.theperfectpicture.org.uk You will need to click the play button twice to watch the video slideshows. The little photos when clicked on change to big pictures,
everything on it is free.

I made it so that people can go there and look at beautiful things and perhaps find some peace, in this troubled world of ours.

thanks for the shout. the other day i kept thinking of you and your little girl. it’s obvious that you love her very much. and that many people here love you.

after that ‘read this’ post, that night i drove to the beach. i walked and looked out at the stars. reflections glistened in the sand as each wave receded. and i lifted you and yours up.

i don’t know all the specifics, but it does seem that the most sure way for your girl to have a better life is for her birth mother to get help. she may fear your motives, but if you convince her that you’re not her enemy, you may have a chance at helping her. keep fighting and don’t give up, but fight smart.

It’s never easy to have to let love go, especialy something as wonderful and precious as a very young daughter.

The one thing you do have still, is some time left with this beautiful little girl.

Like you say making the most of this time is only making your love stronger, between each other. I think that one day you will see this love returned to you. I cant think of it working out any other way.

It is not D day yet, and it isn’t time for mourning yet.

It is time to enjoy and savour every precious second, let it be that special that it gives you strength in the future, when you are going to realy need it.

Build it, so that you can can draw on this special time of what will be fantastic happy memories. So that the young girl can draw on the memories and strengths you have given her, when she needs it most.

You can only do your best, more than that isn’t possible.

You have had the privalige of shaping this young persons life, it’s what you have taught her that shapes what she will become in the future.
I have a very strong feeling that you are going to be very proud of this young girl and very thankful that you had that privalige to be a part of it.

Good plan! I am something of a fanatic. Sad I know! I’ve been banned from having any more fairy things in the house, it was limiting room for us!

I am much the same too, just biding our time at the moment, just a waiting game. My partner is not very accepting of the situation and is just pretending its not happening, and keeps implying I’m making it out to be bigger than it is. Its his self-preservation I guess, but he’s refusing to see what is in front of us at the moment. I guess I like to think that way too. She’s still with us at the moment, so can nearly pretend that d day will not come. I feel like I’m mouring her, need to get a grip, everytime we’re laughing and joking, I think to myself savour this moment, as it may not come again. I feel maybe I am making it out to be bigger than it is, but I know things will never be the same again, her life will follow a path that we’ve been trying to save her from.

Sorry, I asked how you were, and gone straight back onto me. Doh!

You have a website?

I am feeling good and well, hoping you are feeling much the same. Are you?

Your avatar pic is one of my favourite characters. I have about a thousand fairy pics on a disc. some of them are Tinkerbell.

I am thinking of putting some of them on my website later this year.

Got you on my friends list, nice to have you there. I have also given you my e-mail link should you wish to use it.

I know you don’t know me. And i really don’t understand what the situation is. (nor am i asking to know).

But i wanted to let you know you have my love throughout whatever you are going through. I really am thinking of you like Pman has asked us all.

I offer my support and love to you. I believe what comes around goes around. I hear you are a good person. So a good outcome will hopefully arrive soon.

Hey!

Hi ‘Bell!

I was invited to Para’s post by Lazy.

As I wrote there, I am not familiar with the details of your case, and not with local laws and regulations. But I will be prepared to discuss it in general terms, at any time!

My sincere wellwishings go to you and your family!

OH Bell, I am so sorry. What happened?

i would be honored if you would be my friend.

hi bell. you don’t know me but i’m one of those sending you good wishes all day today.

my ex-wife was a saint compared to the psycho you’ve described. my kids are the rock of gibralter compared to this poor child you love.

when my daughter was little, she didn’t want much to do with her mom, who was an alcoholic (now recovering). after her mom tried to kill herself and was taken away to rehab, though, my daughter wanted ‘mommy, mommy, mommy’! eventually my ex faced her problems and now my kids can have both of us, just not at the same time or in the same home. you probably understand by now just how strong the mother-daughter bond is, not to mention how prejudiced in favor of mothers the courts are. the daughter’s best hope, in my humble opinion, is for her mom to get psychiatric/medical/recovery help. to the extent you can help that happen, you will help the little girl. peace.

And I shouted it twice. Stupid dog.

Oh God ‘Bell. Oh god. I feel so stupid trying to hug you through a screen over hundreds of miles.
Your heart must be so torn. And your man.
We men pretend we have no emotions. The truth of it is we do not feel strong enough to cope with them. He is telling himself it would be better to cut his ties because he does not think his heart can take any more. I cannot pretend to imagine the hurt that you and your man must have endured.
Children want to believe fairy stories, ‘Bell. Stories like “mummy loves me”. They want to believe in a storybook world free from hurt and fear. The truth hurts. And it persists. She will recognise the truth, ‘Bell. I cannot say how long it will take her, or what ill fortune must befall her (i know the thought of that will bring a lump to your throat. I am truly sorry) before she realises the truth. Daddy loves her. Mummy ‘Bell loves her. Make believe is only in your head, but love touches your heart. Love is truth and truth can never be denied. We try to ignore it, and hide it, but it will always shine through.
I cannot tell you what to do, who to bombard with emails, phone calls letters, social services, solicitors, MP’s, health services, I am sure you are tired indeed from explaining over and over.
I do know, from beaurocratic experience that dogged persistence wins through. I now you must be heart weary from this ‘Bell.
Love your man. Make him see. Make him remember. His hrt is breaking, but turning away from his little girl will never heal his broken heart. Only cause it to scar and harden. He is scared ‘Bell. We men are very bad at scared. Vulnerability makes us feel weak and useless. Our children are make us vulnerable. Make him see that admitting it, accepting it does not make us weak. It makes us strong.
I have already asked my manager to “give me a fucking minute here, this is important”.
I have to do boring, pointless stuff for a wee bit.
make him see, ‘Bell. From the moment we lay weyes upon them, ’til we draw our last breath, our children hold a piece of our heart. We are their world. Their constant. Most of all, we must be there, whenever they need us.
I feel impotent and stupid ‘Bell. All I can give you is my love and my prayer.
Never give up fairie. Never let your man give up on his little girl. Never.
Namaste

Oh God ‘Bell. Oh god. I feel so stupid trying to hug you through a screen over hundreds of miles.
Your heart must be so torn. And your man.
We men pretend we have no emotions. The truth of it is we do not feel strong enough to cope with them. He is telling himself it would be better to cut his ties because he does not think his heart can take any more. I cannot pretend to imagine the hurt that you and your man must have endured.
Children want to believe fairy stories, ‘Bell. Stories like “mummy loves me”. They want to believe in a storybook world free from hurt and fear. The truth hurts. And it persists. She will recognise the truth, ‘Bell. I cannot say how long it will take her, or what ill fortune must befall her (i know the thought of that will bring a lump to your throat. I am truly sorry) before she realises the truth. Daddy loves her. Mummy ‘Bell loves her. Make believe is only in your head, but love touches your heart. Love is truth and truth can never be denied. We try to ignore it, and hide it, but it will always shine through.
I cannot tell you what to do, who to bombard with emails, phone calls letters, social services, solicitors, MP’s, health services, I am sure you are tired indeed from explaining over and over.
I do know, from beaurocratic experience that dogged persistence wins through. I now you must be heart weary from this ‘Bell.
Love your man. Make him see. Make him remember. His hrt is breaking, but turning away from his little girl will never heal his broken heart. Only cause it to scar and harden. He is scared ‘Bell. We men are very bad at scared. Vulnerability makes us feel weak and useless. Our children are make us vulnerable. Make him see that admitting it, accepting it does not make us weak. It makes us strong.
I have already asked my manager to “give me a fucking minute here, this is important”.
I have to do boring, pointless stuff for a wee bit.
make him see, ‘Bell. From the moment we lay weyes upon them, ’til we draw our last breath, our children hold a piece of our heart. We are their world. Their constant. Most of all, we must be there, whenever they need us.
I feel impotent and stupid ‘Bell. All I can give you is my love and my prayer.
Never give up fairie. Never let your man give up on his little girl. Never.
Namaste

Thank you for your kindness ,and giving me the strength to believe that we can get through this. If she goes back there, I know she’s condemned to a life that no child deserves. She had a million chances, and doesnt deserve any more. How do I get the little one to understand that life wont be the rose tinted lies that she’s been told. The irony is, we have taught her in her upbringing to love, and trust, and to give people the chances they deserve. Maybe she’s right, and I’m just being selfish, but I cant let go of her. I keep thinking, well if I tell her this then she might see what she really is, but it is just confusing her more, that we are suddenly telling her everything that we’ve protected her from all her life. She thinks her whole life has been based on a lie, and that mummy’s the victim, who needs to be saved. She’s got contact all weekend with her, she’s gonna come home even more confused and hating us even more. The fight was always there when we knew it was for the best, but now this is what she wants. I feel really betrayed, and its not fair.. she’s 8

What’s happened? I know this must be excruciating ‘Bell. I am truly sorry. I wish I could be there for you now. I thought she was back with you and your man, that you were getting to see her again. What has happened?
You cannot accept defeat ‘Bell. I refuse.
I know you must feel turned inside out, but listen to me fairy, stay calm, stay focused. Explain. Every situation can be turned around. Please ‘Bell.

No ‘Bell.
Tell me. This can be fixed. There is always a way ‘Bell. Tell me. My own life and head are fucked, but I have a gift for fixing other people’s. Karmic joke. Tell me. Please.
And believe. I’m not fucking joking. No fur or boots or bullshit. This can be fixed. Anything is do-able. I am a stubborn fucker. Tell me.

I have no idea why I’m called Fourthings hehe

Hey I’m sorry I say things that don’t make much sense. If you ask a question sometime that I have an answer for I’ll try to give one that makes sense.

OOOO thanks hun, i totally agree with what you are saying, i just dont think he wants anythin too serious at the mo, and he knows that i would have to give up alot for him so would expect more than just a fling in return. I am going to see him though, more out of curiosity, i want to see how i feel when i see him. Me and the fiancee are rocky, we argue over silly things and are struggling money wise so it is strained, but i suppose not un-fixable. I am trying to take a step back from the ex and give him space but it is harder than i thought.

I dont know that i do still love him really, i know i care alot about him and want to be there for him, but i know that he is dating again, nothin serious but he is on the look out for a girlfriend, and it really upsets me after everything that i have told him, but i suppose he could be just waiting to see how our first meeting goes like me?

Anyways, i am sorry i am rambling on, how are you? Have you had a good week? xxx

Aw thankyou. Your so thoughtful :)

Hey! Thanks so much for your kind words. I hope so too. I really can’t thank you enough for reminding me though, so thanks again, lol!
Wow, you’re at work? Mind you, this website feels like a day job at times; so I guess I’m at work too, lol!!
So…moving to your dream job then? Or just fancied a change? I’m a nosey cow at times, I know!! :P

yh am fine thankyou and yourself? x

Hey Bell, how’s it going?!…Soz for the delayed response - help.com was running in the background.

I do need to reply to the writer….Yikes…still can’t believe I haven’t done it. I’ve been a little all over the shop since the death to be honest. All of my priorities have become muddled!!

Thanks for reminding me; I must make sure that goes today (has been drafted)..From the sound of her email, she wasn’t planning on coming to the UK anytime soon in any case.

Thanks for asking…if I can get over the embarrassment of what she comes back with, then I may update the post at a later date!
Thanks for remembering me.
How’s your day going??
Farah :)

heyy x

Hiya, yes thanks im doing good now. And yourself? x

Perhaps much, MUCH later. My we brain is a bit overtaxed right now, and I’m sure I share the feeling with quite a few others.

Hello, monkeys. Thank you for participating in the fivething post. You contributions kept the kittens alive, and I am proud to say that that we still have all of them! (minus 1) One of these days we might start another one, but let’s leave that up to me, shall we?
Thanks again,
~mou

hey bell how are you? x

hi i don’t know you but i’d like to

I am always happy to help distract you from the daily grind, ‘Bell.
Unfortunately, my own grindstone spins relentlessly here, and I really must get on so that I can return to my basement for the evening.
Have a safe flight home, faerie.

Absolutely not. Often children grace us with wisdom borne of their amazing clarity of thought. And grey hair and wrinkles do not necessarily bring wisdom, neither.
And YOU’RE BACK!! IN ALL YOUR FAIRY GLORY! HUZZAH!!