2greeneyes's shout trail with hollowpoint199 - Help.com

Your real welcome and good luck. Dont be afraid to keep in touch. I would love to hear how your doing. Shout anytime.
You were a pleasure talking to.

I will call them in a week and see. But again thank you so much you gave me a great ideal and I hope I can get it.

I am so proud of you. Great. Gosh you took a leap of faith in yourself. Dude!
So tell you what, to take this a step further, can you call them in a week, two? and do a follow up. It would let them know you got a lotta heart, right? Keep at it, Im so proud of you. Really,

I checked out the animal shelter and they said that they dont need help right now. Thay said that in a few weeks one of the volunteers is moving so they may need my help. They said that they would call if that happened. Thank you I doubt I would have tried that if you hadn’t suggested it.

I meet lots of people when I take my dogs out. They entertain at campsites, and I meet other dog walkers that always want to know what kind of dogs they are, and how do I make them go through thier paces. I work them, they go backwards and obey hand commands, people are always blown away. Plus I can make them work together. Its awesome and people are just floored watching me command them and the fun tricks they do. I can help teach you as well. I have had dogs all my life.

I love them too, I think its a great idea, either work or volunteer at a vets or shelter.
You would basically come in say hello, get instructions and walk them, not too much talking, it would be a small step and a huge one huh, ironic.
You might help feed or other chores, but it could get you started. Greet the people working there, and go from there, it will be something to look forward to, help with your problem, and give to someone else, the animal that is so lonely and scared. Man happy smiles from dogs is the best. I have heelers, my dog does all kinds of tricks I taught her. She is a working dog, a cattle dog, the smartest dog I ever met, and one of the best friends I have ever known. She rides on my snowmobile, waverunner and anything I get in. Plus maybe you could really meet one you would love to have of your own. Everybody wins with this situation.

Sorry my internet stoped working. I like the volunteer ideal. I love animals I had a dog but when my dad passed we had to give he up. That I hated but I guess we had to.

kk guess your gone now. Leave a reply when you can. wondering how you feel about the job or volunteer thing. It would sure help you learn to be comfortable.

thats great. What about the other questions.

I turned 16 3 months ago. As far as I know there arent any clinic here. My mom is trying to get me a medical card I was approved i just have to wait for it to arrive.

She is trying to find someone for me to see but she is unemployed and we dont have incurence. I was covered by my dads. We are supported be my moms finace. My parents where divorced for about 5 years when he passed. I was alone at his house and i woke up and i was talking to him and he wasnt anwsering i walked over there and i hit him and he didnt move and i say he wasnt breathing i called 911 they got there and said he had passed away hours ago i had to wait an hour before my mom got there. I couldnt sleep for week after that.

Oh man, two serious setbacks. My condolences hollow, I too just recently lost my dad. Man my sisters and I never felt anything like that.
Can your mom get you back in. Are you comfortable showing her our shouts and the post? She needs to get you back in so you can continue to work on you, the new you. Money is very tight now for many.

I was seeing a therepist we moved and I dont have one here yet. I was making head way but then two things happened and I just fell back down maybe even lower. 1, that girl hurt me but I was slowly getting over it and I know that it wasn’t the end of the world. 2, my dad passed away and after that I just stoped everything. I stoped talking to anyone and i spent all my time just locked up in my room.

I mean you see that, the lady in the elevator just the two of you, yeah, your uncomfortable, but to think she hates you is rediculous right, She is late for a meeting, thinking about an argument with her husband, what to make for dinner. In a way do you see how grandiose that is. Do you understand. This lady is not all about you, is she? you just think so, your illness is playing you, right,

kk I get it, you feel, was that stupid? Do they think Im a dork? Is my fly down? Things that make you feel embarrassed or scared. That is your illness working on you.
When you feel that happening, ask yourself, what is my fear? Will I die? Are you seeing a therepist? You can ask yourself realistic questions and see that yes its just awkwardness taking a hold on you. That really your just uncomfortable. Your job is getting comfortable with you so others will be, right?

Yeah I can speak fine with you because really I’m talking to a computer screen. That’s easy but when I talk to a person face to face I get paranoid and think that they hate me or are thinking bad things about me. I know that they aren’t but I can’t shake that thought.

I will ask my sons too, what they did when they felt this way. Dont worry, we will work together and see what we come up with to help you.
Are you smiling at people and saying hello. Being friendly and positive is a sure way to have people notice you. Practice it. Pick your head up and pass people and smile and say hi

Can you volunteer somewhere? Work at a pizza place, you would meet kids your age. A job would be fun. Dont worry about the interview, we will practice and you’ll be ready! You are speaking fine with me. I find you real honest and you want to change. You’ll see it will get easier and easier. Maybe you should tell your mom, your speaking with an adult though. I have two sons of my own.

Do you have a park nearby? A library? you could try and play basketball with the guys. Or meet someone in the library. What about a summer job? That would open an avenue for you.
Yes summer could be long alone. What are your ideas?

I marked you as a friend. One thing that I’m worried about is it’s summer here so I don’t no one here. School won’t start for like 3 months and I will be alone all that time because I don’t know anyone here. I don’t know how to just meet new people. I can’t even go anywhere because I’m only 16 and don’t have a licene yet.

That is awesome hollowpoint. Whats your ideas?
Things will change if you do and allow this growing. Life is a constant change, and we must adjust.
Life is about growing as a person. You arn’t done yet, your just starting hon. Give yourself a break, and really do work on what you want. No one can walk in and give it to you. You must create and share you. Don’t keep it all to yourself. Oh and mark me as friend, I want to keep in touch and help you along. Share your ideas, and we can get you going. Hold your head up, look people in the eye in the hallways. Smile and say hi. That’s social and inviting.

Thank you. I guess you’re right I know it will be hard but if I want to be happy I got no choice.

I see, many do have this condition. ok so drugs help with panic but not operating smoothly in a social setting. Well then there is your exercise. You wont like it, but you have to step out of the saftey zone. You have to put yourself in a social situation. You got to make yourself do it. Change is never easy, it takes effort and commitment. So try to see this as forcing yourself to be comfortable, making yourself do it. Or you will stay safe, but still alone, and that makes you unhappy. People won’t fall in the front door right? You have to get in a social situation. Children are easy. Read or play. Volunteer time at a nursing center and read the paper to someone. You can get comfortable that way. Children arn’t judgemental, or clicky. Old people have seen it all, and many are lonely and sadly forgotten. This could help many. Can you see yourself in that non threatening situation.

Nothing really. The resone i don’t talk to people is i have sociel anxity disorder. I get nervous around people and i get paranoid. Im on medican for it but it just makes it so i dont have panic attacks

What are your interests? The new school your going to go to, what is available of interest?
What do you excel at?

Why? Do not let your fears be your present and your future. Your young, many have been where you are, and guess what? We were wrong. What is the problem, are you shy?

Thank you for your advice. I will try but I doubt that it matters if I change I will still be alone.