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• Nevermore.
  

  42, Maximinia :)
  
  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Answer_to_Life,_the_Universe,_and_Everything
  - written 1 year, 9 months ago

• Nevermore.
  

  Where do you go from here? You make chocolate cake. Duh. The Best. Cake. Ever. Mkay?
  
  *mourns those who didn’t get the 42 reference* sigh. read more books, everyone :)
  - written 1 year, 9 months ago

• my boyfriend hit me, i hated him, broke up with him.
  

  mattg24…it’s always easy to say that in hindsight :)
  
  You have a new boyfriend, who loves you, right? Focus on the good things. It’s natural to think about past exes and emotional times. The memories never go away, we just learn to deal with them. If it’s driving you nuts, you might even like to see a counselor to help you work it through and move on - lots of relationships end without any of the psychological “patching up” that’s required. Hearts are complicated things :)
  
  If you were in a abusive relationship and got out, then good for you. Don’t go back. You’re worth more to the world than that.
  - written 1 year, 9 months ago

• I have a huge problem.
  

  SI? Does this mean you’re sleeping with the “bad news” guy? (wasn’t sure what you meant)
  
  If you know you’re causing yourself and your family pain, then you also know you can stop. You can get out. You *can* stop - you’re the only one who has to power and the strength to make yourself. If you want to. And not put yourself back in that situation. Ever.
  
  Have a long think about your priorities. What are you getting from this guy that you’re not getting somewhere else? Can you fix that? You need to weigh up what he means to you, compared to what your family means to you. When you have choices, choose the one that is a miracle, not a regret or a path towards pain. And you’re the only one who can know which is which. Listen to your heart. It’s smart. And then listen to your head, too.
  
  It’s nice of you to listen to your ex about how he’s changed. Perhaps he has - and that’s just dandy. But don’t let his life — if you’re not a part of it any more — drag down what you’ve worked to achieve. You are responsible for your own happiness. He’s responsible for his.
  - written 1 year, 9 months ago

• How do i get my sleeping patterns under control?
  

  Here’s some things I know have worked for some people. No sleep sucks, good luck!
  
  1. Quit the caffeine. No ifs, no buts. Switch to a no-caffeine coke, or just kiss your sleep goodbye - nothing you do to relax will help if you’re already boosting yourself awake chemically.
  2. Eat. Eating is good for you :) If you can’t stomach much food, try little meals more often. Some people find “raw” foods help them sleep (ie, the less prcessed, the better) … the theory is your metabolism is working away, using up energy and helping you sleep.
  What you eat before bed sometimes affects things, too — funny things like spicy foods keep some people awake. Drink herbal tea, eat carbohydrate (makes you sleepy when you digest it), drink warm milk (milk is soporific) — these all might help.
  3. Try and exercise - even if you’re tired. It’s tough, I know. Even a ten minute walk around the block is a good start towards having a body that’s physically tired enough to sleep. If you can get to the point of being able to do half an hour of exercise that makes your heart pump, the cardio effects might help you feel physically tired enough to sleep.
  4. Don’t stare at the computer before bed. The flick-y light makes your brain stay awake. TV ditto. Read a book, have a bath, do anything else.
  5. Try a guided-mediation, one that you listen to as you lie there. Might focus your brain on it rather than depressing thoughts.
  6. Try the herbals — valerian, passionflower, skullcap — there are lots of herb-y sleep remedies on the market these days. Most are fairly mild, but might just help that little bit. Some people burning using lavender or rose oil helps.
  7. Finally, talk to your doctor about your meds. Depression meds are notorious for screwing up sleep…not that you really probably want to take sleeping pills as *well*, but maybe it might help to get your cycle off to a good start?
  
  If nothing works in 40 minutes, get up and do something else, change the record :) Your bio-cycles are roughly that long. Good luck, and sweet dreams!
  - written 1 year, 9 months ago

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