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• Why do people judge others by what they wear, do, or where they live?
  

  I think fear….I remember when I was first married we were apartment managers and recieved a discount on our rent if we lived on site..so we did and it was only blocks from the beach, however downtown in the not so nice part. Some of our friends refused to come over and visit. They said they were afraid they would be car jacked or their vehicle would be broken into. We lived there for 5 years. Never did our car get broken into. I also believe that people like to associate with their same “status”. If you are visibly different, they will prematurely judge you as someone they don’t want to get to know due to your lack of “status”…and they assume you won’t have anything in common. As for clothing, that’s a big misunderstanding. I know several people that are very intellegent and fun to be with, however they don’t put a big interest into their clothing. Everyone should be given the same chance to be a friend, regardless of clothing or where they live. Some of the most valuable people you’ll get to meet in your life are humble due to their circumstances.
  - written 1 year, 10 months ago

• How do you stop loving your mother?
  

  I am brand new to this website and don’t know how to navigate around and send personal responses..so I will have to respond publicly. I really appreciate lpjl’s comments. I have decided that my mom must be sick in some way it helps me feel better about the situation. I have always taken things personally and to heart…thinking that something must be wrong with me. When she moved she bought that big house up on the hill looking over the valley and I think to myself what the heck is she doing up there all alone..well she is still married to my father however that hasn’t been going anywhere for years…
  - written 1 year, 10 months ago

• How do you stop loving your mother?
  

  I have tried to seek support from others but there is a fine line between friendship and counseling and I don’t want to be a downer for my friends so that they think twice before they call me!
  - written 1 year, 10 months ago

• How do you stop loving your mother?
  

  Thanks for the great advice..there is just 1 other piece of the puzzle..my husband has just gone back to school to finish his degree..leaving me at home to be a single parent. My husband is my best friend and no without him I feel so alone. I have called my mom several times to try and get her to come to my house or meet me for lunch and it just goes to her voicemail…which is ridiculous because she has 2 phone lines and a cell phone, certainly she gets my messages but she never calls back.
  - written 1 year, 10 months ago

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