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That’s cool. We have people come here and call it home. They stay because they like the people and it’s safe. They bring there families and that is how our country was build. Keep me posted if you can:) My Province was build from the Irish:)

Our government here in Canada are working through some issues with immigration. The federal departments are being more selective.

As I mentioned the Provincial link will provide you with assistance on how to come here. We pay these people to help you:)

The U.S. is not our concern and I have no knowledge of their programs. We employee people to recruit you to our country and I try not to get involved with commenting on U.S. affairs. The links I gave you have people that are more familiar with these issues and maybe you could email them.

A lot of people including ourselves feel that the U.S. and Canada are the same…lol. No we only speak the same language:) If you want or need a safe and good place to live and can offer a passion for these values, then people here will help.

If you are looking for a place to get rich…then you must have some unique skills. We are a country of families and communities. I hope I was of some help:)

I’ll do some research and get back to you:)

I’ve opened my email to you, so you may ask me more questions more safely and privately:)

I’ll start you off with my best link:)
http://www.mcaf.nb.ca/

I have some personal contacts and can send you some good links if you’re serious:)

Hi, I live in Canada:) Your skills are in demand and I help if I can.

Oh…

I thought it was just someone you met and maybe exchanged pics with or phone numbers on the net.
=)

“Im trying not to let myself sink in too much when the future is still grey. “

Yea, I understand…sometimes its inevitable because emotions are something that are basically ‘born’ by themselves, we can only try to control them. Take care though, based on stuff that I read about you (HELP posts) you seem to be a good hearted person, sensitive and very caring of course.

Later,
=D

Wait!!

get to know him first miss, then tell me if he reeeally is your type.

=P

Take care, nice to hear from you.

Hey!
=D

I hope you are still OK, Missy.
Thanks for that unexpected shout!

=P

You are welcome.

but…what about the PS 2 I put in my previous shout?

=O

Take care.

oh…I thought for a moment that you got mad or something like that. We all have crap to deal with in our lives and I know how it feels when a heart is hurt. I understand.

You are welcome btw, and anytime (for the honest replies).
=D

See you around, take care.

PS… Ive been for almost a year here and how come I never ’saw’ you? Yesterday (the day I ’spoke’ to you) was actually the first time i knew you were a long time user. I thought you were new. ha!

PS 2:
You doing OK?

I hope I didnt piss you off.

=O

Nice to meet you btw.

any new news on creeper?

yeh, but if you tell him you will straight up tell her what he has been doing… that may scare him straight..

for hers and your sake, I hope the situation changes. If you stand up to him, that might just scare him.

Like for instance, if you were to tell him if he doesnt stop you will tell his wife, he become scared to lose her and treat her batter and get him off your back.

I know you didnt. Just giving you a hard time. he sounds a little crazy and there are a lot of them out there. In fact most ppl are crazy at some point. idk.

Just becareful. This is an odd situation to be in. One that I wouldnt want to be in. And like I said in the posts earlier, if there is anything I can do, let me know. And please keep me updated as well.. I would like to know how this turns out.

LOL… I am in my 30’s… lol..

Anyways… he does sound like he has a problem. I mean, he pounced on you after meeting you once. So with that, I have gathered a few things…
#1 spirit booster > you must be hot..
#2 He is crazy. Plain and simple
#3 Your friend must be important to you as you are still trying to work through this nicely
#4 You are not taking enough action if you are scared.
#5 You need to tell your friend. If she is not worth telling, she isnt worth having as a friend.. ya know?

ok, I read some of your sentances and I could tell you are scared, but not so sure of the best option. I know you dont want to involve the authorities, but I would suggest breaking all contact how ever possible with this guy. You have tried taking the nice route, maybe you need to be a little more stern and make a very blunt statement that you will have nothing to do with him whether he is married or not.

If you odnt mind me asking… How old are you? I ask because of some of the things I have read that you wrote…

heyyy!!!! okay so this dude is talking to me more now! thank you soooo much for your help and support!!!! :) :)

I am sorry you had no success.
You may find later on in life
that you are very glad that you didn’t
get involved with this guy.
You may meet the real soulmate of your dreams
and you’ll think, thank God I never got involved with that other guy.
I hope it’s soon.
And I hope you’ll have a wonderful family.
good on you.

Lol, I’m not sure if there will be a patch…I’m just crossing fingers and hope that he will read it

you have made a fine effort.just have to wait and see.

Lol, I’m not sure if there will be a patch…I’m just crossing fingers and hope that he will read it

yes please do let me know when
your marriage date is set!!!

You helped me a lot, i have to say! I thank you with all my heart. I’ll keep you updated on the outcome. Goodnight too.

I wish you all the best.
You sound very nice and he is lucky to have you.Good on you.
Goodnight.

I wish you all the best.
You sound very nice and he is lucky to have you.Good on you.
Goodnight.

e-mail is fine.

the lines that I think are absolute gems:
are the following:

“I won’t mind if he keep his kinky ways to just me and him. I wouldn’t want my parents and friends to know about it. Thats all i am asking for.”

those lines are lines of true love.
They will seal your relationship forever.

these are the most powerful words that you have ever said:
I quote you:

“I won’t mind if he keep his kinky ways to just me and him. I wouldn’t want my parents and friends to know about it. Thats all i am asking for. “

those terms are perfectly acceptable
and he accepts them you are home free.
Its marriage for you. Happy happy.

you said:

I told him about kids and stuff and he did say he hope to settle down some day. I won’t mind if he keep his kinky ways to just me and him. I wouldn’t want my parents and friends to know about it. Thats all i am asking for. Another thing, he stays in another country so it gets harder.

I say:
copy and paste the above little paragraph
that you just wrote. Mail it
or better yet hand-delivered to his house.
And ask him what he thinks of it.
No other commentary.
Keep it deadly simple.
Please let me know how it turns out.

you said:

I told him about kids and stuff and he did say he hope to settle down some day. I won’t mind if he keep his kinky ways to just me and him. I wouldn’t want my parents and friends to know about it. Thats all i am asking for. Another thing, he stays in another country so it gets harder.

I say:
copy and paste the above little paragraph
that you just wrote. Mail it
or better yet hand-delivered to his house.
And ask him what he thinks of it.
No other commentary.
Keep it deadly simple.
Please let me know how it turns out.

you said:
ANd his friends are all transgenders, gays , bi, lesbians. I don’t think he has any straight friends or that many friends. THere is a chance if he lets me.

I say:

He probably has all those who bi gays and lesbians as friends because he’s trying to work out what’s going on in his head.
You can help him with that.

You mean he’s still a virgin.
Oh well then. He should’ve told me in a long time ago. I think you should go back and have a little chat with this guy.
Tell him what your goals in life are.
That you want kids and a family.
See if this fits into his possible
mindset.
and if you are willing to put up
with the kinky side.
then I say go for it.
Virgins at 27 are rare.
Get out your felt marker and wright on him
taken.

well don’t get me wrong.
If you are a very flexible person
and are willing to live in a very flexible world. It is possible for it to work out.
You would just be living with a very strange
husband-wife kinky relationship.
I’m sure there are cases where the people
are very happy.
But you need to be very sure that he’s not going to start trying to cheat on you
with some other delicious little number.

you said:

He is unsure with himself honestly. All I know is that he may be a transgender soon…like a male in a female body…he has even thought of gender surgery! And he is into a lesbian relationship. THAT makes me confused. How on earth is that lesbian at all?? I’m not even sure what is his preferences.

The letter was to apologise to him for not being to understand this thing about him in the past and i want him to forgive me

he may be able to forgive you.
But I am concerned about the part that you said he wants to be a girl.
Cross-dressing is playing being a girl.
But transgender is trying to be an actual girl.
are you sure you’re into that sort of thing.
You would in effect be loving a man
and a woman in the same package.
Looks like trouble.
I think you need to evaluate your long term
life with a person like that.
I know you love him. But I think you
don’t realize how much you love
involves loving a man and not a combination
of a man and a woman.

you said:
He doesn’t see himself much as a guy. He sees himself as a female into a “lesbian” relationships. And I think he is into boys as well…And when he broke up with me , he said he never loved me. I don’t know if he will come back

well then that is much more than cross-dressing.
Cross-dressing is a much more tame thing.
you have said that he’s into lesbian
relationships.
And also into guys.
I see a huge problem here.
Most women such as yourself would not tolerate him going out with other people.
Does he not have to have a committed
relationship with you.
Don’t you want and demand a stable relationship.
Especially if you are looking towards
a family that is at all normal.
I’m sorry to say that if he does not
commit himself to you in a more stable
relationship I think you have no hope.
Are you sure that he would not be satisfied
with simple cross-dressing.?

ok I know understand.
No bi is much different to cross-dressing.
Cross-dressing is merely enjoying feminine
clothing. It makes him feel sexy.
It does not mean that he really wants to be a girl. He just loves the feel of the clothing. He still would love you.
I think you should go back to him personally
and tell him that you love him
and that you accept his clothing fetish.
And that it will not get in the way
of your relationship with him.
It’s never too late.
I understand you don’t like girls
because you’re not lesbian.
You like him he’s a guy.
You need to allow him to play with his
sex toys, in the form of cross-dressing.
It is totally harmless and safe.
There are a thousand times worse things.
You have used the words I’m missing him
but you typed him/her.
You should think of him only as a guy.
He is a man and he is your man.
Go to him explain this and he will
probably be totally relieved and happy
but you love him even if he is packaged
in a somewhat feminine way.

ok I know understand.
No bi is much different to cross-dressing.
Cross-dressing is merely enjoying feminine
clothing. It makes him feel sexy.
It does not mean that he really wants to be a girl. He just loves the feel of the clothing. He still would love you.
I think you should go back to him personally
and tell him that you love him
and that you accept his clothing fetish.
And that it will not get in the way
of your relationship with him.
It’s never too late.
I understand you don’t like girls
because you’re not lesbian.
You like him he’s a guy.
You need to allow him to play with his
sex toys, in the form of cross-dressing.
It is totally harmless and safe.
There are a thousand times worse things.
You have used the words I’m missing him
but you typed him/her.
You should think of him only as a guy.
He is a man and he is your man.
Go to him explain this and he will
probably be totally relieved and happy
but you love him even if he is packaged
in a somewhat feminine way.

I read your post. It’s a bit confusing for me because I don’t know you or your partner.
Let me summarize. You are a guy.
Your writing to a girlfriend.
She left you ,is that correct?
you are missing her?
UR even depressed about it?
You are bisexual?
she was not happy with that?
did she leave you because of that?
please keep answer very short I am easily confused.

no I can’t see it.did you copy and paste it ?
please try again.

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