2013-11-26 21:23:23 on I closed this up…
Kyofu, listen to me, please?
I’ve been in a very similar situation to what you are in. I was unable to help my brothers and sisters the same way you are unable. I was stuck in a seriously painful and unhealthy situation, and too afraid to do anything about it.
I was a CHILD, as you are now. But there’s a difference: you have me to help you. And I will, if you’ll let me.
You say “The fight upsets me”. No kidding! Fights are upsetting! Your situation is completely outside what the rest of the world considers healthy, and not very “normal” at all.
You should be safely tucked into your own bed, in a warm, clean home, ready to have Thanksgiving dinner on Thursday with a family that treats you right.
Not huddled in bed pretending to sleep. :(
The things happening are not your fault. They are not your responsibility to fix. They are not normal, and they are not making a good place to grow up in.
You need to go. You and Jake need to get dressed, and call the hotline. You need to allow yourself to be taken somewhere where people will not be yelling or abusing you. I know it won’t feel like “home” but it will be safe, and you’ll have a chance to start making things right so you -and Jake- can have a good future.
2013-11-26 21:17:28 on I closed this up…
Yes; and if you call the hotline, they can use it to find you to help you.
2013-11-26 21:12:04 on I closed this up…
I’m shaking in bed. Rocking. I should go help him. Go help him. Fight. But I know what’s going to happen.
You are NOT a chicken.
You are a CHILD. You cannot defend yourself against the adults yet. You’re not supposed to be able to.
The best way for you to help yourself and your brother is to call for help. Does your phone have a GPS?
2013-11-26 20:49:26 on I closed this up…
Kyofu, call the Hotline number:
CALL 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) then push 1 to talk to a hotline counselor. The Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline is open 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. The hotline counselors work with translators who speak 140 languages to help people who call and speak something other than English. All calls are anonymous. (The hotline counselors don’t know who you are and you don’t have to tell them.)
You can call this number if you live in the United States, Canada, Puerto Rico, Guam or the U.S. Virgin Islands.
2013-11-26 20:46:57 on Should I get a divorce?
First, try marriage counseling. If he won’t go, you go by yourself.
2013-11-26 16:47:29 on Urgent Business Loan needed: Dear Sirs, I am a a cake
This afternoon I bought a half dozen cookies from a woman who is working from her home. She delivers!!! The moment she opened her trunk, and the smell of fresh breads, cookies, and doughnuts came wafting out, I knew my diet was blown. :)
I imagine that if you sit down and brainstorm for a while, you’ll be able to think of ways to expand your current business. Fresh, homemade goodies are just too hard to resist, so all you need to find is enough customers to generate the sales you need.
2013-11-26 09:09:50 on Goodbye it was fun.
??? Wow…. Angry much?
2013-11-26 09:08:35 on My gf constantly accuses me of cheating and tells me
Personally, I’d sit down and tell her straight up that I won’t tolerate any more of her accusations about my honesty or faithfulness. None.
I wouldn’t argue, or get angry, or be defensive about it. I’d just say “That stops. Now.”
From that moment forth every time she makes an unfounded accusation, I’d turn on my heel and walk away. I’d leave the room, call someone on the phone, find a book to read, or turn over and go back to sleep -whatever it takes to remove myself from the conversation. Wait about 15 minutes, then return as if nothing happened. No arguing, no shouting, no reaction -just pretend she never said a single word.
Eventually, she’ll stop doing that.
But…that’s a LOT of work to invest in someone you’ve only known a few months, so you want to think long and hard about whether she’s really worth it to you. There are lots of other fish in the sea.
2013-11-25 19:14:23 on I feel like I can’t do this anymore.
I think that if anyone ever needed to join a grief support group, that person is you. Look around the phone book and see if you can find one. If not, try calling the funeral home that is handling your Mom’s care, and see if they can recommend one for you.
2013-11-25 08:14:00 on It seems that iam the who is dying for her, remembring
We’ve all been there! The only cure is time, but distance and distraction help. You know you have to let go, but that’s not easy -it’s much easier to embrace something else instead.
Listen to music she hated. Go places she didn’t like to be. Spend time with people she didn’t get along with.
Get a hobby. Adopt a dog. Volunteer your time somewhere, get lots of exercise -do things you enjoy doing without her. Eventually, you’ll meet someone who loves you in return. :)
2013-11-24 21:33:28 on Urgent Business Loan needed: Dear Sirs, I am a a cake
You’d probably be better off to start small from your home. You could make cakes to order and take orders online or over the phone. That way, you wouldn’t need much start up capital, and when you do talk to the bank you’ll have some real facts and figures to show them.
2013-11-24 08:14:23 on It has been snowing here almost constantly for the
Maybe the congregation needs to take up a collection to buy the pastor a snow plow?
2013-11-24 07:58:24 on Why is he being so cold?
In other words “I’m not so sure I intend to stay in this relationship. You take care of YOU while I sort out my feelings and intentions. Don’t wait up.”
2013-11-24 07:53:53 on It seems that iam the who is dying for her, remembring
Stop thinking about her. Find something else to do. Read books, play games, go out with other people. Spend your time being so busy she has to come looking for you. If she doesn’t, someone else just as good will. ;)
2013-11-23 19:33:18 on I’m done talking about it.
The call the Hotline, and tell them your sister’s place is no better. Tell them what you just told us.
But, please, call them. Maybe not tonight, but soon. You can’t continue to be your Mom’s crutch. She has to grow up and take care of herself.