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Booyah… there’s some of it. You don’t want him to heartlessly forget you and move on. He’s not going to forget you. He proposed to you for goodness sake. But you said no. That’s pretty big. That’s as big of a deal breaker as stealing money! He might move on though and you’re trying to make it impossible for him to do so… not cool dear. No one owes anyone here. What do you have to gain by forcing him to talk to you. He’s non-verbally shooting you down. If you really truly want him to talk to you leave a message with one of his good friends and leave it at that. Leave it. Go do something else. You’re gonna make yourself sick over this and there’s so so much more to life that you probably can’t even see right now cuz you’re so wrapped up in this you have no perspective. I’m gonna leave it at this cuz I know unless you’re ready to hear it you’re not going to listen. When you’re ready to move on, write another post if you need help. But I don’t think you’re gonna get the help you WANT right now which is for someone to say hey I know that guy let me get him on the phone for you or here’s how you can get him to talk to you… In the mean time, take care.

and what stops you from doing that?

ok what do YOU want?

You are wonderful! Thank you.

Oh my goodness… I don’t have the answer for you but I’m sure someone on this site does and will help you soon. It’s good your family and co-workers know. Let them help you if they can or are willing. Hang on!

What outcome are you looking for? If you could have it your way… what would it take for you to be happy?

paroshkes are AWESOME!

get her help, tell her family, tell a teacher, tell a doctor… if you know about it she’s already reaching out for help…

ha ha, that’s what I was going to say! really though, picking something hard will give you good experience yes?

The sooner you turn yourself in the less trouble you’re going to be in. Having enough money to get away only gets you closer to different cops. If there’s a warrant for your arrest your picture is probaly all over the place. Would you rather be “taken down” or calmly taken in?

If my brother found my perscription and was concerned I’d hope he’d just ask me about it.

I think you would benefit from counselling. If you can find a counsellor that specializes in relationships, they might be able to help you move on. Sounds like you don’t want to move on… you will be happier once you do. Sounds like you feel entitled… Ever see someone in a really crappy relationship that they wont get out of… even on TV, and EVERYONE is saying why doesn’t she leave? You haven’t left yet… you don’t sound like you have perspective. Would you rather he did talk to you and told you to go away? That’s what he’s going to do… that’s what he’s doing. I know it probably hurts a lot but sometimes we can’t get apologies or what we need from people so we need to refocus on what we need/want and move on… or stay right where you are, searching for some guy who obviously does not want to talk to you for some sort of validation or restoration which at this point even if you get it probably isn’t going to fix how you feel.

Thank you all so much for your responses. I am truly grateful and will continue on my way to help the man I love. Funny how strangers can be of so much benefit and a resource of strength… peace.

what are the excuses… might help people see something you dont.

Sounds like you’re really young or she’s got really strict parents… either way if you really want to date the girl you gotta meet the parents. Having her go behind their back is just silliness. Are you friends with this girl? If you are stay friends and meet the parents as a friend… if you’re not… become friends and see what happens!