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if you find anything let me know, I’m trapped at home too. and have looked everywhere for some way I can work at home

good luck
Vic

Im from the UK so I don’t know how things work there, so ignore me of anything is wrong.
but the best thing I can say is you get an extra job just to make ends meet. try local shop for a few hours a week or a satuday type job until they sort your husbands unemployment out and hopefully it wont affect it as much, but it might get you through.
Check the legal things about you earning first though.
Also check local sevices and charities to see if there is a form of crisis loan you can get until this is all sorted or free advice or help. I know its a long shot but you have a family to look after you should be due to something.

Good luck I hope it works out soon

Vicki

that was supposed to be punchbag things not thongs. oops sorry

Good for you I hope your managing.
I found walking helped me get over the worst of it. The worse the feelings get the harder I walked
(luckily we got a dog not long after I started the walking so it kept me safe,(make sure someone knows which direction your goin in).
Maybe you could get one of those punchbag thongs,they’re quite reasonable now. I fancy getting one for myself coz since I had my accident I can’t walk it off like I used too. Though it would more likely knock me over than me knock it over.
Sorry for waffling
V

I was going to say adreneline

I have same problem let me know if you find a solution.
mines been going on the same time. it s a nightmare, I have not slept yet an its like half seven;
the only advice I have is try and go to bed at a set time for a week whether you sleep or not, then if it doesnt suit you try a different time for a week and so on until you find a time your body can settle comfortably at. Its a routine you should try and keep up if it works.
Also try not to go on the computer after a certain time at night because I know I get distracted on it and end up staying up longer than I should and it means you cant wind down before sleep.

hope that made sense
Vicki

too low. it will break her heart no mattter what shes done to you. you’ve broken a trust of someone who loves you. I’m not sure there is any positive advice I can give you/
Sorry

Your child should be the centre of you world you should do what is best for it.
An unhappy relashionship can destroy a childs faith in relashionships but so can a marrige break up.
you should talk it out with your husband and see if he thinks there is a marriage left to save, he may feel the same as you, before you let him know about the affair(if he doesn’t know).
Then reconsider your options, if the new guy cares he will wait, if he doesn’t he wasn’t worth it.

you should get yourself a lawyer as you should get the house if you want custody of your child, especially as he had the affair first. No one will let a mother and child sleep on the streets. but becareful, mothers who have an affair are often regarded badly because of the sexism that still exists in our society.so the quicker you get a lawyer the better.
But your main priority should be your child in my opinion.
Hope this helps a bit.
Best wishes
V

it prob the graphix card thats what it was with mine.
apparently its the main problem after memory.
if you go to sims 2 website there is advice. I think your supposed to run it as a window.
The folloing works on mine in the UK but you may need different settings for yours, so please sheck the sims 2 website before you do anything drastic.

To make a window for Sims 2 you
create a extra sims 2 shortcut on the desktop
then open the properties menu by right clicking on the shortcut.
then in the target bar put a space then -w after the writing thats already there,
then click Apply,
Run the game from the new shortcut and it should be in a window.
hopefully it will be quicker.
I kept the old shortcut too just to be safe.

also you need to close unnecessary background tasks live antiVirus software when your not going to be on the internet.

I hope that made sense.
hope it helps
Vicki

angels maybe, I’ve sensed them too and so does my dog, more and more lately.
My mothers an occasional empath.
I sometimes talk in a funny langauge but I can’t understand it all the time and sometimes forget english. My mother freaks out about it alot, but I don’t think its a bad thing.
so I think your only as sane as I am( I don’t think that has a number).
I wrote a big reply to your thing about your DID thing but it disappeared somehow.

An empath would not try to rape someone unless they wanted to be raped themselves, or maybe liked to selfharm. Unless they were unconcious of what they were doing. Is this an IQ test? are you a writer?
everything is normal except the rape part. but people don’t seem to think rapists are insane.
If you truly have an invisible stalker it maybe draining you or/and causing your empathic abitities, you should get cleansed.

All I can say is I totally agree.
I think they are scared of us, because they think we would make them look bad if we did anything better than them so they don’t give us the chance.
But we try and thats what matters.

If you find an answer to what else we should do to make it right let me know.

V

Make sure you clease your chakras regularly or use relaxing deep breathing, stops you getting sticky patches.
If you have a safety chord from your body somewhere (like an imaginary umbilical chord, I’m sure you know about it) it stops your fear from blocking you.(Well it did me.)
It will come when you least expect. for years I was half out only recently when I’d all but given up it all came away.

I know this is a bit late but I hope it helps.
Might seeya up there.
V

I’m no expert but this girl sounds like me when I was younger so I hope this helps:-
there could be a few reasons she’s acting like this other than the fact she may have decided it was better for both of you to move on.

Maybe at first she was testing you, hoping you’d turn up with a bunch of flowers and an engagement ring(dont make any rash moves now, she’s in a difficult situation. She needs time)or she was sick of the fights and thought you would appreiciate her more if she split up with you. Maybe you hurt her too much this time.
maybe someone has told her lies about you like that you cheated a million times or Maybe something happened to her that she didn’t want you to know about, because it would hurt you too much?

often we do what will hurt others most to hurt our selves.

Then she probably liked the freedom and then lovey dovey stuff (i.e. being apprieciated)of the new relashionships. and now she’s confused and doesn’t want to hurt this new guy or you.

At the minute she probably thinks your a stalker no matter how she feels about you.

Leave it a day or two and then if she doesn’t get back to you-
You need to ask her the main reason she broke up with you, say you want to get it straight in your head so you can move on(note her reaction to the you moving on bit, make sure your on the phone or face to face. she can edit her reaction on email).

(tred carefully)

Tell her that your going to let her be but - Let her know that you will always be there for her if she needs you and that you love her.
don’t get in touch for a few days/even weeks. she obviously has things she needs to work through.
Then just call her every so often to say Hi or happen to pass her house, try and be just a friend, if she loves you she wont want that.
she sounds as confused as you or she wouldn’t even be talking to you like that about this guy, never mind kissing you. (so don’t expect her to act rationally.)
She needs time to work through her feelings, you need to trust that if it is the real thing then somehow it will work out. If you push it your relashionship may be damaged irrepribly(sorry about spelling).

But don’t stop trying, be subtley romantic. be yourself as you were when you fell for each other.

Also work out what bothers you most,losing her or her going out with someone else.
work out why you were fighting- you can’t fix it unless you know what was broken.

Most of all try and remember who you are as a person.

I hope this is ok I just took it from my experience and that of my friends.
Good luck. I hope it works out best for both of you

V

the misconceptions people have about those who need to take painkillers because of their Chronic pain.
i.e. people think they are weak