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its annoying, and usually just a quick ‘no thanks’ stops them mid-spiel and puts an end to it. It’s a pretty rubbish job for them too, so no need to make their day any worse. I heard of someone once who said, ’sorry I can’t help you as I don’t have a phone’ which confused them enough to hang up!

If you mean how to greet and assist a customer, well I think its good to acknowledge them when they come into your place of business - is it a shop? It depends on your business, but in a shop, most people like to browse without feeling under scrutiny or pressure to buy - that makes them uncomfortable and they will leave.

Acknowledge, with a smile, or a ‘hello’ when they enter, then they know you are there if they need you. Only approach and ask if they need help, if they seem indecisive or confused.. but usually, if have acknowledged them already, they will feel comfortable about approaching you. There is nothing more off-putting to customers who like to browse than have someone hovering and watching every move. So give them space but be on hand if they need assistance.

Oh God I really hope you sent this to them - So funny.. It would definitely add cheer to my day if my s.t. told me something ‘actually pertinent’.. like, wear the ballerina pumps instead of the docs today, or someone you know may lose their kneecaps.. or, quick go buy chocoloate, lots of chocolate, you know you’re gonna need it..;)
Nice one!

–oh, and be kind to yourself. Most people are horrible to themselves in the privacy of their own heads, and this leads to all sorts of nastiness. Chill out and be nice to yourself - if you don’t, who will!

Think u pretty much nailed it, Rawhead!
I would add, be lighthearted and have fun! I would like to be able to look back on my life, and say yeah, I had a great time while I was here, and did everything I wanted to, I’m happy to go now..!

I had toast and butter today, real butter, all melted in with bitter marmalade.. god there’s nothing like it! Brings a smile to my face every time!

Its called channelling! Like when a prisoner in jail knows he has only so much time left til he gets out, it drives him crazy because he’s waiting for the day.. it gets worse as the time approaches!

Don’t worry, enjoy the wonderful feeling of anticipation, time WILL pass (that’s its job, after all!) and it will feel all the more precious for the anticipation.. it might help to write letters -i know its not fashionable any more in this era of instant communication, but there is something wonderfully intimate and special about physically writing your thoughts to someone you love, and you can do it any time your missing them badly,whether on the bus, having coffee, in bed..it really helps you to feel close to them! It might feel a bit corny but they will appreciate it really!

mumstheword gave great advice. I too have a tendency to look at the bigger picture and then get so totally overwhelmed I can’t even make a start on things. So breaking things up into little chunks works really well, and don’t allow yourself to look at the bigger picture until you’ve got to a certain point of the workload.

I find that even just putting a timeline onto things helps me. For instance, I’ll say, ‘ok i’ll sit down and do this for the next hour’ and because I have a time limit on it, I’ll actually work really well for that amount of time, cos I know it’ll end soon. Try it!

Don’t worry. You’re a better and wiser person for your questioning your purpose, at least you’re not blindly just going thru the motions of life without meaning!

I have grappled for so long with this question, why are we here, what is the point, all of that angsty stuff. And I have no answer, seriously I believe there is none. The only point of life is to live, and sometime in the future there will be no more life on this planet, perhaps this universe, perhaps anywhere ever. Ok. I know that might sound depressing, but its really quite mindblowingly incredible that the conditions for life arose, and that any life at all arose, and that we, intelligent(sometimes!) and reasoning sentient beings are here at all! And its so amazing that we are around, albeit for an extremely short life-span, that it seems a waste not to enjoy every brief second we have!

I recommend reading Bill Brysons book ‘A short history of nearly everything.’ Even just the first 3 pages of the introduction! because it makes you realise, hot ****, life is flipping incredible and its a trillion million chance to one that we are here able to talk to each other! Gave me a whole new perspective anyway. Its bloody amazing that you’re here, alive, and you have as much right to be here as anyone, don’t waste the opportunity, eh?

The world is just the world. Stuff happens. What happens can have little to do with us, insignificant random life-forms that we are. I guess how you perceive it to be reacting to your thoughts, can define what you perceive/believe to be the quality of your life. But it’s all just neutral stuff really.

know how you feel, i often wish we had ear-lids as well as eye-lids,the world can be noisy and it would be nice to be able to just shut your ears for a while! Earplugs are great! Also, playing some music you find pleasant distracts from other noises while you’re studying.

Go to your doctor right away. You’ll get the real help you need, and get to talk to real people about how you’re feeling. Go Go Go! You will feel so much better so quickly!

ok, if someone were to ask me for that, I would take a deep breath, pucker up my lips, put them next to their ear and BLOW into their ear as hard as I could! Then ask, thats what you asked for, wasn’t it?

You are searching for a meaning. Ask yourself, why does there have to be meaning, just because I want there to be? Is it not enough that we find ourselves, live and conscious and thinking, on this planet, the one place in the entire cosmos that we know of that just by pure happenstance can support life? Is that not incredible enough to make you think, we are so lucky to be here, on this amazing life-filled planet, I’m going to make the most of my incredible good luck? Does that not give you great respect and love for life? Why would anyone need more than that?

Only one way to find out.. go for it!