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you know, you just said it better than anyone else possibly could :D i’m sure you’ll find that all to be true

i *also* know what it’s like when you’re both coming from completely different places… but it’s important that your outlooks match up even if your backgrounds don’t. erin and i work through these things by talking and talking until we arrive at exactly the same beliefs (it’s scary sometimes :P), so i’d say you should encourage your boy to open up to that.

it’s awesome to hear you say you want to have his babies :D but if you don’t want it in the bad times, then you don’t really want it at all, so now’s a good time to stop and ask yourself.

here’s something that’s always helped me straighten things out: my parents were fighting a *lot* when i was younger, and it never bothered me that much, but my mom still reassured me that things were alright. the (really awesome) thing she said was: “you don’t have to worry, just as long as we’re still talking. even if we’re yelling. you only need to worry if we *stop* talking.”

erin and I play that out a lot in life… we rub up against each other the wrong way (figuratively speaking, of course :P), and it’s AGONY, but we endure it and fight through it. why? we know it’s worth it, and we know that ignoring it would just wrench us apart, and THAT is the only thing that’s really worth being afraid of.

so, stop and think about that - would you be better off removing him from your life, and getting rid of the agony along with him? if you say no to that, then don’t be afraid to suffer through it.

p.s. when it gets better, it gets better than ever :D

p.s. wow that was long o.O

hey, believe it or not, i know what you’re going through…

my gf and i got together at the end of my junior year (i’m heading off to a university next year), and we spent the summer nicely, but when we came back to school, suddenly everyone hated us for being together. it was really bizarre and awful… idk, it was a VERY small school and i guess people just didn’t like us changing things up.

that wouldn’t have been such a big deal if the other guys in my class hadn’t started shunning me. these were my old bandmates and such… the only *male* friends i had, but the whole year they went on making plans IN FRONT OF ME and somehow forgetting that i might like to be included…

thus, the only “friends” left to me were really my gf’s few friends who didn’t mind me being around.

now, erin and I have known from the start that we’re going to be together FOREVER… i can’t explain that, it’s just something you know. so i always had something to cling to, but still, i know how it feels when none of the other people seem to value you or want you around or care that you exist :(

so… i don’t really know how you can make that better. i mostly just suffered through it, until i didn’t care so much anymore. it’s a big comfort to know that i’ll be able to make new friends next year… can you look forward to that too? you seem like the kind of person that should be able to make plenty of friends :)

just don’t be afraid to reach out and talk to a stranger at your new job… that’s the only way it’ll get done.

and idk, just from talking to you on the internets for about 10 seconds, i’d say you’re very much worth having as a friend. so go ahead and give all the people at your new job the chance to realize that too :D

p.s. you can always come back to the internets, too, that’s what we’re here for :P

I think that it makes you pretty awesome because it’s rare (at least in a lot of the people that I know). Maybe I’m reading too much into it, but I think it goes hand in hand with the philosophy of stopping to smell the roses (rather than chasing after the latest and greatest things). In short, the philosophy that maybe life is better when it is lived simply.

I can remember what it was like to be 4 or 5 years old. I knew that if there were problems, mom and dad would take care of it, so why worry? I liked going to bed at night, because I knew that I would wake up the next morning feeling refreshed and would have plenty of energy to run around and play.

Sadly, a lot of life now is dealing with responsibilities and issues and life in general and the innocence of youth is no longer. Don’t get me wrong–growing up is necessary and I don’t think I’d go back to being five if I had the chance.

And yet, part of me wouldn’t mind going and living in a mud hut with only a few rudimentary supplies…

It just occurred to me that another sign of awesomeness that you display is being able to spell and write in complete sentences and say something intelligent. That’s pretty rare, too! :)

Anyway, keep me posted about your dog. If necessary, I’ll let you borrow mine (but only for short periods of time).

Lilli,

I just decided that you were pretty awesome (it happened when I read this quote on your dog post– “argh, I hate this. I hate being old enough to comprehend what is going on around me.”) Congratulations! You made it onto a very short list.

I’m sorry about your dog, by the way/ IO know the prospect of losing a friend is terrible to contemplate!

I see you’ve bounced around the site recently but haven’t said much — how’s the boy situation? Feeling better about it?

You are so beautiful~

hey whats up i think ur awsum

you have a pretty smile and eyes

Hello, hope you are having a good day. Its slow here today and I just saw you were online and thought I’d say hi.

Hi Lilli. I am sorry to hear about what happened, I am here whenever you want to chat dear.

Long time no see Miss Lilli! :)

hi Lilli :)

heyyy whats up?

Hi Lilli, thank you for responding. Yes the post helps. Thanks again! :-)

Thanks hon for helping out on my post! ;-)

Nice advice you gave this person. I really liked your insight in the first paragraph.
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Great explanation for what’s going on!

I have never been a fan of people in my pictures so they are usually defocused or blurred or really insignificant.

Taken by my self, almost by accident - I’m ever so talented though!

Great hair! Great avatar picture! Also, I’ve been noticing you giving good advice. Keep it up!

its nice to see who one is talking to on help.com

nice new icon thinngy you have :)

as always Lilli, cool advice :)

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Hi, Lilli thanks for the kind shout :)

You give good advice everytime. Its a precious gift :) it’s a pleasure reading your posts.

I don’t have a lot of spare time, but when I do, I like reading the posts and just commenting or agreeing when needed, its amazing how many notices arrive everyday, I can never keep up with the questions. Although many are the same or very similar.

It’s funny, my friends always ask for my advice, I never have any advice for myself! lol, so I guess I need to post a question as well :) looking forward to your advice.

Hi Lilli, I have read your posts, and I am impressed by your good advice, keep it up.

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Hey Lilli,
Thanks for the shout back. You’re welcome for the shout. Yes, Old Soul, that’s me. sometimes maybe too old. Don’t always know why I’m in a body these days. Its strange to be perfectly honest. But I provide myself, and find myself having the human experience all the same as everyone else. Playing the game, as it were. I’m living in the USA, in Washington state (that’s the NorthWestern most portion of the US not including Alaska of course. and no, I don’t mind you asking how old I am…I’m 26. I have a myspace page if you want to add me. I’m at www.myspace.com/zacharyorion take care. Blessings~!

See, I don’t want to BootCamp Windows, Mac or Linux - dual booting machines does not work with me!

Mac’s turn me on! As soon as Adobe brings out universal builds of its CS2 apps, I’ll be switching.

However the MacBook keyboard annoys me and the MacBook Pro is too large! I’m a skinny guy, my Sony VAIO 15.4″ breaks my back :(

Hey there Lilli,

Am I a Mac user? No! I mostly use windows but have, from time to time, hugged a mac.

That does, of course, not mean I’m not a Mac fan-boy!

im sry i left cause i need sleep but i have mostly been doing homework ..

Keep helping people! You’re good at it. Nice job here:
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I like all the links you collected up.

hey lilli im bored do i decided to say hello!! im going to add u to my friends list kay !!

What time is it were you live? It’s 10:04 PM Here in the U. S. of A.

You crack me up. Thanks for the laugh!
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Welcome to Help.com! Thanks for providing such great advice!

Thanks for your kind testimonial.
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I’ve noticed you giving advice already. Keep it up. You bring a great and thoughtful perspective to a lot of those relationship questions!

Go Aussies!!!!!

I would love to go visit Australia sounds like fun fun !! Ill be there in an hour hehehe jkjk. I have lived in South America, Chile…as u know. its buetiful ther to my moms family lives there. Im hoping to visit next year i haven’t been there for 6 years !!! >.< but its all good !!

omg omg ur from Australia that roxs!!heheh i live in south america for 3 years Awsome. Im Kena

Hey Lilly,
I’m from the United State, Washington State on the NorthWest coast. The native American culture up here is rich, although delegated to the reservations which is too bad. Seattle is becoming such a major city of International culture. I’m glad that you felt blessed by the shout. Well, here’s number two. You are a beautiful person. Cheers to you Mate~

You’re Cool~
May the calming moonlight shine upon your soft shoulders~