cattail's shout trail with ambrutellow - Help.com

Well, it sounds like some positive changes… a new job, a new place…these should be good for you!!! I’m glad to hear that part at least!!

I’m glad you are doing well! I’m going through pretty much a lot of the same things, sadly. But I got a new job and I’m looking for a new apartment so at least I have a few other things to focus on.

Hi there, stranger!! *HUGS* I hope to be around more again!! I’m OK… been keeping busy! How are things with you?!

Are you back?! How are you?

:) Of course I wouldn’t get annoyed with you!!! I’m just sorry I haven’t been here sometimes. I know you’ve had such a hard time, so be gentle with yourself as you work on putting YOU back together… it will all be worth it. Happier days ahead, I’m sure… try to believe it… and you’ll see!!! You will get through this!!

self help books are a good idea. and thanks for e-mailing me back. i really appreciate all the advice and support you’ve given me and keep giving me. thanks for not getting annoyed with me

Things will change, they really will… the truth is you need a mourning period till you feel ready to go back out in the world and meet someone new… maybe some new friends as well! It will come in time… you’ll know when you feel the motivation and energy coming back. I’m quite a bit like you too… don’t have any real close friends anymore… ones I used to have moved away and I never really made new ones! For now I think you just focus on healing your spirit for awhile… maybe read some good self-help books or something… good encouragement as you work toward a new life ahead! :)

I don’t know, the days are going by and its not getting any easier. I try to go out and do things but all I see is couples or friends hanging out and I’m so lonely and all alone. I just want some one. Everyone always says to me you must have friends, everyone has at least 1 friend but I don’t have any.

*hugs* It really just takes time… time does heal, it really does. In the meantime, be good to YOU, do whatever you feel up to doing, and try to push yourself a little bit if you can… but not too hard… try to get out more or call on friends, find ways to keep yourself busy as you get through the days right now!!! Take up a hobby or something you enjoy at home. You will get there… I promise you….

I don’t think it will get better. every once in a while I have a good day then everything just falls apart again. Sometimes I wonder why I even get up or take a shower or get dressed. I’m not going anywhere and no one’s coming to see me. I’m just alone, constantly. I just keep hanging in there but nothing is changing

*hugs* Stay strong this time. You even gave him one more chance, and he showed you he’s just insincere… You’ll start feeling better, hang in there!! You’ve just been through so much, it will take awhile to feel like yourself again. Eventually you WILL feel so much better (when you’re free of his misery!)!! Hang in there.

I’m getting so angry with people, I don’t know what’s wrong with me.

Glad you are ok. I was talking to him again but nothing changed like he said it would. Even though he told me he wanted to work things out and be with me, it wasn’t the truth. He just wanted to treat me like shit and have me around in case he wanted to hook up. so I told him two days ago that i am done. And he hasn’t tried to contact me so I guess he doesn’t care anyway. I’m really gonna try to stay away this time, even though I’m already having regrets

Hi there… how are you? Holding up OK, I hope?! I’m sorry I haven’t been around… I’m doing OK…. sorry to worry people!!! What’s happening now… have you stopped talking to him ???!

You haven’t been on in a while, I Hope everything is ok

I just wrote a bunch of txts to him. i miss him so much and now i really hate myself. i wish i could take them back

I’m feeling really lonely so I’m not that great, but thanks for asking :)

*hugs* How are you doing?

Hope you’re having a good weekend

It’s going to take time till you feel up to doing things… just do what you can, and allow yourself time to heal. It’s OK. People really don’t mind listening to others… that’s what friends and family are for!! In fact, it often makes people feel good when you confide in them, and they can sympathize, and then they too feel like they can share some of their troubles with you. It brings people closer… it’s a good thing!! Everyone has problems and needs someone to talk to. And the people here… well, that’s why we’re here!! Nobody’s forcing us… we answer posts because we like to try to help. You aren’t letting any of us down… we’re just sorry for what you’re going through. There’s no time schedule here on how long it takes to heal from a bad relationship. You take it one day at a time and try to do positive things for yourself as much as you can as you work through this. There are so many people here going through similar things, and they will tell you it takes time, or they wonder if they’ll ever feel good again. But it’s just terrible that you think you deserve to be treated badly!!! Why??? Nobody deserves that… nobody!!! We are all human beings and should be treated as such…. and most definitely by someone who supposedly loves us… they are supposed to care for us, not hurt us!! When someone continually hurts us, they are no longer a friend and not someone we want in our lives. You SO deserve better… and one day, when you’re ready, you will find something much, much better!!!

Nothing is going well. I really feel like I’m making an effort to go and do things and try to take my mind off everything. But honestly, I’d rather just shut myself alone in my room and stay there. It’s too hard to do anything. It’s too hard to pretend like I’m happy so I won’t upset other people. I have an aunt in California and a sister in Miami who seem to care and both of them I never see and hardly get to talk to. And I don’t like talking to them about me because I don’t want to burden people with my problems. It is extremely hard for me to open up to people. Even on this site i feel bad that people have taken time to try and help me and that I am not better yet. I want to help myself but i can’t imagine ever looking at myself and thinking I deserve better than some one who treats me like shit.

*hugs* So glad to hear from you!!! Oh, please don’t be sorry… I enjoy talking to you and I’m only so very sorry I haven’t been here when you are!!! Your thinking doesn’t seem distorted… your self-confidence has simply taken a beating because of how you’ve been treated!! You most definitely can be helped, but of course in the end it comes down to helping yourself! We just try to make you see things… like your lack of confidence, and how badly you were treated, and that you will eventually feel SO much better once you let go of a bad relationship. It’s not easy, I know. Most of us only know this through our own experiences… we’ve been there too!! Please, I love to talk with you and if I’m not here don’t give up on me!! :) I so want to see you get through this… and you will… so don’t lose hope!! How are things now??

I’m ok, I left for a few days. I’m really sorry if you got worried. I’m not trying to worry anyone especially the people who are helping me. Maybe people are right in saying that it is impossible to help me because my thinking is so distorted. I don’t know. I kinda started to count on you to be the only person that could help me and I’m sorry for that. It’s putting too much pressure on you and you have your own life to worry about

Where are you?? I’m hoping you’re OK!!! I’m getting worried now!!!

How are you doing today? I’m thinking about you… hope you are hanging in!!! *hugs*

Oh, I’m so sorry I missed you!!! You absolutely made the right decision. The sooner you move past this, the better things will be!! I promise it will get better!!!

He is completely ignoring me again. I sent him a message (because he won’t talk to me) that says he cannot be in my life anymore. please tell me i made the right decision. i’ve been sobbing for hours

I need your help. Youre the only person who hasn’t given up on me. My family hates me. I went back to the guy and now he won’t talk to me. I don’t know what to do. I wanna cut myself iwanna die please help me i need some one to help me

*hugs*

Hmmm… yes, magnesium deficiency is a possibility too… I have spasms in my neck too!! Time to get checked I guess. Glad to hear you’re doing OK!! :)

oh thanks :) I’m doing ok. My mom got home today from Italy so I’ve just been hearing stories about their trip.

I had a magnesium deficiency and it affected my muscle contractions and breathing. I don’t mean to stick my nose in to your conversation I just saw you might have an iron deficiency. I hope you feel better! Goodnight

Hi… just wondering how you’re doing!!