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YES! In fact, I would argue that I can’t hate someone until I love them.

I believe in it.

It’s not that I’m not in control- but there are things that yes- Seem almost destined.

Too much “coincidence” and amazing (but completely unpredictable) things have happened in my life.

Interest is fascination… lust, infatuation, etc. It is brought on by something that captures the attention. It requires no Love, attachment, commitment… it’s just- the desire to see more.

Out of interest- love CAN develop… also friendship. If that infatuation has died- it doesn’t mean you care less. In fact, if you still care at all- it could mean you care a lot more.

The person (for whom the feelings are for…) can feel friendship for this person, even if it isn’t more. They could still value something they get from that person. Attention, friendship, etc.

Well he definitely isn’t wiser in this situation. He hasn’t had any more experience than I have… but he is quite desperate… which is just that much worse.

Perhaps she gives it to your sister because she sees that yous sister needs it more.

Do you think that is a possibility?

Well that’s the plan ;-)

[quote lostinatoodarkpark]yea, not compatible that seems k

or you could say that you have a boyfriend now or even better that you are a lesbian? hows that? LOL[/quote]

Ha ha ha, Ironically….

One of the issues I’m dealing with it now is I have a major potential boyfriend…

and Ironically- Everyone knows my roommate is secretly my lesbian lover.

I’m 5′8″… and I am EXACTLY the height I want to be.

For me… I just say whatever I feel like…

Sometimes if there is an inside joke- then I’ll say something different… but it matters more how I say it… if I say “bye” as in “I notice you are leaving and it is polite to say good-bye” then it means very little. If I say “Bye” as in “I can’t wait to see you again” or “I wish you weren’t leaving.” Then it means I like you. If I say “bye” as in “good riddance”… well…

What I say means very little… (again, unless there is an inside joke)

oh fun, that really sucks

Don’t tell her things you can’t have her finance know.

Especially if it’s something that will make her anxious. (Like some problem she’ll want to help.)

Fiance, at that point they are VERY, usually irrationally close.

I have a friend like that… luckily I’m close enough to her boyfriend (not YET fiance) so when she does tell, then I’m covered. She’s the one I tell EVERYTHING too. I’m always a little disappointed that she can’t keep her mouth shut- but we work really hard to make amends we when pull crap on each other (I have not kept my mouth shut on certain things as well.) Also, we both work towards not doing it anymore.

This doesn’t have to be the end with your friend if you still think she’s worth it as a friend. If not, I’d say it isn’t worth the effort… and to leave it.

Wow- you could be my little sister (in like one month, 10 days)

Stand up for yourself, continue to.

I was cruel to my sister… and I regret that. (I started making efforts to make amends about 3 years ago… but I can still see the affects of it)

Tell her specifically how it is affecting you.

Perhaps ask your mom to talk to her, have her pull the “You’re nineteen, grow up” card.

What happened to him?

Then get a job.

[quote DoubleGin19]isnt DnD like monopoly? its like the never ending game?

and i wasnt making an attack on you by saying your modest with the fact your always busy ^_^ i was just wondering how someone who is always busy, and does such charming things as watch a play. can be down and upset.[/quote]

It is totally a never ending game. I suppose the DM could choose to have it end… but mine probably won’t.

I’m upset, but I am happy. (read above to see explanation)… I just needed to talk to people- to get the anxiousness out of me, that way I can deal with it. Actually, being always busy is one of the causes of my issues. I am always busy- so I didn’t study enough. I’m always busy, so I didn’t want to focus on my job (so I got fired). I am always busy, so I didn’t pay close enough attention to my really good friend (and now that I’m trying to make up for it… she’s still hurt by me and it’s manifesting in different ways.)