I was wanting to say thank you for reporting that video.
Animals do not deserve to be beating or tortured especialy by the person who is suppose to LOVE it. Pets want nothing more then to be loved, and to please their masters. Im happy you stumbled across this video and reported it. This man deserves some jail time and a hefty fine.
Anger is a natural response to the grief process when experiencing a loss. So, don’t beat yourself up for being angry. Experience it then let it go. My ex did the same thing to me in August… no one can tell what they are thinking, but since she had the time to come to the decision and then just thrust that choice upon you… of course she is in a resolved state; and she probably doesn’t care anymore. She may have struggled for a while, but now after she’s made her choice she’s good… now you have to live with HER choice and that’s not so easy. So now it the time to revisit my break up post http://help.com/post/211805-get-over-it and see if that can help at all.
Bright blessings ~ Richard
ps… sorry this is so late - I’ve been busy with the holidays and family birthdays :)
I’m sorry to hear of your pain. I never understand people that hurt others during special occasions. You will feel hurt, you will feel angry - these are natural reactions. However the sooner you can forgive them, and more importantly, forgive yourself - the sooner you will be able to move forward. Know that forgiveness does not mean forgetting. Nor does it mean you accept the behavior. It simply means that you forgive their selfishness and choose to move on away from that.
well… only you can identify love for you. And I’ll tell you - you will experience many levels of love along your way. Yes…you do need to control any obsession in your life (they are not good to have; generally).
No… you don’t have to date someone to fall in love with them. But it is important to not confuse lust or infatuation with love. The better we know someone the more we can love them… but that starts with yourself… the better you know yourself, the more someone else can love you. I don’t remember your age; 16? It is possible to love at 16 but there are several types of love… some easier to grasp than others at 16. The point is, while as a teenager it is possible to love…it is also VERY probable that love will change over time.
well… you see, there’s where you have the edge. Most guys when they ask someone to be their girlfriend, HATE the idea of being told, “I like you, but lets just be friends” for you, you like being her friend, so no matter what she says YOU WIN. There’s not much to be scared about in a win/win situation.
yeah… it’s difficult I know. Trust me it’s even HARDER if she dumps you (I’ve just been through that!) The idea is to focus on yourself.. of course without be selfish to her needs. But making yourself the best person you can be. Exercise is great for this… but reading self help or philosophies are good too. Develop yourself. When you find yourself thinking about her, smile to yourself and think of something else… anything. Do this every time. It’s really ok to think of her, but you cannot let it interfer with your every day routine… then it’s an unhealthy obsession.
well… again I want to reassure you what you are experiencing is very normal. Remember I said you have the other stages to look forward to? Well it seems you are trying to get into them a bit early (by text book definitions) but don’t worry about that. This stage deals with Intimacy and solidarity… friendships, both sexual and otherwise. But you’ve just started so it’s natural to be kinda obsessed about all the new feelings you are feeling. If you are feeling overwhelmed by these feeling though that is not so good. To compensate for the ‘obsession’… look back to yourself. You realize that no one can truly love you, unless you love yourself. So, make sure you are not leaving the last stage too early. Focus on yourself, your identity and how you deal with others. Your “self-work” is just as important if not more than worrying about what she thinks of you. I’m not saying ignore her… but make sure (take the time) you are the man she can look up and truly love.
haha, yeah, the fillers confused me at first when I started watching them. I thought they were actually a part of the story, so I had watched over 100 of them until someone told me that they weren’t actually in the main story. u.u
Believe me, I totally understand being too busy. Some days I don’t know which end is up.
I didn’t mean to pry into your personal issues. Just wanted to see if there was anything I could do to help you out. You seem like a very nice person who has some very deep, philosophical questions/thoughts.
Believe me, I totally understand about weight loss issues. If it wasn’t for the extreme situation I was in now, it would be impossible for me to lose weight.
The one thing that I have enjoyed doing is the tread mill. I get out my anger on it, and it’s one few thing just for me (since everything right now is for my 10 year old son).
That’s ok you couldn’t help me out when I asked. You can add me whenever you get the time.