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Yeah i would go with jeans, boots if you have some or trainers and a cool hoody if you’ve got one. You can still look trendy whilst keeping warm!

ok, so you think that unless you’re engaged or married then it’s not possible to cheat, or it’s not cheating?

thanks, things just need to be sorted.

If telling her is the best thing to do then i will, i just don’t know what the best thing is right now. I really do know what you’re saying cailean. She doesn’t deserve this, she’s amazing, i just want to deal with this in the best possible way.

The other person wouldn’t say anything i’m sure. My friend said that telling my girlfriend would just be selfish because the only thing it would achieve would be that i would feel less guilty and she’d feel devastated. I feel like a complete w****r for what happened and am not looking for sympathy or anything, i just want to do whats best. I don’t think she’d forgive me, she doesn’t take nonsense. I can’t believe what a bum i’ve been.

thanks you guys i’ve managed to overcome it now after 9 long months. I guess really what worked in the end was not seeing the person i was thinking about and giving it time (which isn’t easy). Really time does sort things out.

it’s damien rice

haha yes but somehow i don’t think sat navs save you… unless technology really is improving.

what are you planning to do first?…asking coz i could do with the input :)

To an extent but not completely.

What’s the problem?

That’s a admirable resolution. It’s not easy to do that, i know because i haven’t. But yes you only get one life make the most of it. Good luck.

Again only you know your b/f and how he will take it. If you do decide to say something i would of thought say it how it is. But i wouldn’t take my advice at the end of the day it’s your life on the line not mine. But again i would say have a good think about it. You probably won’t even like this other guy soon.

That’s a brilliant idea, i hope you do and it helps. It’s good to have someone else to support you as well.

Well then do it and say something…but only if you’re sure. There’s no point losing your b/f for someone you’re not even with. Think about it for a little while.