AJF's shout trail with emichael2 - Help.com

Umm this could still work out. It all depends on how much she really care about this her current guy… If you don’t mind my askin, Is she married to the guy? Or are they just dating? If they are dating then you still have a chance… Keep being her friend, she may say she is moved on but as long as you are her friend and you keep being there for her.. She will always have the memory of how it was with you too and someday not in a long time she will know what she misses in your her relationship that she’s found in you. That is my advice if you do not want to give up but if you want to, i believe God is watching you and He alone will give you someone better in a near future. All the best my friend and remain blessed. Do not feel guilty about anything, try hard to remain focus on her and keep making see the reasons why it never happened and even try out sking with her again or anything that could get your guys together. take care!

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It’s really not that easy especially if you do not know what the outcome could be or even worst if you are shy. But since you guys have been friend, You could try telling her easily than when you are not. You can do it!
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I dont understand……what do you mean please ?

It has been 4 years - we are 5000 mile apart - she has a bf - new life and experiances. I dumped her all confused 4 years ago and now find myself in the pathetic position of telling her i still love her - now she has a new life and says that sure it was great 4 years ago, but now she has grown up and experianced life those feelings she had for me are just not there. We can be friends only…. when she told me this i took it OK - but this night is awful… I feel stommped, I guess much as she did 4 years ago.
Well 4 years ago i felt awful too telling her despite my love it could not be - but i thought it was the right thing to do - now it is my turn to have my feelings culled. We talked on and off, but not like this….. God help me !

Sorry to cry like this…. the words just pour out…

Is there any chance or is this dead ??? and if there is how do i do this ?

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HELP - please give me some empathy or something to help me integrate and move on cos I am so much pain right now.
I had a hell of a night - awful - I was ok talking to her - but the realities of loss sunk in and I’m crying and God seems so far away at the moment……