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• I am sad.
  

  Try not to focus on more negativity when you are feeling sad, it’s hard to focus on positive things, but you must try it’s worth it :)
  The least you can do is let this period pass without letting it bring you down. Soon things will look bright for you again it’s only a matter of time. Keep peace in your heart
  - written 1 year, 7 months ago

• 2 lovers in two different countries :(
  

  we are not pendejos ! haha. but you are right, they don’t work.
  - written 1 year, 11 months ago

• What’s wrong with me?
  

  Relax! Don’t stress out about your grades, your only job as a student is to
  -do your homework diligently
  -do your in school work competently
  -participate
  -ask questions when necessary
  -be nice!
  -enjoy (optional)
  
  when you aren’t in school or doing schoolwork HAVE FUN!
  
  please. life outside of school can also be stressful so try to develop ways of doing what you should do, and not worrying so much!
  - written 1 year, 11 months ago

• 2 lovers in two different countries :(
  

  Try to be honest with your long-distance lover. Don’t let things slide by, attempt to point out things in the relationship which are not alright, and hopefully he will be able to see at first at least a few reasons why you are not satisfied. Many times especially with long long distance relationships, you become attached and the sense of duty is very strong, you’ve been supporting each other through very difficult separations and lifes problems… you’ve both beeen very alone but with the constant pressure of maintaining communication in an acceptable and serious way… it is unhealthy in the first place a little maybe hmm?
  in a sense try to ween him off of the relationship because it seems as though you are no longer interested in the effort. and effort is really all it is. a long-distance relationship is like a long-distance race. and you must be prepared for that. if you dash headlong into it it’s more than likely that you will not be able to finish on top, and besides that really f*** a lot of s*** up with yourself on the way. it is partially about commitment and not giving up, but you should be aware of when the race is over, and not be afraid to drop out of it if you want to chase a butterfly. there is no sense in torturing yourself, though i very much understand the concept of torturing yourself as punishment for past-mistakes, as in the relationship has been going on for so long, with so little results and nothing to show except blind dedication and embarassing intimacy with friends and family. yes it hurts you to think about hurting him in that way, especially because there were so many signs along the way that you ignored… but it was always difficult like this. how can you spend 4 years of your life dedicated to one person, revolving your life, money, school, everything around them and suddenly deciding that after all this investment, you really don’t want it after all… how can you hurt someone like that? the bottom line is that truth and strength are the most important things. face the music he must know that there is no longer the same passion and love and caring and understanding. perhaps you are soulmates, but in a past lifetime… perhaps you have grown now in ways that he doesn’t allow himself to comprehend because he perhaps cannot see teh beauty of it. and you’ve found someone who sees teh beauty of it. don’t commit yourself to this lover either, don’t commit yourself to anyone anymore. just go with the flow. it’s much better now to sever the relationship than to wait until it’s too late.
  and what of the family life that you were thinking about…? he doesn’t even see himself having children with you, he doesn’t think you are competent… at least he makes you feel like that… he probably doesn’t love you as this lover does, and if he does he has some very f***ed up way of showing it which you are not responsible for assuming.
  so let him off gently, and go with the flow.
  - written 1 year, 11 months ago

• I hate my “family”.
  

  It is difficult when family members are mean and not loving towards each other. Try to have compassion, though it is difficult it will make you a strong person! Think about it, when people are happy, truly happy they are not mean to anyone! they are not concerned about being negative or saying evil things to one another, they just love life! it means everyone around you who is negative and mean to you and says hurtful things, are truly unhappy people despite how spotless their lives might be.
  it’s easier said than done, but try to remember to always love… even when others around you are weak and try to drag you down.
  - written 1 year, 11 months ago

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