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• Need a moderator to help get a friend back on to this site… computer was used by someone who got banned, and now the owner of the computer who has posted (2 months, 1 week) ago
  a moderator to help get a friend back on to this site… computer was used by someone who got b…

• Suicide is insidious and its judgment is cruel. posted (3 months, 4 weeks) ago
  Is there no way to stop it? Doctors are trying to “control” its tendencies by perscribin…

• On the crisis line we have what we call regulars… posted (1 year) ago
  This site is no different. There are people on here who wish to be anon and sometimes you may not he…

• Wow, I am gob smacked at was left in my shout box. posted (1 year, 4 months) ago
  I can’t erase it, and I recant my statement of giving someone the benefit of the doubt… …

• Any news on BROKEN WINGS? posted (1 year, 4 months) ago
  ??? SENDING HER LOTS OF LOVE AND BLESSINGS and to her family too! whoever is in contact with her, p…

• Any news on broken wings? posted (1 year, 4 months) ago
  ??? sending her lots of love and blessings and to her family too!…

• This is to the avid hunters… posted (1 year, 4 months) ago
  Thanks for all who responded. I think I’ll just close this post……

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srnityblu's Top (5) Replies by other users' votes

• (3 votes) I lost my 3 month old daughter 8 months ago.
  

  Hello, your daughter is in a good safe place now. You have an opportunity when the pain is gone to be a legacy to her and those that loved her.
  
  Her life was not in vain. She brought love into your life and showed you what it is like to be a mother. Through her eyes she showed you a love and a trust and a bond that no one can take from you.
  
  Take those memories and allow them to heal you. Perhaps when you are ready you can share your love lost with other parents who are going through what you are. Maybe you can be a support for someone who has no one after loosing thier child. Your life is meant to be lived and has not reached its full purpose yet. You are a light shining brightly for someone else you have not met yet.
  You have discovered love, and now you have to release it, let it go and share it. This death was not personal, although you personally have been involved and you feel it’s grip on your life.
  There are people who need you and who need your help to get through this loss. Please do not feel like you now have no reason to live. You lived before she came along, and now that she has come into your life, she passed on some wonderful traits and she opened your heart up where it had never been open to such possiblity before. Now that she opened up the door, it has to remain open to other forms of love, and other possiblities of love. Perhaps when the timing is right, you will become a mother again… You are loved in so many ways, and loss is hard to bear, but you will get through this. Don’t close yourself to potential, when you have been blessed by it.
  Many people do not get the chance to learn and discover what love is, I know myself If I had the opportunity to have a child again, the second chance I would cherish with every fibre of my being… ( I have been given that chance and it’s one I have not regretted)
  God Bless, and stay strong… just take each day as it comes… I’m here if you need to chat.
  
  - written 1 year, 1 month ago – voted for by Left, Devil_on_Earth, ~Grace~

• (2 votes) How do you “toughen up”
  

  If you are intimidated, try stepping out of your comfort zone and engaging yourself in activities you otherwise wouldn’t do- I’m not talking about stretching your moral standing here… I’m talking about maybe wrestling, weightlifting, white water rafting, rock climbing or taking an art class.
  
  It begins with trusting yourself and your own judgment. Liking who you are and building confidence within yourself to know that eventhough people can be cruel and intimidating, the challenges are nothing to sweat over.
  
  How does one begin to trust oneself? By putting oneself in situations that are awkward and allowing oneself to endure knowing that the outcome will not hurt, or destroy the character and well being.
  
  Stepping out on a limb so to speak, take on new challenges, make goals, and do your best to attain them. Knowing that you can do things when you set your mind to it, builds trust and gains positiveness that seems to surround you like an invisible bubble.
  
  Like attracts like for some reason, and those who intimidate easily, the intimidators seem to find like a homeing beakon.
  
  Find some articles and some sayings that lead to inspirational thought and repeat them- so you start believing it within yourself.
  
  Those people that found success, in any shape and form, were sucessful not because of genes or traits, it first began with trust in their own persons.
  
  - written 3 weeks, 2 days ago – voted for by Gynan Tonix, w

• (2 votes) I don’t stay on the main page of help much anymore.
  

  Some little known facts to suicide: In Canada ( I’m not in the States) 2003 statistics showed that 3764 people died from suicide. In 2007 an estimated 5000 people died and an alarming 50,000 people attempted and didn’t sucumb to suicide. As much as statistics aren’t fool proof, these are just reported incidences. Since 1960 the Canadian suicide rate has trippled!
  
  For every 1 person who dies from suicide, 8-10 do not and they have to live with serious life altering concequences, from brain damage, to paralysis to excruciating physical pain and mental torment.
  
  For those who commit ( I say sucumb) to suicide, 100 people are directly effected in some way, and those family members who have to live to pick up the pieces, generally do not and sucumb to suicide themselves.
  
  Everyone has a right to be heard and believed, and this site has taken a turn for the worst. I don’t like to say this, but the people who have ” trolled” and played their insedious games on here only to sit behind their computers and have a laugh at everyone else’s expense… they are gonna need someone’s help someday because statistically speaking if not now… sometime in their lifetime, suicide is going to effect them on a very real and personal level. ( What goes around comes around, we reap what we sow)
  
  That is why it is important for those who are strong enough, who are able to offer an ear to do so. It is those people who volunteer their time and hearts to those who need it, that make this internet site a bit better place.
  
  Everyone has the right to be believed and when someone “tells it like it is” to a suicidal person, it is coming from a place of not understanding. One simply cannot offer a blanket statement ” get over it, I did so can you. The world is hard, get some b@lls and man up”
  
  The heart of a suicidal person is not their own, all hope has been lost and they are looking for sympathy not pity and not rejection… the internal rejection they themselves face is hard enough.
  
  - written 5 months, 1 week ago – voted for by Sans

• (2 votes) I am ok, sorry for the worry I caused.
  

  I am kinda speechless at the moment… you have alot of pple here who care… but it’s up to you to believe it… it’s up to you to do something with your life to heal in a positive way…for you… not for anyone else… until you actually feel and internalize the love and warm blessings and thoughts we are all sending… they are just words…
  
  You do not owe us appologies, but perhaps begin to appologize to yourself so you can begin to forgive yourself… you do not owe us anything… but you owe yourself everything in the sense that there is healing to be done and it cannot begin anywhere except with you. You have to get brutally honest and until you do… this vicious cycle of self sabotage is going to continue.
  
  you are worthy of this life Sarah, You truly do deserve the BEST that life has to offer… you’ve experienced the worst, and now it’s time to find your joy again, don’t ya think? SO how are you going to do that? What are you willing to do to find that?
  
  What kind of outside help to you have? Therapist, sponsor, friends?
  
  Self sabotage is your enemy, not your friend… think it’s time to turn this around… we’re here to help, but you have to do the work… and yes it’s going to be hard… and it’s going to get honest right back at you are you ready for that?
  
  If not, what coping mechanisms do you have in place when stressors seem overwhelming? What ways can you think of that are healthy alternatives to your current coping mechanisms that clearly do not help you?
  
  Are you willing to write your thoughts and FEELINGS down on paper? Are you willing to perhaps take some soup cans… make a target and through all your energy ( NEGATIVE) into throwing that soup can at the bullseye? ( Outside project) And speak your anger into the air… yell your anger… and realease it and let it hit the target…
  Are you willing to write your friend a good bye letter and let your feelings flow, and leave those feelings on the paper, and not RECLAIM them?
  
  Are you willing to take your cutting tools and throw them out… or place them somewhere not readily available… give them to a trusted friend?
  Pour out your alcohol, and dump the drugs( Street) down the toilet, and have a friend go through your house with you, and be your accountability partner and discover your stash spots?
  You cannot affort to do things in secret and behind closed doors… getting honest means becomming an open book for those around you that are willing to help you and hold your hand through the steps to your healing…
  
  It’s up to you…
  
  - written 1 year, 5 months ago – voted for by Marylou, Dots

• (2 votes) I am in love with a married woman.
  

  hun, the best thing you can do for your sanity and your self is to severe ties… it may be that her hubby doesn’t want to go visit because he suspects something going on… why else would she push so hard to go over to your house?
  
  Thier marriage is thier business and you are only told what she wants to tell because she wants sympathy because she feels wounded, but honestly there are many sides to a marriage and perceptions and those children deserve a mom and dad who are together and have a chance to make thier family work.
  
  You deserve someone who isn’t attached who likes you for you and who isn’t confused and want something better, or you who happens to be convenient and perhaps can take her away and rescue her from her life. She has responsibilities and her excaping and running from her marriage shows you just what she would do if she and you were to get together or married.
  
  Take this as a lesson learned and stay away from married women… It is heartbreaking to discover the one you love so deeply ( with problems or without ) has broken the commitment and vows… it makes one question everything about themselves and the relationship… and you know the saying you reap what you sow… or paybacks a Bitc&… well you don’t want your future wife doing this to you and blindsiding you years from now… it’s a dangerous game and the trill of the chase isn’t worth it.
  
  - written 1 year, 6 months ago – voted for by americanss, cattail

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• Everybody Hates Me.
  

  Hello, I am sorry you are feeling so sad, do you feel like talking about it?
  - written 1 week ago

• I don’t celebrate halloween because of religous reasons.
  

  Well, okay, so now Christmas used to be ILLEGAL, and no these holidays, Halloween, Easter, Christmas, ****. Paddy’s day are absolutely NOT in the bible, the one exception is Easter, but it is in the King James version of the bible, and it was put in there on purpose, not by mistake- although it is an error because Easter is not in the original Hebrew. I assure you Courtneybubble, I have all my t’s crossed, I’s dotted and I am not listening, nor have I ever listened to a person behind the pulpit when it comes to matters of scripture. I am truly led by the Holy Spirit, as My God does not absolutely does not recognize man’s ways as HIS ways.
  
  Halloween was - all sait’s eve, and if someone does the research they will find that it was a certain religion that Christianized this day to allow the pagans to keep thier festival as well as Christmas.
  
  How can a holiday be good, when “all Saints day ” was used to pray to the dead saints on the living relatives behalf? No this is clearly against God, but I don’t want to take away from this post… but just wanted to clear the air- I am secure in knowing that NOT partaking in these things, is a personal choice and it is one that has been researched and it is well with my soul.
  
  “As for me and my house we will serve the Lord.”
  G’day. Stay safe.
  - written 1 week, 1 day ago

• If you practice witchcraft but worship God, will you go to hell?
  

  Are you looking for a loop hole to allow you to practice witchcraft?
  
  You are allowed to practice witchcraft, divination, necromancy, sure we all are. Just as Paul says ” Everything is permissible, but not everything is beneficial”
  
  What does witchcraft do exactly? It allows you to “cast spells” call upon demons, familiar spirits… eventhough one does not think they are doing just that, the power does not come from “within” and the bible shows God’s power against the so called power of Pharoh’s gods, by sending diliberate plagues to the Egyptians, mocking each god that was a representation of each plague.
  
  Also, one cannot love God and enjoy, partake in witchcraft, buddhism, etc, because in order for one to love God, one has to know God. I do not doubt that you may know a small degree of God, but to know Him is to love Him. If one truly loved Him, they would not stray so far away from him.
  
  Now please do not get offended, I am not willing to say this if I was not willing to say this about myself. I too once followed after demons, unknowingly, but willingly. I found out the hard way and almost lost my life several times while chasing after something else, because I misunderstood God and didn’t take the time to properly know him. I was enticed by the same one who enticed Eve, who still entices this world today.
  
  He still speaks the same message ” You won’t die, you won’t offend God, go ahead, do what you want, see God doesn’t care because he has not smitted you in the very least”
  
  One cannot worship God, sing praises to Him, thank Him and then thank the devils who are among sculking about. One cannot serve two masters and Jesus says that ” They worship me with thier lips but their hearts are far from me.”
  
  I am not saying anything new that the bible doesn’t already say… but I suppose those who want to continue to do what they desire want a way to do both.
  God will not be mocked, and every knee will bow, and He judges all our hearts and eventually if one keeps turning away and living in denial, he will harden the hearts like he did Pharoh, Saul, and Esau among others.
  - written 1 week, 1 day ago

• Abortion.
  

  Well, if you are trying to understand what is going on with your friend right now, after the abortion, I can say that she is probably feeling confused,and relieved, and empty,feeling she is worthless, and scared,and sometimes she may even feel angry.
  
  She is going to be going through the stages of grief-eventhough she may not understand what is going on with her feelings, she’s going to be up and down for a while. Something happens to a person when they have a life inside of them, and nothing can prepare a person for that, and those feelings do not go away over night, or when the pregnancy is terminated.
  
  Some people slip inside themselves and begin to self medicate the pain away. Trying to find redemption and forgiveness in something that they thought and they knew in their heart was a good idea, but the maternal instincts speak other wise.
  
  Be there for your friend, and encourage her to talk to someone. Maybe when she is ready, she could write a letter to her child, and then sending it on a pond, a creek, or lighting it on fire…
  
  She’s gonna need a friend who isn’t going to judge. Try to be that for her.
  
  Thanks.
  Hugs.
  - written 1 week, 2 days ago

• does anyone know if there is a phone helpline for if you feel suicidal in the u.k ?
  

  Hello, if your friend for any reason cannot, or does not want to talk to the crisis line… I’m a crisis line worker. My email is available for you, or your friend to use. srnityblu(@)yahoo.com
  
  http://suicide-is-not-painless.blogspot.com
  - written 1 week, 2 days ago

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