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• I’m interested in my friend, but I keep getting mixed signals from him. posted (6 months, 2 weeks) ago
  We’ll be completely friends for a couple of days- and then we’ll go on chemistry overdr…

• What’s the difference between a very close platonic relationship and a romantic relationship? posted (6 months, 3 weeks) ago
  Because I have several friendships that seem to push the line. Like a friendship with my roommate…

• DnD Dungeon master allowed me to charm an item, any ideas on how to charm it (to be used on team member)? posted (6 months, 3 weeks) ago
  It is a collar… to be given to a werewolf team member. I am a manipulative bard- and he is a…

• What is a question I can ask that someone HAS to reply? posted (6 months, 3 weeks) ago
  I have a friend who answers “No” every time I text him while he is in the same room. A…

• Friends or Flirting? posted (6 months, 4 weeks) ago
  What do you think? Attention on me all day long except around people he doesn’t see all the…

• I really thought he liked me, but now this is this other girl. posted (6 months, 4 weeks) ago
  Back before we started flirting, he admitted he liked her- but then stated that he no longer liked …

• How to stop being an idiot with the guy I like. posted (7 months) ago
  I originally wrote this wondering what was going wrong… but I realized that I was rebuffing a…

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Not Me's Top (5) Replies by other users' votes

• (1 vote) wrongfully lustful.
  

  The fact that it turns you on doesn’t bug me at all. That’s normal, in fact the girls who are offended by it may be more attracted to it than you think. (Biology)
  
  The fact that you are willing to settle worries me. You are worth more than a one night stand. To get over this- Raise you standards. Only be willing to let guys in who are worthy of your admiration. Raise your self-esteem. Go do something completely “you”- and enjoy it.
  
  - written 7 months, 1 week ago – voted for by half pint

• (1 vote) i dont know how to close it
  

  Umm, ditch them both and find new friends. Seems like your relationships with eachother are being abused on each side (you’re telling secrets- they’re sticking you in the middle… etc.)
  
  But at the very least- if you aren’t being compatible with (1)… then it is kind of a waste of both your times to nurture that relationship. (sounds cruel… but I’m saying it bluntly)
  
  Say “I’m sorry (1), I betrayed your confidence telling (2).” then, start distancing a bit from (1)… find new things to do.
  
  - written 7 months, 3 weeks ago – voted for by jodie52

• (1 vote) Im a 5″8′ 16 year old girl, and im fed up of feeling like i can’t wear heels because i tower over everybody else.
  

  Hey, I am exactly your height… and I’ve felt exactly the same way. I also happen to have lots of really short friends… I LOVE heals, they are my favorite.
  
  Good news, Everyone will get taller really fast. I was 5′8″ since the beginning of Jr. High (and stopped growing, luckily) and so I felt too tall for a long time. Now I look around and I feel so “average”… It is odd sometimes, to walk in a crowd and find out you are average, rather than towering. I realized that I was taller for so long, I didn’t realize people had caught up. I realized those boys I found “short” are actually 5′8″ 5′9″, which is my height or taller.
  
  Random Stats:
  
  Average Female: 5′6″ (you’re only 2 inches taller, that’s nothing)
  Average person male or female: 5′8″ (100% normal height)
  (I don’t know average male height off the top of my head, although I could assume it is about 6′ based on the other two numbers)
  
  (I’m 18 now b.t.w. It changed really fast.)
  
  - written 8 months, 3 weeks ago – voted for by lil_mizzbecc

• (1 vote) Perfection…
  

  There can only be imperfection if perfection is defined. When defined by religion- no one is perfect. When defined by the soul- everyone is perfect.
  
  - written 1 year ago – voted for by chunkymove

• (1 vote) *attension; “this post is closed, your kind replies for this post are no longer needed, thank you!
  

  I mostly like about guys is all those things that girls don’t seem to have. There is a GUY essence. I don’t know how to describe it. I guess some would call it masculinity- and I guess it sort-of is, … Somebody would also go *nudge-wink* Pheramones… (which is true, guys smell fantastic- that that isn’t the point).
  Make sense? No, I didn’t think so.
  
  Mostly, what I want from guys is intimacy. (I know, I’m awful for saying it) I want someone who I can love. I mean, I love people, I love my friends, I love my family, I love my pets. - But the “my other half” kind of love. I have little things that I’d like from a guy: intellegince, sense of humor, being taller than me, etc. But I don’t have a rule about “I’m not going to date a guy who isn’t at least 1.3682 inches taller than me.” (of course, if you are shorter- the chances of having chemistry is kind of slim… I try not to let that influence it- but it is true)
  
  My dream guy is (well, a total dream) Someone who can leave me alone but always be there. Someone who I can tell anything, and they will tell me I’m being an idiot (or yes, that dress does make your butt look big) but will still love and accept me regardless. Someone who is smarter than me, but never makes me feel stupid. Someone who will work out with me, even when they are much more fit than me. Someone who can do romance without the hollywood crap (leave the flowers, chocolates, and diamonds at the stores).
  
  My only ‘rule’ is I have to love-love them. (I swear, I’m going to have to turn down my best friend someday because I loved them, but it wasn’t enough) I’d rather be an old spinster in a mansion with a million cats then to marry someone that wasn’t “the one”.
  
  If I fell in love, I imagine (and since I haven’t- this is only an imagine) that I would drive him insane. Hell, if I’m going to live the rest of my life with him- I’m not going to hold back on my stupid little habits that I hide from others. I am going to show them BEFORE the marriage. He’s going to have to live with them. However, I also believe (from experince) that if it really did bug him, I really would work to change (geniunly, not just hide it like I do from others). I imagine something a lot like “my best friend” sort of relationship.
  
  (Note: I’m nuts, advice, stay way from girls like me… I’m the type of girl that guys whine about being unable to understand.)
  
  - written 1 year, 6 months ago – voted for by JesusMurphy

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• Do you think you can hate somone but love the hell outta them at the same time?
  

  YES! In fact, I would argue that I can’t hate someone until I love them.
  - written 6 months ago

• Do people believe in fate?
  

  I believe in it.
  
  It’s not that I’m not in control- but there are things that yes- Seem almost destined.
  
  Too much “coincidence” and amazing (but completely unpredictable) things have happened in my life.
  - written 6 months, 1 week ago

• Is being really interested in someone the same as being in love?
  

  Interest is fascination… lust, infatuation, etc. It is brought on by something that captures the attention. It requires no Love, attachment, commitment… it’s just- the desire to see more.
  
  Out of interest- love CAN develop… also friendship. If that infatuation has died- it doesn’t mean you care less. In fact, if you still care at all- it could mean you care a lot more.
  
  The person (for whom the feelings are for…) can feel friendship for this person, even if it isn’t more. They could still value something they get from that person. Attention, friendship, etc.
  - written 6 months, 2 weeks ago

• How to tell someone you’re not interested who REALLY thinks you are?
  

  Well he definitely isn’t wiser in this situation. He hasn’t had any more experience than I have… but he is quite desperate… which is just that much worse.
  - written 6 months, 3 weeks ago

• Compliments…
  

  Perhaps she gives it to your sister because she sees that yous sister needs it more.
  
  Do you think that is a possibility?
  - written 6 months, 3 weeks ago

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