Hi… sorry, I was trying to very thoughtfully help with that question of yours, but then I had too much on my mind and didn’t even find my way back there till after you closed it.
It’s inspiring to see your replies to people.
“What’s with the goodluck, person says they’re going to die.”
sorry this is so late in reply, i just went back to the post.
i had nothing i could offer the person that day but my best wishes.
so i wished them the best in life.
i guess it didn’t seem like that.
but that’s what i meant.
Only an admin can delete shouts. Shout and ask yourabi. If you are really nice he will probably do it but it may take a while. He is busy. I left your request in the queue for him. Shouting never hurts tho.
Sully and the Mods
Actually Shouts are one of th few things we can not delete. I will see if yourabi will do it tho. In the future you can friend one another and in your friends menu you can choose to let that person see your email.
Sully and the Mod Team
I hope this isn’t overly rude, but I’m trying to get a persepective on some of your post, so I have to ask because I’m not sure, are you a guy or girl? You don’t to answer if you find it offensive, again this is just to help me gain some idea of some of your replies that I’ve seen.
I apologize for the late reply. I have had a busy week end and bad internet connection.
In your opinion you are saying that talking about sex to “kids” or “under aged” is against your moral rules?
Setting aside my mod status for a moment, I would like to explain my view. It is far more appropriate to discus sex, the nature of sex, the body’s response to sex, and the minds attraction to sex and other physical pleasures to “kids” and “under aged”. To shelter them completely makes them totally vulnerable when they do start to encounter the real world. Do you educate them on drugs? Sex can act as a drug. If someone where to shoot this “kid” up on meth and it made him feel good so he liked it… This is the response with sex from the human body. It is uncontrolled. Would you not tell the kid who was forced to take meth “its not your fault you liked it, thats the body’s response to the drug.” People who where sexually abused as kids often end up with a sex addiction. My six year old niece can explain the body’s reproduction system to you. We have not got into the mental portion yet… She does not understand that people like it for physical reasons. She only understands that it is something mothers and dads do out of love to make kids. But she does know the biological basics about it. And she knows that it can be drug like. Addictive. We answer any question a child asks in our family. We never use the “you are not old enough to understand” response. Doing so, sends them elsewhere for that answer. Then we do not know what they know or think. They also know we will answer. And they may not understand. They will have to look up new words and learn new concepts. The result is we have much more control over how they learn and can keep complete trust with them.
Mod hat back on… The best person to shout in regard to CNET views on this subject is Yourabi. In short, the age limit for this site is 13. Puberty has started. People are giving these kids the “you are not old enough to understand” line. So, they come here. Or they are to embarrassed or scared to ask at home.
In this case you are saying he (the poster) must deal with this all on his own? What help can anyone give then? He is feeling guilty for liking it. Richard is informing him that he does not need to feel that guilt. It is NOT his fault and therefore there is NO reason for guilt to play any part. In order to better explain why that is, Richard expounds upon the body and its reactions to sex. This kid has already HAD sex. There IS no hiding it from him. The only logical course of action is to help him understand it. Never try to shelter an abused individual that is ASKING from the answer they seek. I am sure he has had the sex education class in school by now also. Richards reply was one of the most helpful to that poster on the whole thread. You are giving the same answer and “shelter” responses that drove him to look else where for the info in the first place. If we mod Richards replies, the poster will simply go to another source for the information. You can not stop him from getting it. You can only influence how it is presented.
Sorry for the length. None of this is meant to insult you in any way. I had to show you opposing views that “attack” your view in order to best describe where we are coming from. If you want the exact policy on this type of issue then shout Yourabi. If you are open to further discussion of this difference of opinion, I am more then willing. As a non mod of course. My personal views are not the views of CNET. Hence the reason I took off the Mod Hat earlier.
I am another mod here on help.com. I want to ask you: Why do you think that reply is a negative one? I have some personal experience handling some abuse cases. I really would like to know your thinking on the matter.
That aside, 3 mods have all looked into it and none of us see anything harmful in the reply nor does the poster take any offense to it. I want to know your stance on the subject matter and not our decision. You have already made your mind clear on that point. But, we do not know WHY you think it is harmful or bad so have no way of explaining why our view differs from yours.
Sully and the Mod Team
Trust me… his body is old enough to know of sexual things… of course he is too young to fully understand what is going on… but the physical truth remains the same… he gets an erection just like any other young man at his age. I feel terrible that he is being molested too… and if you somehow MISSED the point of my reply I told him to tell someone… even his mother that is probably in denial anyway!
You are spliting hairs when you say you did not call me a pedophile… if you say I am writing from a pedophile perspective that is the same as calling me a pedophile. I have 3 daughter that I love dearly… and pedophile should go to prison for the rest of their lives, but only AFTER they get their dick cut off! Your libel is BEYOND tolerable… this is a public site and I WILL NOT accept being told I have the perspective of a pedophile!
I told him the truth… there is no shame in that. He should not be shamed in what his body feels… that cannot be helped and his shame will only lead to further self esteem issues. HE said it will take a long time for him to love himself… I agree with him, but the first step is to tell someone that he is being molested… I demand an apology from you for the libel you spew on my name.