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Not sure I understand.

Thank you, Dr. Jackass. In much the same light, perhaps your bad advice and flippant remarks will come back upon you. Karma? Get back to your ESPN and leave serious matters to momma and dadda.

Perhaps poetry really could help you here; find a poetic voice, and replace the compulsion to cut yourself with the relief you feel through artistic expression.

Poetry should flow from the heart and soul. This is a travesty of poetic expression. There must be something real you can express for your class.

I’m nsnotorio.

There’s obviously a pretty good reason you are breaking up with him, though it seems as though perhaps it isn’t what you’d prefer; maybe he is abusive, or controlling or cheating, etc? In this case, it’d probably be best just to be around friends and stay casual, and single, for a while. Avoid rebounds and such. It’s a tough thing, ending a relationship.

Is he emotionally or physically abusive to you or your mom?

I think you are getting very much ahead of yourself. Can you tell us what is wrong at home so we can help talk you through some of it?

What is the reason or reasons that you want to run away?

Do you still live at home?

[quote miskat]On the whole ‘he should have told you sooner’ issue.

Yes, I think he should have. If that is the case.

I am not going to put any blame here, but it is a fact that a lot of people don’t hear something if they don’t want to hear it, not even when it is told repeatedly…

(Just needed to have that said…)[/quote]

Good point.

I agree that he definitely should have told you this sooner, as it is an important issue to you and is with many of us when choosing a marriage partner, but you shouldn’t necessarily be concerned with what your mother will think. Your mother has little to do with your marriage to this man, and ultimately you need to decide for yourself if you can create a union with someone who believes differently. While I feel it is his right to choose whatever he will choose to believe in, it is yours as well to choose whether you can marry him now. He has not been honest with you, and you should not try to rebuild his faith. Perhaps if you truly love him, you can overlook this issue and trust that God will intervene, according to His will. Marriage is about sacrifice, and there will be many many times when you will need to remember that, as people are human and make many mistakes regardless of what faith they belong to. If you love him unconditionally, I would suggest going ahead with your wedding and placing your personal faith and trust in God; if you can’t compromise, however, it is also good to deal with that now before it’s too late and you are in a marriage that you will never feel happy with.

[quote spiratec9][quote smoknbowl]yh[/quote]

why do you have a tommato plant leaf for your icon?[/quote]

…That’s a Marijuana leaf.

I’m actually in my late twenties. I think you have some good points here.

I thought it was a good question honestly.