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• (2 votes) Back here again :( please help…
  

  I think she meant saving sex for marriage. Kinda the “know what you’re getting into, before you get into it,” when it’s an important part of any relationship….Funny though, sex is like is the only thing the defines a romantic relationship, yet we’re not supposed to base a relationship on such things. Strange :?
  
  - written 3 months, 3 weeks ago – voted for by michele_lee_perry

• (2 votes) I’m losing her..
  

  Maybe part of the problem is that you think about it non-stop? SO many people come on this site and say the same thing…like they CANT go on without the other person….Do you know where I find most of them 2 years later? …..in a different relationship and 100% content. And their new relationship is 100% better then, because both people WANT to be in it. It’s just part of life and it even happens when you’ve been married for 50 years….can you imagine?! 50 years of memories with someone and then poof….nothing. But life’s not about living in the past or living in your memories, it’s about living in the moment, making new memories and learning from the past, but letting it be exactly that…the past.
  
  Sometimes, relationships just aren’t meant to be, but life goes on, and if you’re not meant to be, why fight it? It’s like being upset because your dog is not a racehorse and that’s what you’ve always wanted….it’s just not going to change anything….you can’t make your dog into something it’s not…just like some relationships.
  
  So if you keep thinking the way you are, you’re feeling yourself into this horrible state of mind…but rather, start acting like it’s a good thing, and you’ll start feeling better. It’s still going to hurt for a while, and you’ll still be miserable for now, but time and positive reinforcement will fix things….LOTS of good can come out of something like this….and in time, if you start looking, you’ll find something better. And who knows…maybe in time, she’ll find you again, and you two can start making new memories…and what you had might not seem so wonderful anymore.
  
  - written 1 year, 6 months ago – voted for by anongirl, JoshuaBleak

• (2 votes) Me and my friends are trying to make a movie.
  

  lol, you’re looking for me?
  
  hiya. I’ve been in the independent scene for the past 10 years. I’m part of Red Glass Films and do what I can to help keep them moving.
  
  But we get these questions often, and it’s still really hard to figure out how to reply to people.
  
  If you’re trying to make a budgeted movie when you haven’t done anything yet and have no money just isn’t going to happen.
  
  If you’re connected, good with people, and can bull-**** better than a bull, then you can possibly get low-budget funding. Otherwise this won’t happen either.
  
  If you’re making a true indie film (which I’m assuming that’s what you’re really shooting for, then you’re going to need to surround yourself (and get involved) with people in the industry or who at least know a thing or 2 about specific areas that you know nothing about.
  
  There’s several main parts you need to fill with knowledge.
  
  First: You need a producer (This is going to be you, right?) You need to get the book: From Reel to Deal. Best guide to making a movie ever.
  
  Second: If you have a script, then that part is done. If not, and you just have an idea, you need a script-writer, editor, or script supervisor. This is the most important part of pre-production: A good story!
  
  Third: You need a source of funding…you can write a business proposal, press package, investor opportunity…blablabla…most people do project fund-raising like seriously: a bake sale, raffle, bug someone who has money to spend, door-to-door cookie sales ect….
  
  Fourth: Once all that in place, then you as a producer is responsible for set-up, ect….you need to find props, costumes, locations, equipment, etc etc…or find people who will find this stuff for you…or just use whatever is available.
  
  Fifth: You need a director, someone with a good eye who knows how to cut a film. You need a good director of photography (DP), or someone who knows at least a chicken **** about camera and gear. You should also get an art director, who can blend a pleasing color-pallet (this is optional). You also MUST have a boom operator or wireless lapel mic system if you want decent audio. You also MUST have someone who can light a scene, otherwise you’re using ambient light and this is key aspect of a noob. Also, for a gore-flick you need a GOOD special FX artist…this is key for this kind of movie.
  
  Sixth: You (or Mr. Producer) and Mr. Director need to find GOOD actors (though not so much for gore-films). Epic win…lol
  
  Seventh: Start shooting (always have a plan B) and hopefully finish this step (most people never do when they see how much work it is)
  
  Eight: You need a good editor and someone who knows at least a little about cutting or pro-film programs like AVID, Final Cut PRO, Premiere Pro, Vegas…ect…or you can get a low-end editing system and just do the basic cuts.
  
  Nine: You need a good sound editor too! Sound is 1/2 the film! Someone who can mix audio, reduce noise, equalize, cut a track (helps if they can make music too, because that gets expensive..and you can’t just use anything you want if you’re selling the film) etc…
  
  Ten: QC the hell out of that film…watch is 80 times and look for errors. You’ll find one every time you watch it. Even the hollywood guys make tons of mistakes. So fix the first 50 errors and let the other 30 slide.
  
  Eleven: If you’re doing this to make money, you have to know the indie market. There’s like 30 books out there on marketing a film once you’re done. Being your first production, this is going to be tough unless it comes out perfect(which it won’t). The market right now is very saturated, so you need some good marketing skills to get your film noticed and wanted. This is honestly the hardest part of making a film.
  
  
  So making a film is pretty easy, the problem here is that making a film has like 300 different departments that you need to fill to get a good product. I’ve played the role of about every department at one point or another, so I’m pretty competent in most areas now….I hope this helps a little. That book will really spell it out a bit more simply, but more in depth on how to do all that. So check it out. There’s also lots of resources for you out there. Might want to just stick to a backyard production till you get a good reel down though.
  
  You can check out our latest short film here:
  
  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S4wxCHdvkpE
  
  - written 2 years, 2 months ago – voted for by Mitzy★, GiggleSnortBangDead

• (2 votes) Can you please tell me what you think of these three girls, physically, first impressions… (don’t worry it’s not a dodgy photo!
  

  omg…mom?!
  
  Actually, I like the guy in the background and think you should date him.. He seems to have all 3 qualities of those girls and frankenstein mixed into 1 person. lol…to be honest though, number 3 I like, and agree with HR on consulting the inet for image dating advice = don’t date any of them;)
  
  - written 2 years, 5 months ago – voted for by Jalex, J.Megan

• (2 votes) i am so depressed every day after school i want to cry for hours because i have nothing else to do.
  

  you seem to communicate just fine to me. Sounds like you just need to find something you enjoy to invest your free time in. Most people think that they need someone else for this, but in reality, there’s plenty of things you can do without people. I play guitar, for hours on end…just to pass time…and when it gets boring practicing alone, or if I decide I need a change I can always practice with other musicians or go play at a local bar or even on the street corner (cept I won’t let anyone take me home..haha). I like it because I don’t have to depend on other people to make time for me…and the guitar just can’t cause me any emotional pain..only frustration at my feeble playing attempts..heh.
  
  Point is, a good hobby will help you find something to invest your time in and keep you busy, so you won’t focus on what you don’t like and you can focus on what you do like. There must be something out there that you enjoy doing!?
  
  - written 2 years, 6 months ago – voted for by maria4468, Mitzy★

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• I am loving my relationship with my boyfriend of almost a year (it will be one next month).
  

  I agree. I work 2 jobs and one of them has me traveling often and the other puts me out at odd hours/weekends…so it’s pretty hectic for me, yet I’ve never had a problem being in a relationship because of this and anyone I’ve been with has been able to work through these issues with me.
  
  If you really love him, maybe you can reach some kind of compromise?
  - written 1 week, 5 days ago

• My bf and I just moved in together.
  

  Aw, that sucks :( Some people are really sensitive to criticism, because they’re not used to it…and some people are super emotional…so maybe that’s the case here. If he’s a sensitive dude, that both has positives and negatives. Once he cools down you may be able to ask him how he would like you to approach things like this, because communication is #1 in a relationship. I don’t really have this kind of problem, cuz I won’t fight over stupid **** either, but in my relationships, I have “safe space” – you know for those questions or observations you’re scared to bring up…I have a handle on my emotions, so if someone says “I need some safe space, to tell you that…” I can be calm and understanding, fully listen and discuss.
  
  But usually to keep tempers calm, I try to start with a question, not an accusation. “How do you think we can keep the kitchen clean?” One other thing to note is guys are notoriously problem solvers. So tasking him with “what kind of system do you think we should use to handle chores?” might work too…depending on what kind of guy he is. I jump right into that ****! Lol.
  
  I think you’ll work it out though! Either that or you’ll get comfortable and be scared to leave because there’s no one else like him and you love him so much. So you’ll just deal with it forever like most people do. Both sound like great options, right? :P
  - written 1 week, 5 days ago

• I just pissed my pants.
  

  The first comment you made wasn’t! lol.
  - written 2 weeks, 1 day ago

• I just pissed my pants.
  

  Angie! lol
  - written 2 weeks, 1 day ago

• Fresh Start.
  

  I still think you should talk to her about how she feels. Helping out with chores and such may just seem like a “duh” moment to her…you know, like closing the fridge door after you open it. Nobody is going to thank you for something like that because that’s just what you’re supposed to do, ya know? If she feels that way, then you won’t get the thank you that you deserve. But maybe too, she just has a lot on her mind. I’m not sure. That’s why communication is important…and in that, giving her space to really vent is important.
  
  That’s the beauty of it, you don’t advise or anything like that, you just “understand” what she’s going through. I say try it and see what she says. You could also ask too if she appreciates the amount that you’re pitching in.
  - written 2 weeks, 4 days ago

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