Yrja's reply history at Help.com

yay! clap clap clap!

I think the key sentence here is “I get scared”. Sweetie…If he scares you you shouldn’t have ANY interaction with him at all what so ever. Listen to your intuition…your natural ability to protect yourself. There’s a reason why you get scared. It’s a warning.

Thank you Fletch :)

That truly was touching. I think a lot of us know these feelings. That state of mind. I love the ending. You are a poet.

thanks elysium. I actually like the way I look an all. I guess it has more to do woth paranoia. I open myself up so much here I get paranoid sometimes that somebody I know is gonna wander in here an go..”hey isn’t that Yrja?” (wich is off course not my real name either) but let them read…whatever. I don’t feel like hiding anymore.

hmm….hippie vibe you say? I will have to think about this…..

But I’ll have to comment later. it’s almost 2 am here now. Have to go to bed. Talk to you guys soon. Great night on help.com I must say. Feel all warm inside :)

take care all!
Yrja

well ye inspired me…no hiding behind photoshop. Here it is my face. Me being silly on a plane :)

I encourage all to put silly images of themselves on here. If they don’t feel comfortable with it (wich i totally understand cause I wasn’t until now…been here for about 6 months) then at least just something silly…silly is fun. yay!

yay! hmmmm…I think we should all quit the sad ones now. Mine for example looks sorta bleak. We’re trying to help people here. Let’s put some humour and/or brightness to our avatars. This is an inspiration to us all…to us all…to us all.

So I’m voting for humour. Without making fun of the help concept off course…just to brighten things up.

[quote AmandaLynn]Nicely put Yrja…. :o) I love word pictures…[/quote]

me too :)

and then get himself some help. Forgot to say that. Cause he obviously needs to do that. but he has to decide that for himself. You can’t force someone to a therapist (even though often we might want to…:))

Ok well…I can only talk from my own experience. I’m an active wall builder myself so I can tell you what works for me.

This is a pretty tricky situation because severe depression can sometimes go to the point of comfort. Your sense of self becomes so distorted that you think you’re only friend is this zone you go into when you’re by yourself in this deep dark hole.

jeez…and then AmandaLynn just posted that. All so true. All I want to add is even though he might have dug his own hole sometimes the hole is so deep that you don’t know how to get out of it. You got yourself there but it’s just so deep that you can’t see the light anymore. You don’t have the tools needed to dig yourself out again. All rationality has left you. It’s a complex blend of choice and helplessness.

All you can do really anon is let him know you’re there. Just that you’re there. Sometimes that’s all that’s needed. Just knowing that someone is there for you. Hopefully he’ll “wake up” and realize that he wants more then this. Hopefully he’ll wake up and realize that it doesn’t have to be like this.

yay! So many great male type creatures on here! I would like to mention Aki, Fletch, Mas1s, Littlenick, eqspike, anthrax….jeez…there are so many.

Yer all the sweleest! May you blossom and prosper. LALALALALA

Hey there.

I used to feel excactly like you. I used to hate myself. I understand. Nothing changed until I got professional help. Talking to an experienced and trained professional seemed to be the right way for me so this is what I recommend for you. It saved my life. My prison guard is still there but the brighter healthier side of me fights the abusive prison guard every day. I used to talk EXCACTLY like you. I remember when my therapist asked me: What would happen if you where just…yourself…around your friends and family? what would happen if they knew YOU not this mask you carry around with you. - I laughed. I thought he was joking. The mere thought of it was just sooo ridicolous to me. I said to him: Well my life as I know it would go to hell. I would die. - I did not mean it metaphorically. I meant it literally. It’s scary for me to think about this today, to think about where my head was at. It is NOT a fact that your loved ones will not like you for who you are. Think about it…if your friend told you something like that about him/herself you’d find it totally absurd and very sad. You’d never agree to such a thing. What makes you worse then everybody else on this planet? What have you done to diserve the hell you’ve made for youreself? Why does your true self diserve to be locked up in prison? What crime has your true self commited?

think about it and please: talk to a professional. It will change your life.

All the best and good luck
Yrja

Thank you Akithma, my dear friend. It’s quite beautiful how giving you are. The joy you take in making others happy doesn’t go unnoticed.

I’m gonna try my newly discovered wings now. Mine are green and blue :) yay!

hahahaha! Seriously? I love it!

Thanks :)

I just said : Couldn’t and got ****** hmm…..