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• I just have to share this with ye…haha posted (2 months, 2 weeks) ago
  It just made me laugh, a few times actually. And we need laughs sometimes on here. Have to explain…

• Sending I think no 4 or 5 out there… posted (3 months, 1 week) ago
  People are so beautiful sometimes that it baffles me…. I just listened to my friend describe …

• Good comedy clubs in NY posted (3 months, 2 weeks) ago
  Hey guys. Another post about New York. Going there in the beginning of june and I want to go to one…

• Sending it out there…. posted (3 months, 2 weeks) ago
  I feel like a spectator in my own life. Watching myself through a bullet proof glass going “t…

• Theatre in NY posted (4 months, 2 weeks) ago
  Hey! Going to NY in june and I want to see a good show. I was in drama school for four years so thi…

• Sending a dark one out there…with a hint of hope posted (4 months, 2 weeks) ago
  Now begins the new era of Yrja. In this chapter she’s vaulnerable, scared, guilty and lost. T…

• Sending another one out there… posted (4 months, 3 weeks) ago
  Today it was sunny so I heard music in my head and did the beat with my teeth while I hammered away…

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• (2 votes) ok, heres a question for you?
  

  Well here in itsy bitsy Iceland we’re having traffic jams for the first time in our nations history. Our ecenomy grew so fast that just like….10 years ago traffic jams were non existent. Now EVERYBODY has a new car. Every family of like…4 has 2-4 cars. 10 years ago 1 car was enough for some families but now it seems that a car is neccesary to thrive….it’s the same with everyhting else. Fake needs (dunno what the sociological term for this is in english) are drowning the real ones. Everybody needs a car (preferably a jeep), mobile phone, 50 TV stations, plasma screen TV, summer house, wasching mashine + dryer (nobody had dryers here 15 years ago) and SOOOO many more things….things…not to mention the waist. We’re very lazy at recycling. It’s extremely embarrassing. Most people don’t care. They don’t think about it at all.
  
  We have a very clean little island here. Some call it a paradise. Clean water and air. We are working really hard on destroying that and I must say, it’s going quite well. There are also big power plants rizing here one by one. We have so many different power resources that foreign companies seek to build big power plants here, alluminium factories and so forth. We’re letting them in like old friends.
  
  I must say that my view on my country’s future is bleak to say the least.
  
  Not to meantion the rest of the world…I don’t think I’ll even touch that issue. I will have a massive anxiety attack if I do.
  
  so there
  
  - written 4 months, 1 week ago – voted for by cutepixy, babacup

• (2 votes) I am a lesbian and I have fallen for another woman who is married.
  

  hmm…funny how I strongly disagree on that gatsb. I mean, I know where yer coming from and parts of it I do agree with but for other reasons I think. Anon didn’t make any promises….and I’ve always hated the word “homewrecker”…it’s not like she took her by force. She was all good and willing, right?
  
  I think that if anybody should step down it should be mrs wife of the year over there, not anon. Why should anon have to sacrifice her job?
  
  My opinion Anon: Sounds to me that she’s using you big time. She can have yer pretty little bottom on a leash and make her hubby all jealous. Win - Win. Don’t allow her to treat you that way, for your own sake…not anybody elses.
  
  Here’s a song fer ye. Perhaps it will inspire: http://youtube.com/watch?v=8Lh9mwgqb-A
  
  good luck with everything!
  
  - written 5 months, 2 weeks ago – voted for by OliveOil, Puck You

• (1 vote) What is the most profound question ever asked?
  

  Why?
  
  - written 4 months ago – voted for by P-a-u-l

• (1 vote) so hows best to get over yourself and self-hatred?
  

  This in an exercise my therapist tought me…dunno…perhaps it can help:
  
  Split yourself up into 2 personalities. No1 being you as you described yourself (nice, caring, kinda smart, conciously thinking) and No2 being that person that hates you (that other part of you) that one that makes you believe that you are worth the hatred. These personalities are both you, just two different sides of you. Visualize these 2 “persons” in your head (both are you so both have your face). To the detail. Dress them…how do they wear their hair, what does their voice sound like, how do they move. Let them interact.
  
  if it’s not too weird for you:
  
  set up 2 chairs and decide wich one belongs to no1 and wich one belongs to no2
  
  Try sitting in the chairs and becoming this part of yourself that belongs there. Feel the way you move, talk, think in each chair.
  
  Watch the other part of you (no1 or no2) on the chair opposite.
  
  In “character” of no1 for example tell no2 what you feel about them (tell it to the chair. see yourself, or that part of you, sitting there). Voice all of your opinions of that person (you) and try to be honest.
  
  Try both chairs and talk to the other your other side outloud.
  
  — I know this sounds extremely silly but it was very effective for me at least.
  
  When you’ve done this a few times (for a few days for example) your 2 personalities should be pretty clear in your head. now you have a tool you can use.
  
  Whenever you get thoughts of self hatred go inside your head and visualise no1 and no2. Make them debate or fight even (I make em fight all ninja like :) ) Make no1 try and defeat no2 with words…fists…whatever you prefer. Hopefully no1 will win. sometimes no2 will win I’m sure, but if you do this often then no1 will win more and more fights, get stronger. this will really only take a couple of seconds in your head…usually…so you can do it anywhere at any time.
  
  Think of it like a computer game. no1 gets stronger no2 gets weaker. You can even try and dress up no2 like a complete loser… things like that. I dress my no2 in latex for example cause I think latex is the most unattractive fabric you can find. So I see 2 versions of myself in my head. A laid back pretty neat woman and a really angry frustrated stupid looking latex gal with a whip :) I always want no1 to win cause no2 is just sooo frustrating and stupid.
  
  hope this helps at all :) at least until you get a good therapist.
  
  - written 4 months, 1 week ago – voted for by ayc

• (1 vote) rant & rave let’s help eachother out….!
  

  “I have so much love to give. I just don’t know where to put it.”
  From the movie Magnolia
  
  “You’ve got everything except for one thing: Madness. Everybody needs a little madness. Otherwise they can not cut the rope and be free”
  From the movie Zorba the Greek (can’t remember the quote word for word)
  
  “It lies in the eyes upstairs”
  Straight translation. Icelandic quote :) I just think it’s funny in english. You say it when something is obvious to you. “It lies in the eyes upstairs that you have not eaten all day”
  
  This is something from a song I heard the other day. Just struck me down… amazing line:
  “My heart’s crippled by the vein that I keep on closing”
  
  - written 4 months, 1 week ago – voted for by -ifrit's rose-

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• Academic monotony and mundane inadequecy..
  

  yay! clap clap clap!
  - written 2 months, 1 week ago

• Any advice on how to let someone down easy?
  

  I think the key sentence here is “I get scared”. Sweetie…If he scares you you shouldn’t have ANY interaction with him at all what so ever. Listen to your intuition…your natural ability to protect yourself. There’s a reason why you get scared. It’s a warning.
  - written 2 months, 1 week ago

• Academic monotony and mundane inadequecy..
  

  Thank you Fletch :)
  
  That truly was touching. I think a lot of us know these feelings. That state of mind. I love the ending. You are a poet.
  - written 2 months, 1 week ago

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  thanks elysium. I actually like the way I look an all. I guess it has more to do woth paranoia. I open myself up so much here I get paranoid sometimes that somebody I know is gonna wander in here an go..”hey isn’t that Yrja?” (wich is off course not my real name either) but let them read…whatever. I don’t feel like hiding anymore.
  
  hmm….hippie vibe you say? I will have to think about this…..
  
  But I’ll have to comment later. it’s almost 2 am here now. Have to go to bed. Talk to you guys soon. Great night on help.com I must say. Feel all warm inside :)
  
  take care all!
  Yrja
  - written 2 months, 1 week ago

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  well ye inspired me…no hiding behind photoshop. Here it is my face. Me being silly on a plane :)
  
  I encourage all to put silly images of themselves on here. If they don’t feel comfortable with it (wich i totally understand cause I wasn’t until now…been here for about 6 months) then at least just something silly…silly is fun. yay!
  - written 2 months, 1 week ago

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