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• ok what dose it mean when you ask them if you are their
  

  his actions will speak louder than his words. I’m not there, so I can’t say for sure, but I want to say that it’s okay for you to listen to your intuition. If something doesn’t feel right, then it isn’t. Some men will reject you when you show interest and come toward them. But then, they will pursue you when you decide you’ve had enough and move away from them… these are not men who can be truly intimate with you or commit to you.
  - written 1 year, 11 months ago

• My new husband kept a separate bank account to hide trying to pay off credit card debt, he also lied to me about.
  

  Sounds like you are doing the right things. Between being a parent and dealing with the finances, it also sounds like you are dealing with a lot stress. Do you have access to some brief counseling through your health care plan or employer? I know it’s helped me in the past to take advantage of offerings like. It helps to have a third party with the training listen to my stresses and help me sort them out, figure out how to approach this stuff in my relationships. Personally, I try to keep in mind that anger is really one of three things: hurt, frustration, or disappointment. If I can figure out which it is, then I can express that to my husband honestly without the anger part. He seems much more willing to respond when I do that (name-calling is the worst we can do; being honest about our feeling is better). None of us get it right all the time, but I feel like it’s a start to handling stress in my relationship. For what it’s worth… advice is cheap… hang in there (this, too shall pass).
  - written 1 year, 11 months ago

• DOES ANYBODY HERE HAVE A ZWINKY?
  

  have you thought of getting off-line and joining a group a real people out in the world? It’s not as scary as it seems. Check out Meetup.com for ideas…
  - written 1 year, 11 months ago

• My husband just doesn’t want me.
  

  http://www.babycenter.com/0_what-i-wish-id-known-about-relationships-and-new-parenthood_1468952.bc
  - written 1 year, 11 months ago

• My new husband kept a separate bank account to hide trying to pay off credit card debt, he also lied to me about.
  

  I’m concerned about the advice given above. Listen: when you marry, your husband’s debt can affect your credit rating. I don’t know your situation, but if you have joint bank accounts then his debt will affect you. It a problem you need to work out together, so he needs to start by being honest with you about where his debt is at. “Protecting” you from the information is denial and may cause more financial harm later on. Talk with him about it and then know that there are private, local, and state resources that can help you and him deal with how to consolidate or repay the debit in a way that will be benenficial to you family in the long term. There are ways out - hiding from this only makes it worse. You are a couple and need to face this together.
  - written 1 year, 11 months ago

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