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• Thanks, everyone, for the help yesterday! posted (7 months, 3 weeks) ago
  Obviously it worked; as I’m back. :D…

• I’m celebrating! posted (1 year) ago
  My hair has reached knee length! I still have a l-o-n-g way to grow to reach my ankle, but I̵…

• “Help me with….” Does anyone know why my most recent topics don’t show up under my name anymore? posted (1 year) ago
  Only the older ones appear down there. If I close the old ones, nothing shows up at all?…

• Feeling like a fool…can’t seem to take my own advice…. posted (1 year) ago
  Need help or a buttkicking or just some common sense or something. :( One year and one day ago an o…

• I’m fixed! posted (1 year) ago
  I’m so happy!! Thank-you!!! :D…

• Help me with names for my new storefront. posted (1 year, 1 month) ago
  I’m opening a new shop on Etsy, to sell handcrafted hair sticks…but I really need a nam…

• Introducing my son. posted (4 years, 4 months) ago
  :) I haven’t been around a lot lately, but this evening my teenaged son asked if he could sta…

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Dragon_Lady's Top (5) Replies by other users' votes

• (5 votes) Why my life?
  

  [sigh]
  
  First child drops her binky: Mom picks it up, washes it hot soapy water, boils it on the stove, and air-dries it for a day before giving it back.
  
  Second child drops her binky: Mom washes it hot soapy water.
  
  Third child drops her binky: Mom washes it hot water.
  
  Fourth child drops her binky: Mom wipes it on her sleeve.
  
  We as parents start learning -sometimes erroneously- that children are much tougher than we think. We develop habits when taking care of one, and we keep that habit. But than we realize we’re workin’ on bunnies off and the kid is fine…so we relax a bit with the next one, and that becomes a habit with that one.
  
  Pretty soon, we’re on auto-pilot. And we treat each kid according to the habits we formed when they were babies. The oldest child goes on being “first”, and so we go on being more careful. The youngest goes on being the “last” to try new things, and we go on noticing that the other three were fine, and so shall this one be.
  
  I didn’t know this, until about three months ago when my children confronted me with a laundry list of complaints just like this one. I’m trying to break those habits, and make everyone know that I do love them equally. But I realize now they spent years thinking the older ones were more special to me, just because of tiny habits that I wasn’t even aware of.
  
  Don’t let it eat at you. And don’t resent your parents over it. Raising kids is the world’s toughest job, and none of us ever get it completely right, no matter how much we’d like to.
  
  - written 4 years, 11 months ago – voted for by Richard Cor de Lyon, QaSh, sixteenraining, lilmissanime0, Aries

• (4 votes) please help
  

  Okay…I’ve had lifelong vision problems, and my first guess is that you’re seeing optometrists, but you need to be seeing an ophthalmologist. They are specialists at seeing what is going on inside your eye, or with the muscles that control your eyes, rather than just determining what kind of glasses you may need.
  
  Go to a general practice medical doctor for an exam, and to get a referral to see an opthalmologist. The GP is important, because you want a full checkup to make sure the problem really is in your eye, and not just a symptom of something else, like very high blood pressure or diabetes.
  
  - written 2 years, 1 month ago – voted for by Aries, Sparrowhawk, C.D., Coolbruv

• (4 votes) omg someone told my bf that i made a fake facebook account to talk to a guy.
  

  Yes, send him a sympathy card. “So sorry you’ve allowed some random mental midget to interfere in our long-term relationship. I sure hope you are able to forgive yourself soon so that we can talk this out and repair the damages. Oh, and I hope you realize your “friend” is coming between us, and decide soon who is more important to you.”
  
  - written 2 years, 4 months ago – voted for by Aries, C.D., Dr. Ralph, ▲

• (4 votes) Why Can’t I Get Over This
  

  Yes; sorry to say, I think you’re wasting your time. She’s stringing you along because she wants a “boyfriend back guarantee” in case her new relationship doesn’t work.
  
  You deserve better than that. You deserve to the be the one she wants, not just the one she’ll take if nothing she likes better is in sight.
  
  Just gradually move away. Stop thinking about her. Stop rescuing her. Stop being available
  
  - written 5 years ago – voted for by zurb, QaSh, ambrutellow, babychu8

• (3 votes) Im a 53yr old single male who in the last 5yrs has had alot of loss.
  

  Yes; that is clinical depression. You are literally fighting for your life against an illness you cannot control. Don’t let it win.
  
  - written 1 month, 2 weeks ago – voted for by AdamG

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• I just got a call that my little sister passed away tonight.
  

  I’m sorry. :( My little sister died very young, too, of breast cancer. It has taken me many years to really put the pain aside and really be able to enjoy the memories I have of her.
  - written 1 day ago

• Is it wrong to want to lose a finger?
  

  See a psychiatrist. FAST.
  - written 4 days ago

• Me and my dad and sister don’t get along.
  

  Okay; this takes some time, but it works everytime.
  
  Whenever anyone says something that is nasty, abusive or rotten, turn on your heel and walk away. No fighting, no arguing, no backtalk, no threats…just turn, and walk out of the room. If you can’t leave the room, look out the window, hide in a book or open a cupboard or something -just remove yourself from their presence.
  
  Return after ten or fifteen minutes, and act as if nothing happened. If they say something nasty about you leaving, or start abusing you again, turn and walk away again.
  
  It takes a few months of consistently walking out, but they WILL change their behavior.
  - written 4 days ago

• I wish I was dead and should just end myself but it really doesn’t matter.
  

  getting the feeling they manipulate anything i say into whatever they want so it wont diverge from their views of things so it wont break the mold of how they see things. Which tends to depress me. They said they make therapy for people who normal therapy failed at.
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  I felt that way at first, too.
  
  The truth is, therapy only works if you MAKE it work. It takes…WORK. It’s not just sit on a sofa and spill your worst thoughts; rather it’s work with someone to start making yourself feel better. That means listening to what they are telling you and meeting them halfway. Like any other relationship, a therapy session takes both of you striving toward a middle ground so you can cope with your feelings long enough to start making the changes that need to be made.
  - written 1 week, 3 days ago

• I wish I was dead and should just end myself but it really doesn’t matter.
  

  I strongly suspect you have clinical depression. You need to see a general practition doctor who will make sure there is nothing physical wrong, and refer you to a specialist. “Designer of alternative therapies” is another way of saying “for entertainment purposes only”.
  
  If you start thinking about hurting yourself, call for an ambulance. Suicidal thoughts and plans are a medical emergency, and you need immediate medical help.
  - written 1 week, 4 days ago

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