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• what would you do…your friend tells you for days on end shes going to come to visit (even if for just 5 minutes), never shows up or answers her phone posted (1 year, 10 months) ago
  would you do…your friend tells you for days on end shes going to come to visit (even if for j…

• I am struggling with learning to live a normal life again, one without depression, anxiety,panic and fear, and trying to find true happiness…does posted (1 year, 10 months) ago
  am struggling with learning to live a normal life again, one without depression, anxiety,panic and …

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• what would you do…your friend tells you for days
  

  [quote proudparront]i didnt choose to go this route..i was asking advice to a problem that eats me up. i had no idea you were on here.. i dont know what that means.. your right.. its getting numming to me as well. yes you have a family to care for, i will never ask you for help.. but please tell me who is at my disposal? and i did not realize you were joking about the beds. steve told me what you said. it dont matter. the next time you hurt my feelings i wont say a word.. i just need to be tougher. i did not hang up on you. i thought you were done after i said eventually.i dont really know what to say anymore.. you say i dont realize your pain.. i have been doing nothing but thinking about your sleep problem, i offered to help you. i dont want you to help me, i really dont, i must admit i do get a smile on my face when you say we will get it done or we will figure it out, i dont feel so alone when i hear confirmaions like that, but i by no means exspect it.. i have been visiting you.. i really do not know how to handle this friendship anymore..it is numming your right..but for now i still care[/quote]
  
  ??? did you send me the link to your question here asking for advice about me, by accident??? did you really not know that you did that?
  and go listen to the message i left you about the beds…i actually thought it was funny, but i guess whoever relayed the message to you has no sense of humor.
  also i had NO IDEA i was getting unexpected company, and if you remember right…you should know by now how that usually ends up for me and what it does to me when she comes here like that…doesnt put me in the mood for much sorry to say.
  you did hang up on me, or we got disconnected because when i finished what i was saying and got no response, i said your name about 5 times, you werent there,i waited long enough thinking you put the phone down to tend to something but eventually got a dial tone…
  no need to leave the board…i will,as i have others i go to. but i wonder why you even sent me the invite to come here?
  quite confused about everything now…
  - written 1 year, 10 months ago

• what would you do…your friend tells you for days
  

  never said i didnt snap at you…
  giving the beds to my birds was a joke …AND YOU KNOW THIS!!…WE JOKED ABOUT IT THE PREVIOUS DAY…THIS IS NOT THE ISSUE HERE..dont make “THAT” into something that it clearly isnt and wasnt! you even e-mailed me asking me if i was mad about you not coming down the first night, i clearly stated i wasnt mad…now this????
  its not being stubborn…its called “feelings of numbness” or just not being able to feel at all anymore…
  AFTER SO MANY FIGHTS it just seems to come naturally to me, i will not live my life being mad, not anymore, you want to hang up on me thats your right…
  its not about winning, its not about who is right or wrong…its accepting each other for who we are..
  i have accepted the fact that you hate the phone, so i dont call much, its senseless.
  i have accepted that you hurt and are in pain, so i dont expect anything “physical” from you, why cant you accept that i am suffering the same pain issue as you?
  you do have other people at your disposal that live with you when i am not feeling well myself that could surely help you out when i cant for what ever reason.
  why cant you realize that from 3 pm on…i have 3 kids and a husband to care and cook for and homework and bedtime rituals…no time to come help you then, when i do have transportation.
  you have transportation at your disposal 24 hours a day? if you really wanted and needed these beds as bad as you said…you would have found a way to get them, as you clearly said you
  needed them the day i made them, 4? days ago now…
  and you are also well aware that i WILL NOT invite myself to your house or anyone elses…that would be rude, never have, never will…
  
  “are you coming to get the beds or not? because now would be the time to do it as my mother has left for a while” thats what you would have heard had you not hung up the phone…never mind what was going on the moment you called or what had happened 20 minutes before you called, its all insignificant…excuses, i hear it all the time…
  and you are the one who chose to go this route rather than talking directly to me…or am i “unapproachable” now also?
  what do you expect now?
  
  does this all seem a bit trivial?
  - written 1 year, 10 months ago

• I am struggling with learning to live a normal life
  

  [quote RaverBarbie]lol. you can make healthy pizza! well..healthier than normal.
  
  if you make it yourself..its already healthier than normal because theres no preservatives in it to keep it fresh. those are soo bad for you! (as you probably already know!)
  
  Also…simple things like dont ever use the microwave if you can help it!
  
  and try to grill fatty things…i really enjoy finding foods that taste nice but are healthier than normal…like..im not a health freak. i dont eat
  
  salad fruit or veg!!
  
  i love steak, pizza, pasta, bread and butter, roast potatoes, chicken…mexican food…ah im terrible lol[/quote]
  
  you dont eat salad, veges or fruit!? you naughty naughty girl!!! eat your green leafy veges…the most important food group…LOL! i’ll be working on you with this one!…he he he! (evil laugh) take care hun..talk tomorrow.
  - written 1 year, 10 months ago

• Hello there.
  

  [quote RaverBarbie][quote mistybay]my answer to your breathing problems sure sounds like panic attacks to me hun…this is EXACTLY what happens to me…i cant breathe, then i try to control it which gives me the feeling of having a HUGE lump in my throat and chest then i start to hyperventilate….maybe your panic attacks arent under control like you thought, possible??
  are you on any medications for this, or were you?
  
  this sounds like a lot of stress for an 18 year old to be dealing with on a daily basis, i am sorry. maybe its time for YOU to start being more selfish with yourself and what you do with your time…start by taking 1 day out of the week for just you, do ANYTHING that you enjoy or want to do, ANYTHING, it doesnt matter what you do with this time as long as it is YOUR time to spend the way you wish.
  also somehow…start saving some money to get your own place…your dad will realize what he had when your gone, he isnt appreciating you now, but will when your not there, maybe even on the one day a week your not there for him to bark orders at…you need time for you…everyone does…[/quote]
  
  Its funny you should say that. I have suffered with the breathing probs for years now. and i went to the doctors again the other day…and like…he just gave me sleeping pills!!! my breathing doesnt affect me at night lol. ah nevermind.
  
  i do a lot more for myself now than when i did when i wrote that post. but i do need more. i feel like a hyprocrite when i tell you what to do in your post…i should do it myself. i still suffer with my nerves a bit you see. cant seem to join any clubs or anything.[/quote]
  
  do these breathing problems only happen when your upset? or do they happen out of the blue with no apparent cause or reason?
  YOU ARE FAR FROM BEING A HYPOCRITE!! NO WAY! its so much easier to help with other peoples problems then dealing with our own…i do the same thing…that does not make us hypocrites…
  
  do you just want to be home? other than your dads issues, do you just enjoy being home? thats the way it is for me too, i really dont need alot of outside stimulation or friends, being home with my family suits me fine…and there is nothing wrong with this as long as it doesnt cause issues for you or interfere with your life…but what to do about dad? i am not sure hun…
  - written 1 year, 10 months ago

• when your best friend IS THE BEST..
  

  [quote itsmag]Just be less open with her if she can’t be fully trusted.[/quote]
  
  yes…it definately sounds like she cant be trusted…
  - written 1 year, 10 months ago

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