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• Introducing my son. posted (9 months, 4 weeks) ago
  :) I haven’t been around a lot lately, but this evening my teenaged son asked if he could sta…

• Re: Logic Problem posted (11 months, 1 week) ago
  Take the chicken first, as the fox won’t eat the feed. Then bring the feed, and put it somep…

• Just for fun: Personality Disorders posted (11 months, 2 weeks) ago
  Here’s mine: Disorder | Rating Paranoid: Low Schizoid: Low Schizotypal: Low Antisocial: Low…

• Looking for a poem posted (1 year, 6 months) ago
  I don’t have any idea what it’s called. I think I first saw it in a book…probabl…

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Dragon_Lady's Top (5) Replies by other users' votes

• (4 votes) Why my life?
  

  [sigh]
  
  First child drops her binky: Mom picks it up, washes it hot soapy water, boils it on the stove, and air-dries it for a day before giving it back.
  
  Second child drops her binky: Mom washes it hot soapy water.
  
  Third child drops her binky: Mom washes it hot water.
  
  Fourth child drops her binky: Mom wipes it on her sleeve.
  
  We as parents start learning -sometimes erroneously- that children are much tougher than we think. We develop habits when taking care of one, and we keep that habit. But than we realize we’re workin’ on bunnies off and the kid is fine…so we relax a bit with the next one, and that becomes a habit with that one.
  
  Pretty soon, we’re on auto-pilot. And we treat each kid according to the habits we formed when they were babies. The oldest child goes on being “first”, and so we go on being more careful. The youngest goes on being the “last” to try new things, and we go on noticing that the other three were fine, and so shall this one be.
  
  I didn’t know this, until about three months ago when my children confronted me with a laundry list of complaints just like this one. I’m trying to break those habits, and make everyone know that I do love them equally. But I realize now they spent years thinking the older ones were more special to me, just because of tiny habits that I wasn’t even aware of.
  
  Don’t let it eat at you. And don’t resent your parents over it. Raising kids is the world’s toughest job, and none of us ever get it completely right, no matter how much we’d like to.
  
  - written 1 year, 5 months ago – voted for by Richard Cor de Lyon, אָ QaSh אָ, sixteenraining, lilmissanime0

• (3 votes) Why Can’t I Get Over This
  

  Yes; sorry to say, I think you’re wasting your time. She’s stringing you along because she wants a “boyfriend back guarantee” in case her new relationship doesn’t work.
  
  You deserve better than that. You deserve to the be the one she wants, not just the one she’ll take if nothing she likes better is in sight.
  
  Just gradually move away. Stop thinking about her. Stop rescuing her. Stop being available
  
  - written 1 year, 5 months ago – voted for by zurb, אָ QaSh אָ, ambrutellow

• (2 votes) My life has took a turn for the worse……..I
  

  Life is what happens when you’re too busy to noice. You have to find something -choose something- that has meaning for you. Then get busy.
  
  Saving the environment?
  Raising children?
  Cooking?
  Making music?
  Studying philosophy or photography or photosynthesis.
  Collecting candy bar wrappers, comic books or crazy quilts?
  
  Find something you love. And then spend your time loving it. Everything else will fall into place.
  
  - written 4 months, 2 weeks ago – voted for by HappyHelperHere, jimreeve

• (2 votes) I am happily married…have been for three years.
  

  The “spark” comes and goes. It is not an indication of love or lack of it. Love is the ability to be honest about anything and everything (including things like this), to work through your problems, to find harmonious compromises that benefit both of you, to retain affection and concern for each other even when everything is going wrong, and to continue to respect each other even after one or both of you have made drastic mistakes.
  
  Tell your husband the truth. Seek marriage counselling if you must. But don’t make the mistake of thinking you don’t love your husband just because some other guy is boosting your ego by giving you attention and being flirty -there will always be one of those hanging around.
  
  - written 4 months, 4 weeks ago – voted for by Bluecat, x-shan

• (2 votes) I don’t know what to f******** do anymore.
  

  You need to see a doctor. Just understanding you’re depressed isn’t enough. Just talking to someone isn’t enough. You need real, professional, medical help.
  
  There are medicines that will help rebalance your brain chemistry. This is a physical problem, and it requires a physical cure.
  
  - written 1 year, 2 months ago – voted for by Morgan, smicki

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• sometimes i wanna kill my dad, n then, wanna kill myself.
  

  [quote blackmetalada]hmmm… i honestly could take a 34 foot long spiked pole and shove it through his face, i my self wouldent commit suicide. i did once but it wont solve the problem, even if your dad is an epic ***. if you kill yourself he will still be alive. i fi ever wanted to commit suicide the fiirst place i would go is to my dad and i woud DESTROY HIM. he just had a go at me today because i had to tidy my room(which I said i would do) but i have a gcse exam tommorw and i had to revise, i couldent revise erlir=er because i was revising for my other exams, so basically im going to kill my dad :) i hate him more than i hate that twat god.( the concept)[/quote]
  
  I don’t know what you mean when you say he “had a go at me” but if your father is physically abusive it’s time to leave. Just call 1-800-4-a-child and explain what is going on. There’s no need to become violent or to do anything to hurt yourself or others. Just call, and leave. No outbursts, no temper tantrums, no scenes. Just go. Your whole life can improve.
  - written 1 day, 12 hours ago

• i think i’m heading down a really bad path.
  

  Why do you feel that way? Personally, I find my way by grabbing a big blank journal and writing, drawing or just stabbing the page with my pencil ’till I start to think more clearly. Then I decide where I want to be. I go to sleep telling myself where I want to end up, and then I let my brain sort out the details about how to get there. Finally, I follow my own heart and try not to let anyone else derail me.
  - written 1 day, 12 hours ago

• I so don’t want to tell my mom.
  

  Just tell her the truth. Parents usually take things much better than you think they will.
  - written 1 day, 21 hours ago

• I did 11yrs in prison.
  

  [quote Anonymous][quote Dragon_Lady]How did you get two kids?[/quote]
  
  you really want him to explain? haha, well getting out at 26 and now being 30 might have something to do w/ it.[/quote]
  
  Okay; I missed the part about him being 30 now.
  
  So that still begs the question, “What have you been doing?” because clearly you’ve survived ’till now. Trying to help here, but need more information. Have you been working?
  - written 2 days, 21 hours ago

• I did 11yrs in prison.
  

  How did you get two kids?
  - written 2 days, 21 hours ago

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