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Can I delete a post? posted (2 years, 1 month) ago
Can I even edit a post here? I somehow replied to a 3 1/2 year old post, I’d like to just r…
We all love this country! posted (4 years, 7 months) ago
This is very powerful and encouraging!
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Please click The Breast Cancer site each day to help provide free mammograms. During the month of …
Just curious… posted (4 years, 12 months) ago
Is this girl spinning clockwise or counter clockwise? (This is about right brain vs. left brain.) …
Are you going through a break-up? posted (5 years, 1 month) ago
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I just thought maybe those of you going through it could post here about it… there seem to …
Posting Youtube Videos? posted (5 years, 1 month) ago
How come it doesn’t work for me here?…
Enable Email? posted (5 years, 1 month) ago
Can anyone tell me how to change the setting that allows others to contact me by email? I canR…
LOL… this sure has become confusing… but I still say when in doubt, wait!!! Don’t make a decision just yet… just accept where you’re at, and I think the answer will become clearer to you if you give it a bit more time….
- written 5 years ago – voted for by Bejus
Congratulations to you!!! And I agree, you don’t need a relationship with someone who is into drugs. But let me say this…. If he’s really going to change, and you are going to insist that he does so, make sure this is apparent BEFORE you set a date to get married. Marriage is a commitment, for better or worse, sickness and in health, etc. You should never go into a marriage expecting someone to change, because more often than not (unless THEY really want to change) they do not…. what you see is what you get. If he says you are trying to change him, that doesn’t sound so good… you see, HE has to want to change for himself. But I do hope this works out for you! Just realize that with any addiction, there is a strong likelihood that a person will slip up again…. so if I were you I’d wait awhile before setting a date on the marriage commitment, till you see signs that he is serious about quitting drugs.
- written 5 years, 1 month ago – voted for by issybelle, OliveOil
You are too sweet to be worrying about HIM getting hurt, when he’s about to go for YOUR best friend? What’s he doing to YOU?!! Let him get hurt, he’s being a jerk, asking your best friend out! I know you care, but he’s being pretty heartless toward your feelings!!
- written 5 years, 1 month ago – voted for by Desert Sand
Sadly, there’s never an easy way to end a relationship….and it hurts… and it’s only normal to find it so tempting to just ease the pain of the separation from that person who’s been your life and go back to what is at least comfortable. It sounds like you are finally realizing that, and know it’s time to end the vicious cycle. If things never improve in the relationship, there’s no sense in going back to it anymore. It won’t be easy, so you just have to be determined to break the cycle of returning to something that doesn’t work, and instead leave yourself open to something that might work in the future. You won’t find it if you stay tied up in a not-so-great relationship!! So… keep yourself busy with other things, try not to dwell, and just let the difficult time pass. Keep some distance, because contact only makes it harder. Eventually it will pass. It’s just that you have to develop a whole new routine in your life that doesn’t include him, and that takes a lot of adjustment!! Best of luck to you!!
- written 4 years, 6 months ago – voted for by tiffanyx7
A little distance from you might wake her up and make her start worrying about what you are doing… ;) Don’t let her take you for granted that you are just there no matter what!!
- written 4 years, 11 months ago – voted for by jayl
LOL thanks for the help!! It’s not that I said anything I’m ashamed of… it’s just that SOMEhow I answered a post that was only 3 1/2 years old? duh…… :D
- written 2 years, 1 month ago
Oh…. I guess I should be more careful with things I post then! Thanks!
I see I can edit THIS post, but can I edit a reply I wrote to someone else’s post? I can’t seem to find any way to do that…
- written 2 years, 1 month ago
You said “I want it so bad to really be loved to be in a relationship where I matter where I am appreciated for being me where just being me is enough where I can feel at ease knowing that this person loves me for REAL!!!! It is so hard to try and be perfect all the time to walk on egg shells all the time it’s almost like holding my breath.
It is extremely hard.”
You have to hear yourself. You already know this is no good for you. You already know he doesn’t care enough or seem to value or respect you. He’s trampling all over your heart and feelings and taking full advantage of the fact that you love him. But this is not fair to you, nor healthy. He might say the pretty words, but his actions do not match what he says, therefore they are just BS. Sincerity shows in the actions. You cannot MAKE someone love you and give you the respect you deserve if it’s not in them to do so, and if he doesn’t care enough to consider your feelings when he behaves badly, it’s really time to walk away. This is NOT the kind of relationship you want. It’s better to have NO relationship than this. It may hurt for awhile, but you have to come to accept you cannot make someone love you and this will only bring pain and heartache, and why prolong it. Be alone for awhile, and only then can something new and GOOD enter your life again. Give yourself some time to heal.
This is not a good situation for either of you really. And you are not being a very good friend to YOURSELF. You cannot and should not have to live “walking on eggshells”. There is no future in this relationship, no happy ending, unless he were to change dramatically… and it’s just not very likely. It is obvious he is not capable of a decent and fair relationship right now, one that considers and respects the feelings of the other. He is very selfish. Eventually it will no doubt come to an end anyway, and he’ll move on to hurt someone else. Spare yourself more months or years of misery. Take your soul back, and your right to find happiness, peace, and REAL love. Don’t stay with someone who clearly doesn’t care or respect you as they should. That’s not love, he’s very selfish and insincere. It’s time to walk away from that and say No, that is not what I want… Open your door to something “real” in the future by walking away now…
If he does NOT care about your feelings nor give you respect, walk away. Over time you would find that you can’t really love someone who doesn’t treat you decently either… you of course lose respect for them too. Don’t hang on for the wrong reasons, and don’t settle for emotional abuse from this user. Perhaps he has narcissistic personality disorder.
- written 2 years, 1 month ago
Shed, how are you doing now? I’m sorry, I was away from this place for quite awhile. I can certainly understand all the questions you have in your mind, and wanting some answers to find closure. It’s hard to accept that sometimes there just aren’t any for us… but perhaps in time it will all start to make sense. I hope you have been able to move on either which way.
- written 4 years, 6 months ago
Sadly, there’s never an easy way to end a relationship….and it hurts… and it’s only normal to find it so tempting to just ease the pain of the separation from that person who’s been your life and go back to what is at least comfortable. It sounds like you are finally realizing that, and know it’s time to end the vicious cycle. If things never improve in the relationship, there’s no sense in going back to it anymore. It won’t be easy, so you just have to be determined to break the cycle of returning to something that doesn’t work, and instead leave yourself open to something that might work in the future. You won’t find it if you stay tied up in a not-so-great relationship!! So… keep yourself busy with other things, try not to dwell, and just let the difficult time pass. Keep some distance, because contact only makes it harder. Eventually it will pass. It’s just that you have to develop a whole new routine in your life that doesn’t include him, and that takes a lot of adjustment!! Best of luck to you!!
- written 4 years, 6 months ago
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