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You can learn to meditate for free at Project-meditation.org You can ask for healing emotional trauma. I know it may not be easy but try writing down everything in your life that you are thankful for - it may help you to change the state of your mind. You can have a great future - I hope you choose to and I wish you happiness and joy in life, Pollyanna

Sorry for the mix up. I’m not great at using computers and had a little trouble posting the post I wanted to appear in this section :)

visualisation and meditation are great healthy ways. See yourself slim. It worked for me. Good luck, Pollyanna

“You simply will not be the same person two months from now after consciously giving thanks each day for the abundance that exists in your life. And you will have set in motion an ancient spiritual law: the more you have and are grateful for, the more will be given you.”
Sarah Ban Breathnach

The gratitude exercise in Discover Meditation is so enjoyable and rewarding. Happiness and joy to you, Pollyanna

“You simply will not be the same person two months from now after consciously giving thanks each day for the abundance that exists in your life. And you will have set in motion an ancient spiritual law: the more you have and are grateful for, the more will be given you.”
Sarah Ban Breathnach

The gratitude exercise in Discover Meditation is so enjoyable and rewarding. Happiness and joy to you, Pollyanna

Life takes its toll on all of us. Our minds, body and spirit all suffer from the demands of modern day lifestyles, and sometimes we feel we just cannot take any more.

This overload of stress can cause us to experience headaches, irritability, tension and suffer sleepless nights. Sometimes we experience panic attacks, feelings of dread or we constantly feel tired, run down and completely overwhelmed.

How stress develops:

Children from every family have to a degree, a lack of safety. For example some children are not allowed to demonstrate anger and therefore suppress this negative emotion. Some children are not allowed to display various other emotions because they are seen as a sign of weakness. A number of children grow up with fear.

As these children grow up they try to suppress these emotions through life and think they will go away. On the contrary, suppressed emotions never go away, they actually grow and build up inside us creating a variety of stress related problems.

They create anxiety, fear, tension and depression to name a few and as the energy from these suppressed emotions builds up we react in ways we don’t like or even understand.

Sometimes we will release the anger and lose our temper or let off steam to release the pressure of the pent up emotions. Although this may create a momentary feeling of relief because we have put the emotion into action it doesn’t get rid of the emotion. In fact it does more harm by offending and hurting the person the anger is directed at and it also causes us to endure the extra pain and burden of guilt.

Sometimes traumas received when we are young, restrict the normal growth of our unique tolerance levels. This restriction means we are less likely to adapt to setbacks, disappointments or pressure and our interactions with difficult people may result in behavioural trends and dysfunctional emotions coming to the fore.

Deeply rooted within us is a behavioural key which we use to unlock previously conditioned behaviours and when we become angry, fearful or feel overwhelmed by situations and our tolerance levels have been breached, we use these pre-determined functions as a way of coping.

These coping mechanisms we use to distract ourselves are sometimes in the form of overwork and being unable to relax and sit still, over-eating which acts as a form of comfort or perhaps alcohol or drugs may be used to help the sufferer from having to actively deal with the problem.

The choice of coping mechanism we choose to use is of course largely dependant on how we were pre-conditioned to respond in our early years.

Instead of using these self destructive coping mechanisms, we can learn to raise our tolerance levels and break free from our prison of self-imposed limitations with the regular practise of meditation.

Life takes its toll on all of us. Our minds, body and spirit all suffer from the demands of modern day lifestyles, and sometimes we feel we just cannot take any more.

This overload of stress can cause us to experience headaches, irritability, tension and suffer sleepless nights. Sometimes we experience panic attacks, feelings of dread or we constantly feel tired, run down and completely overwhelmed.

How stress develops:

Children from every family have to a degree, a lack of safety. For example some children are not allowed to demonstrate anger and therefore suppress this negative emotion. Some children are not allowed to display various other emotions because they are seen as a sign of weakness. A number of children grow up with fear.

As these children grow up they try to suppress these emotions through life and think they will go away. On the contrary, suppressed emotions never go away, they actually grow and build up inside us creating a variety of stress related problems.

They create anxiety, fear, tension and depression to name a few and as the energy from these suppressed emotions builds up we react in ways we don’t like or even understand.

Sometimes we will release the anger and lose our temper or let off steam to release the pressure of the pent up emotions. Although this may create a momentary feeling of relief because we have put the emotion into action it doesn’t get rid of the emotion. In fact it does more harm by offending and hurting the person the anger is directed at and it also causes us to endure the extra pain and burden of guilt.

Sometimes traumas received when we are young, restrict the normal growth of our unique tolerance levels. This restriction means we are less likely to adapt to setbacks, disappointments or pressure and our interactions with difficult people may result in behavioural trends and dysfunctional emotions coming to the fore.

Deeply rooted within us is a behavioural key which we use to unlock previously conditioned behaviours and when we become angry, fearful or feel overwhelmed by situations and our tolerance levels have been breached, we use these pre-determined functions as a way of coping.

These coping mechanisms we use to distract ourselves are sometimes in the form of overwork and being unable to relax and sit still, shutting ourself away so we don’t have to deal with people, over-eating which acts as a form of comfort or perhaps alcohol or drugs may be used to help the sufferer from having to actively deal with the problem.

The choice of coping mechanism we choose to use is of course largely dependant on how we were pre-conditioned to respond in our early years.

Instead of using these self destructive coping mechanisms, we can learn to raise our tolerance levels and break free from our prison of self-imposed limitations with the regular practise of meditation.

Life takes its toll on all of us. Our minds, body and spirit all suffer from the demands of modern day lifestyles, and sometimes we feel we just cannot take any more.

This overload of stress can cause us to experience headaches, irritability, tension and suffer sleepless nights. Sometimes we experience panic attacks, feelings of dread or we constantly feel tired, run down and completely overwhelmed.

How stress develops:

Children from every family have to a degree, a lack of safety. For example some children are not allowed to demonstrate anger and therefore suppress this negative emotion. Some children are not allowed to display various other emotions because they are seen as a sign of weakness. A number of children grow up with fear.

As these children grow up they try to suppress these emotions through life and think they will go away. On the contrary, suppressed emotions never go away, they actually grow and build up inside us creating a variety of stress related problems.

They create anxiety, fear, tension and depression to name a few and as the energy from these suppressed emotions builds up we react in ways we don’t like or even understand.

Sometimes we will release the anger and lose our temper or let off steam to release the pressure of the pent up emotions. Although this may create a momentary feeling of relief because we have put the emotion into action it doesn’t get rid of the emotion. In fact it does more harm by offending and hurting the person the anger is directed at and it also causes us to endure the extra pain and burden of guilt.

Sometimes traumas received when we are young, restrict the normal growth of our unique tolerance levels. This restriction means we are less likely to adapt to setbacks, disappointments or pressure and our interactions with difficult people may result in behavioural trends and dysfunctional emotions coming to the fore.

Deeply rooted within us is a behavioural key which we use to unlock previously conditioned behaviours and when we become angry, fearful or feel overwhelmed by situations and our tolerance levels have been breached, we use these pre-determined functions as a way of coping.

These coping mechanisms we use to distract ourselves are sometimes in the form of overwork and being unable to relax and sit still, over-eating which acts as a form of comfort or perhaps alcohol or drugs may be used to help the sufferer from having to actively deal with the problem.

The choice of coping mechanism we choose to use is of course largely dependant on how we were pre-conditioned to respond in our early years.

Instead of using these self destructive coping mechanisms, we can learn to raise our tolerance levels and break free from our prison of self-imposed limitations with the regular practise of meditation.

Life takes its toll on all of us. Our minds, body and spirit all suffer from the demands of modern day lifestyles, and sometimes we feel we just cannot take any more.

This overload of stress can cause us to experience headaches, irritability, tension and suffer sleepless nights. Sometimes we experience panic attacks, feelings of dread or we constantly feel tired, run down and completely overwhelmed.

How stress develops:

Children from every family have to a degree, a lack of safety. For example some children are not allowed to demonstrate anger and therefore suppress this negative emotion. Some children are not allowed to display various other emotions because they are seen as a sign of weakness. A number of children grow up with fear.

As these children grow up they try to suppress these emotions through life and think they will go away. On the contrary, suppressed emotions never go away, they actually grow and build up inside us creating a variety of stress related problems.

They create anxiety, fear, tension and depression to name a few and as the energy from these suppressed emotions builds up we react in ways we don’t like or even understand.

Sometimes we will release the anger and lose our temper or let off steam to release the pressure of the pent up emotions. Although this may create a momentary feeling of relief because we have put the emotion into action it doesn’t get rid of the emotion. In fact it does more harm by offending and hurting the person the anger is directed at and it also causes us to endure the extra pain and burden of guilt.

Sometimes traumas received when we are young, restrict the normal growth of our unique tolerance levels. This restriction means we are less likely to adapt to setbacks, disappointments or pressure and our interactions with difficult people may result in behavioural trends and dysfunctional emotions coming to the fore.

Deeply rooted within us is a behavioural key which we use to unlock previously conditioned behaviours and when we become angry, fearful or feel overwhelmed by situations and our tolerance levels have been breached, we use these pre-determined functions as a way of coping.

These coping mechanisms we use to distract ourselves are sometimes in the form of overwork and being unable to relax and sit still, over-eating which acts as a form of comfort or perhaps alcohol or drugs may be used to help the sufferer from having to actively deal with the problem.

The choice of coping mechanism we choose to use is of course largely dependant on how we were pre-conditioned to respond in our early years.

Instead of using these self destructive coping mechanisms, we can learn to raise our tolerance levels and break free from our prison of self-imposed limitations with the regular practise of meditation.

Life takes its toll on all of us. Our minds, body and spirit all suffer from the demands of modern day lifestyles, and sometimes we feel we just cannot take any more.

This overload of stress can cause us to experience headaches, irritability, tension and suffer sleepless nights. Sometimes we experience panic attacks, feelings of dread or we constantly feel tired, run down and completely overwhelmed.

How stress develops:

Children from every family have to a degree, a lack of safety. For example some children are not allowed to demonstrate anger and therefore suppress this negative emotion. Some children are not allowed to display various other emotions because they are seen as a sign of weakness. A number of children grow up with fear.

As these children grow up they try to suppress these emotions through life and think they will go away. On the contrary, suppressed emotions never go away, they actually grow and build up inside us creating a variety of stress related problems.

They create anxiety, fear, tension and depression to name a few and as the energy from these suppressed emotions builds up we react in ways we don’t like or even understand.

Sometimes we will release the anger and lose our temper or let off steam to release the pressure of the pent up emotions. Although this may create a momentary feeling of relief because we have put the emotion into action it doesn’t get rid of the emotion. In fact it does more harm by offending and hurting the person the anger is directed at and it also causes us to endure the extra pain and burden of guilt.

Sometimes traumas received when we are young, restrict the normal growth of our unique tolerance levels. This restriction means we are less likely to adapt to setbacks, disappointments or pressure and our interactions with difficult people may result in behavioural trends and dysfunctional emotions coming to the fore.

Deeply rooted within us is a behavioural key which we use to unlock previously conditioned behaviours and when we become angry, fearful or feel overwhelmed by situations and our tolerance levels have been breached, we use these pre-determined functions as a way of coping.

These coping mechanisms we use to distract ourselves are sometimes in the form of overwork and being unable to relax and sit still, increased sexual activity to help blot out any pain, over-eating which acts as a form of comfort or perhaps alcohol or drugs may be used to help the sufferer from having to actively deal with the problem.

The choice of coping mechanism we choose to use is of course largely dependant on how we were pre-conditioned to respond in our early years.

Instead of using these self destructive coping mechanisms, we can learn to raise our tolerance levels and break free from our prison of self-imposed limitations with the regular practise of meditation.

According to neuroscientist Dr Robert Capel: “There is a remarkable generalized effect when brainwave patterns are slowed into the alpha, theta and delta ranges.

Slowing of brain wave patterns increases electrical fluctuations in the brain.

This changes the neural structure and pushes the brain to reorganize itself at higher, more complex levels of functioning. This reorganization process corresponds to the 1977 Nobel prize winning work of scientist Ilya Prigogine. Meditation is the way to achieve this - however if you don’t choose to meditate a “To Do” book is great for organization. Write down a list of things you need to accomplish today (it’s important to be realistic) and as you do them cross them off. It’s also best to do the less enjoyable tasks first and them you don’t waste too much energy thinking about them. Anything you don’t cross off the list, you carry forward to tomorrows list. Hope this helps you, Pollyanna
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A great exercise I would recommend you do is take the time out and write down everything that you feel grateful for in your life, beginning with yourself. Your health etc and then your family and friends. Write down everything you are happy about and thankful for in your life and read through it everyday adding new things as you think of them. If you will do this everyday for a month or so I’m sure it will make a big difference to your life. I wish you much happiness and joy, Pollyanna