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• (1 vote) So, my boyfriend is visting me tonight and I need some help of you so please :O helppp!
  

  Yes! It’s time for a heart-to-heart with him. I don’t know what his coping mechanism is for this kind of thing. He may get angry, may get defensive, or may try to change the subject. Just be prepared not only for the talk, but for the fallout as well, if you know him well enough.
  
  And remember relationships are all about being willing to compromise. You can’t control who he is or how he acts, so understand that this could just be “him” and how he treats a relationship. He may not be willing to change. If this is the case, you have only 2 options, accept it as normal in the relationship, or do not and walk away.
  
  - written 1 week, 3 days ago – voted for by M.y.a

• (1 vote) a guy on here ended up falling in love with me.
  

  ugh, why can’t you love me?
  
  j/k;)
  
  ok, ok…he’s probably hurt….so give him time for the feelings to die down, then try talking again. It will either reach a point where he has control over his emotions and you guys can get back to being friends only…or his “feelings” for you will flood back, consume him again, and will always get in the way. Depends on the type of person he is.
  
  In the meantime. Don’t just “forget” about him. Always remember him, and keep the good times in mind, but let life roll on as it is. If you’ve already tried contacting him and he didn’t respond, then the ball is in his court, wait for him to return it. You do not need to do anything further. Just make your intentions very clear that you want to be friends and enjoy his “frienly company” and racy gossip;) haha. If you “need” another friend, you can go looking, but who’s to say you can’t have more than one good friend?
  
  - written 1 year, 7 months ago – voted for by LilBugga

• (1 vote) Please help - depression.
  

  Well, I’ve never succeeded in really making anyone feel better or changing anything…but I’ll throw my 2 cents in, just incase someday it works for someone someday…ooo, and I can relate to about everything you’ve been feeling, so maybe I can actually help build some kind of perspective. I’ve been clinically diagnosed with social phobia, co-dependency, and some other junk…most of which I’ve been able to conquer in some way or another. So I’ll give it a go, cuz I hope it helps.
  
  “I’ve pretty much kept things to myself on this site, and preferred to help others, but I guess there’s no harm in typing up how I feel now. I’m utterly depressed and miserable, and have been for a few years.”
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  he good news is, you’re not alone…but this you already know.
  
  “Firstly, I over-analyse things way too much.”
  
  There’s nothing wrong with that at all..sure it can cause problems in relationships…but it’s being you… I know lots of people that hate themselves, because of something that they don’t understand, but come on..there’s tons of people out there functioning just fine and doing the same thing. I over-analyze things too, but
  
  “I don’t interact well with other people at all.”
  
  Do you want to join my club? Haha. I know it’s not funny…but I feel the same way…and so do millions of others. I just think you haven’t found the right person or persons. You need to keep looking for people that you can connect with. Like I said before… “I thought your type didn’t exist.” Eventually, someone will come along that will make you feel better.
  
  And there is nothing wrong with being overly attached to someone if they enjoy it. I know it’s being co-dependent, and all…but I was co-dependent for about 8 years…I just found another person who was like me and ya know what, it was never a problem. In fact, in that time the problem went away on it’s own as I grew up. Lots of this probably has to do with being young and still figuring out where you fit in the world. Not to be a kill joy, but most of us never figure that out. Maybe we just don’t fit…but perhaps it isn’t a puzzle to begin with…we’re just here and we make do with what we have, who we are, and what we’ve been given.
  
  - written 1 year, 7 months ago – voted for by Opeth

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• why do i feel so sad i dont understand
  

  I think talking helps. It is painful, yes…especially when you have a terrible past and one that’s left you with so many questions and had so many wrong turns. I think as humans, we’re social animals, and we need to make connections and we need to “let go” of the fears and anger that holds us down. That doesn’t mean forget that it happened, but face it, come to terms with it, and know that you are better than the demons of your past, know that you deserve better….you ARE a great person and you haven’t done anything wrong, so don’t let that hold you back. You deserve to be happy, everyone does…and a lot of times we won’t let ourselves be happy because we’re scared or angry or what not. Emotions are very powerful and coping with them, or learning how to is a key to having freedom from everything that binds us. And yeah, it’s not easy…it does hurt, it is a long process, and most of us give up. But just living through terrible events means you’re a strong person and that right there proves that you CAN do it.
  
  and just know, it’s okay to hurt and it’s okay to be mad. even though we place such negativity towards it, the simple reality is it’s part of life and everyone feels it. So just tell yourself…you’re normal, this feeling is okay…and hopefully the reason why you’re hurting so much has already been left in the past. If not, then you need to get it there, because you really can’t start healing until you stop bleeding first.
  
  And…sometimes it gets worse before it gets better…so just be prepared for that. But you can handle it…and make sure you know that. Good luck!
  - written 2 days, 9 hours ago

• I’m Katie i’m 14 years old
  

  Yeah, I think you’d be better off in foster care if it’s that bad. Hell, I would want go myself if I was in that situation. There’s some great caring people out there who can actually handle the responsibility of a family. Just make sure you get to know them first and see if they are a good fit for you. Plus, it’s only for 4 years or so, and I’m sure you’d be able to visit your mom and sis whenever you wanted…I’m not really sure how foster care works all together, but if it gets you a home and someone who actually cares about you, how can this be a bad thing?
  - written 3 days, 1 hour ago

• would blonder hair suit me?
  

  blonde would make you look younger…if you want to look older stay up for three nights straight and try gray;)
  
  but in reality…darker would probably help a little more, but they still won’t sell you cigarettes…lol
  - written 3 days, 1 hour ago

• i am not able to concentrate on my studies
  

  Put the bottle down man! It’s not worth it…and then flush the stash.
  - written 3 days, 1 hour ago

• How many people out there are interested in taxidermy?
  

  I don’t think I’d do it personally, but I have had stuffed things in the past…the rattle-snake I had was very well done..almost looked alive, and very scary. A good conversation piece. I think it’s very much a science and an art. I guess it depends on the motive behind it; Are we finding dead things, or are we purposefully killing animals to stuff them?
  
  And does your fascination with dead things spill over into horror films? This I like :)
  - written 3 days, 2 hours ago

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