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• (2 votes) I have been having a lot flashbacks of my abuse lately.
  

  Hi, Alice. I haven’t spoken to you in awhile. I am sorry to hear you are having flashbacks. I never had any that are vivid like you are having. Mine have more or less been a passing memory that bring back uncomfortable feelings for me. I made a post awhile back where I mentioned a time this happen and realized I had the choice to keep going there or to to somewhere else. I mean in my thoughts. When those thoughts come, take control and focus your thoughts on more positive aspects of your life.
  
  I really like what ames said. It makes a lost of sense. About changing the brain patters so that they do not automatically go there because that is what they are used to doing. Make new better paths for them follow.
  
  Also I am thinking of a story that was shared in a group I was in. The speaker was talking of a woman who had been raped some 50 yrs earlier. She held resentment and angry and hated men. She thought of what happened to her everyday of her life. The speaker told her “He raped you once, you raped yourself everyday for 50yrs.” Don’t let that happen to you. Do not do that to yourself. What happen is over. You are safe and do not need to go there any more.
  
  Choose a different path. Sending you love and hugs. I hope they help.
  
  - written 1 year, 2 months ago – voted for by OliveOil, Sans

• (1 vote) Everyone has a secret they keep.
  

  It is hard. It is hard for me still to this day and I have had years of therapy. But being happy is when who you are in the inside, is the same as who you are on the outside. Even if means being a depressed mess for a while. (been there done that, more then once) But once it is out in the open, it starts to change for the better.
  
  [quote becca_j151]im afraid to tell my friends or anyone tho. i dont know why. i have a very hard time opening up to people. i wanted to bad to put this on anonymous but i thought id feel better if i put it as myself. i have such a hard time opening up.:([/quote]
  
  - written 2 months, 3 weeks ago – voted for by ~willard~

• (1 vote) well you think about suicide maybe for a couple of
  

  Yes it is possible. I am telling your from experience. I have worked very hard at taking control of my depression and negative thinking. I have done it while taking medication and I have done it while not taking medication. It is easier while on medication because with depression, there is a chemical embalance in the brain. But seeing that you are young, it would be up to the doctor to put you on meds.
  
  It takes work. You have to decide to work at it. It is taking control of your thoughts. Not allowing all that negative BS have control. Because that is not real, it is just thoughts. DO you know what I mean by that? Just because you think you are stupid, does not mean you are. It just means you think you are. So everytime you think something like “I’s so stupid saying that” you stop and ask yourself was it stupid. If someone else said it, would it be stupid.
  
  I have to go give my kids a snack. I will be back later. If you are willing to work at feeling better, I am willing to help as much as I can.
  
  - written 3 months ago – voted for by Silverwings

• (1 vote) I need some tips on how to be more patient and how to control my temper.
  

  Meditation is a great way to learn to calm yourself down. It is something that will take time for you to learn to do. You have to practice daily and always do the same thing to start. Like take deep breaths. Then, over time, your body and mind will know when you take deep breaths, it is time to calm down and relax.
  
  When you get in a situation where you feel your temper is boiling, you take deep breaths and you body will automatically take it down a notch. It will help you think clearer and be able to assess your situation with out the anger.
  
  What are some things that tries your patients? I am a very patient person. I just don’t know who to tell you how to be patient. I think for me, it is just having a understanding of other people and empathy for their situations.
  
  So like standing in a long line at the store, something that bothers most people, I feel for the person working. I know she is doing the best she can. I think maybe someone called off work and they are short on people. I try to be understanding.
  
  - written 6 months, 3 weeks ago – voted for by Aries

• (1 vote) I can not be helped because I choose not to help myself.
  

  One bad day is does not mean you have failed. You get up tomorrow and you start again.
  
  - written 8 months ago – voted for by brokenwingsdontfly

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• Game number 3…America vs UK !
  

  [quote mz.mo]Ok another silly one. But we have English muffins over here. Are they the same over there or by another name?[/quote]
  
  Good question.
  - written 1 day, 21 hours ago

• Game number 3…America vs UK !
  

  washrag (US) My neighbors child did not know what a washrag was so I wonder if that is a US term.
  - written 1 day, 21 hours ago

• So i havent been on here in a while.
  

  I am happy to hear you are mentally feeling good and are able to handle stressful situations so well. It is a great feeling when you look back and see what progress you have made. When you can see your own growth.
  
  What a odd job they gave your Dad. I am glad he has work and is able to do it, I just wander what they do with the commercial info they get?
  - written 1 day, 22 hours ago

• Public Service Announcement
  

  You couldn’t chosen a better person. I am very confident LazyDaze will do a great job.
  She knows the in’s and out’s of this site better then anyone.
  - written 1 week, 4 days ago

• I have been drinking alcohol, and I don’t know the hell why?
  

  Okei, when you say you are drink, do you mean by yourself or are you drinking with friends?
  
  I think occupationally it is good to go out and have drinks with friends and just have fun and let go of problems for a night. But doing it too often is not good. Because then you are using the drinking to not deal with problems.
  
  And drinking by yourself is not good. It is definitely trying to drown your sorrows, witch only causes you more sorrow.
  
  Age and religion is something that can be overcome when two people want to make it work. But it can also be a huge thorn in a relationship. So keep that in mind with this love interest of yours.
  
  By the way, your plant is not looking so good these days. When I repotted it, it read that the steams may turn brown, which they have. But the good news is it has new growth. So I am thinking the old steams are going to fall off and their will be these new healthy ones.
  
  So maybe this is what needs to happen with you. Let the old stuff just fall off and die away and let the new healthy you be blossom.
  - written 1 week, 5 days ago

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