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Hmmmm, so noted Flori.

Gosh I seem to attract things I can’t explain. Dream true, and “get feelings” I can’t explain. I lived in a house in WA. My whole family had to deal with what was happening there. Heavy in my room, and Thank God my sister witnessed what I was talking about one day, cause it was getting to me, the Is it me? or is this really happening thing. Come to find out, yes someone died in my room. Gosh snowmobiling with friends, 6 of us, look what I caught on camera. I kept saying, are you guys seeing this, anybody seeing this, no, none of them knew what I was so excited about. Gosh this stuff happens all the time, its not me, but I don’t know what it is or what it isn’t, it just is, and that’s ok, I don’t have to understand. Check this picture out, man, what the hell is it? How come my friends couldn’t see it? http://help.com/post/256418-what-is-this

Gosh I’m so sorry. I love dogs, been there, I have quite a few buried in my garden. I have a red heeler that is 5 now and I dread the day I loose her. I love her so much, and we are best friends. Gosh I know how lost you feel. Her places, her habits, her companionship. I hope you get to see your dog again. I think of the day I will see mine again. Babe and Odi, and RRRowdy and his brother Woody, and Bo my mastiff. Gosh they were such good friends and I love them and miss them. Hugs to you, I feel your heartache, no way around it friend, just gotta go through it. It hurts, man it hurts. ~Hugs~

You are in danger of her not ever trusting you again. She will have so many of those moments stacked in her memory. She relives them more than once and cries when alone, or in the dark while you sleep. Im sorry, again, and again, until the word looses its meaning and is just another word you say. Not sorry enough, or sorry until next time? How do you enjoy the words I love You? How can someone love you and yet harm you, when you disagree, misunderstand, or make a mistake? Have you ever lived in fear of being ridiculed, humiliated, intimidated, physically overwhelmed by someone that loves you? What would you do if your spouse was dangerous to you? Would you hang out and wait for more? Would all those sorrys mean something to you? Would they hold much hope for you? Do you understand what its like to live with a time bomb? How scary it is to bring up a problem, a mistake, a worry or concern that you may go off on and get carried away with? How much anxiety is involved dealing with you on a emotional level, security level, confusion galore, he loves me now, which do I believe more, the passion the other night, or this heated hateful man, that will say and do the most painful things to me if I upset him. Which do I weigh more, 20 minutes of wonderful lovemaking and sweet words, or the craziness of horrible words and pain inflicted. The shock and aftermath, the grieving of love gone all wrong, the heartbreak of what it has become, and the depression of seeing it for your future, no respect, no concern of her wellbeing, feeling worthless, having you make her feel she is nothing of importance, knowing you have not treated another woman like this, but her, yes her, its what she deserves,she is less. The tearing down of what once was, and what you have become, is what she will weigh more, what she will believe in more, the wrath of you. It screws with a womans emotional balance. This man that you live with, share your body with, that you promised to share life with, that you trusted in his love and protection with, is the one you need to look out for? The rest of the world is safe? Huh? Now its trickling into your sex life too, How do you give yourself to, is the one that is destroying you? How do you look in the mirror and like yourself and not feel like a hooker? This guy can do anything to me, disrepect me at any level and I’ll just take it and like myself too! Good for you, for recognizing a serious problem. Maybe show her this page. She will be so relieved you are cognizant of how serious this is for both of you. Children???? Yikes! Please look into anger management, mental health, or a church group offering it. Tell yourself you can control yourself else where. At work, social functions, friends homes, you cope there, but in the privacy of your home you loose that ability? Its a choice and you are choosing the wrong path. This must stop, now, before it ruins and scars you both for life. You may say or do something you can never take back. There are many facility’s that deal with coping, stress, and anger issues. I appreciated very much you asking for help, and I respect you for it. Good luck. Just please get help, and don’t crush your wife’s spirit and change who she was. Do not make her a stranger to herself.

Thanks you guys, my pleasure, gosh we all have something to offer and those that feel they don’t just have to be reminded there are others that need them too. We just get trapped within ourselves sometimes and just need help. We all bleed, we all need, and we all can help eachother if only someone would take the time to care.

Big flaming Happy Birthday Dani, you old cow!

For he**s sake, get going!

Adios Fizz,
Hope something else is worthwhile and your life is busy and full.

Go to churches, go to human resources in your area, they can help set you up with food stamps. Work at a restaurant and eat.

I am a cake decorator, and my one son loves to do it and recently made one for a girlfriend. He borrows my tips and sprayers. He started years ago just for himself or to impress friends, but he does enjoy decorating and loves to cook like me!

Thanks so much Richard!
I am printing this off, she was in tears yesterday, feeling hopeless. Great idea! I’m sure this will pick up her spirits and bring “new problem solving” to her. Yes she is a single parent and trying, trying, trying to find a second job. I had them come pick apples with me the other day and he sat and texted! Making pies and tarts today, wish I could give you one of my pies as a thanks. I’m teaching her to can and we are making applesauce too.

Great Lilies,
Now you know what your dealing with. That sure helps and takes a lot of worry’s away.
Gosh we women deal, huh?

Richard,
Curious, do you agree, or disagree with anything I had to say about this subject. I’m interested in what your take on this is. Would you expound a little. I know you work with youths and I wonder if you see this in your line of work. I also wonder how you counsel them if they do have this problem. I have friends that are beside themselves with even older children (19) and they can’t get them out of the house. I would like to offer your suggestions as a new source for them. Thank you

Awwww Richard,
How sweet you are.

I find social graces are disapearing among our youth. Sadly I reason this statement with both parents having to work and video games and todays technology. One just has to look at this site. Look how many questions we see concerning video games. Those youngsters spend a lot of time alone in their rooms, hour after hour. No social skills going on there. Many have trouble speaking to girls because of this. They use to go out for pizza with other friends, skate, bowl or whatever, yes even dances dare say I. But that is where they learned how to socialize and speak and act with the other gender. They see what works and what doesn’t. It’s a passage of life and they are missing the boat. Through watching and applying and hearing a girl say “I just love the way he dresses, or I heard this or that, they Learn. Sadly they sit alone and develop wieght problems which creates bad self esteem, diabetes, and social anxiety disorders, and feelings of not fitting in. It is self imposed and the parents or the children wonder what is wrong with them.

I raised two boys, I made sure they knew how to cook, write thank you cards, hold doors for women, set a table, and pick gifts for women. and yes mamm the heck out of it when an older woman addressed them.

Sadly I see these young girls put on the tough guy act and act like the guys thinking its attractive to them. Here in Utah men tip their hats and hold the door. I always thank them. I recently went into a store and about 7 spanish fellows waited, another younger girl was ahead of me, she walked right through without a word, not noticing they were being polite, she took it for granted, they waited for me and I gave a big smile and said “Muchas Gracias Senores” I was rewarded with 7 brown faces all beaming at me. I appreciated that, and they appreciated being appreciated. It is a lost art, and I love a gentlemen whatever race he is.