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if you dint mind the price you could always go to a jewelery store and have them carve something into a plain silver or gold neckless, like the braclets you can get with your name on it…but you can have something else carved also.

Well you have too wait..not everything goes so smoothly when you are looking for someone.
I am only 17, but have been through hell and back and I dated a loser for a year and a half, things blew up in my face ALLL the time when I dated him, but I wish I would have relized it in the beginning. I wish that I could have seen that…so be thankful that you dont get too attached too easily
The right person will come one day.

I dont not believe you are coming to the end of the rope. You just havent ound your “true” self. Hang in there you will find yourself and have happiness. This just come slower for others.

You are the only one who will let life slip from yourself, so dry your hands and hang in there!!! Believe in yourself, because I dont know you and I believe in you already…

[quote guesswho100]Your brother being arrested is not all your fault. Your brother being arrested is I’m very sure, all HIS fault, for whatever he has been doing, while using drugs. Just because you talked to someone about where to find him, doesn’t mean he wouldn’t have been found and arrested anyways. If you’re brothers friends are threatening you, keep talking to everyone, whether they listen or not. Tell the principal you are being threatened, and give him names. Tell you teachers, and give them names. Tell the counselor, and give them names. Tell your doctor what happened to your brother, and about his friends threatening you, and see if he has suggestions. If you don’t have parents at home, and your brother is gone, who is your guardian now? Talk to them, and see what can be done? Maybe you can be bussed to a different school district, live with a different relative, try an alternative or online school situation, until your brother gets some new friends, or you get more capable of protecting yourself, and dealing with your other health issues. Just because people don’t do anything, or don’t seem to listen - Don’t stop talking! If it comes to it, go to the police if your brothers friends threaten you more now that he is in jail. They may not listen at first, but the more you talk to more people, and have the same problems, someone will start to listen and take you seriously.[/quote]

Thank you for your kind words and thoughts. I live with my fathers cousin and his wife. They try to help, but it doesnt really do much. I wouldnt have any other people to move in with. I dont want to move now, I graduate in 3 and 1/2 months and counting down the days!!! But I hope I can make it through. Thank you very much.

You have to wait for the right time, you cant just find her, you both find eachother, and your 17, you have a while….
“The right” girl will come soon though, you have to be patient.

Yes I know it is, just my dad has been in and out of jail and the last time he went to jail he was shot and killed, by a man that was there also. And even when my dad was there he was still able to get drugs. And my mom has always been able to get drugs in jail. It seems like the jails just dont really help anymore. And my brother is the only family I have left. It just sucks, and I feel like it is all my fault,

I also deal with seasonal depression and my doctor has said if I have another big “stresser” it may cause my to become depressed more often. I have been trying to fight this, but it just sucks…

My brother is a drug abuser and has robbed people (including my boyfriend) and he was on probation and didnt talk to his probation officer for about a week…

I am not sure why your counselor makes you remember all those things at first, but it is good to talk about the bad things, it help you let the pain go away.

I hope all goes well.

You have to be staight forward with her in the kindest way possible. You need to tell her how you feel. And depending on your age she has to let you grow up somtime. And she needs to know that. It is probably dificult to understand but her mom was probably the same way….

I am older but the same thing happened to me. I think guys sometimes talkt o you a lot when you arent dating so you dont get interested in someone else and when they start to dat you they figure they have you so they dont need to be worried… You understand? I know it sounds crazy, but it could be true. And maybe you should tell him you would like to talk more.

[quote roaddog71]what a bunch of crap there people are telling you…

Some people who have been hurt by someone they trusted completely can never trust someone fully again. They are scared of getting hurt so they keep a constant guard up looking for signs they will be hurt again, so they can try to avoid it. Stupid, but only human.

Also, you probably will never have a “guy” friend. Trust me, guy friends are only interested in one thing, whats in your pants. You boyfriend knows this (because he is a guy)and assumes you do too. Hence he gets angry when your hanging out with some dork who wants to get you naked, because it seems your o.k. with the dork getting you naked by the action hanging out with him.

The male female relationship is based on sexual attraction, if there is not the slightest bit of sexual attraction from at least one of the parties involved there will be no connection. Whether it is physical or mental compatibility, it is a instinctual call to mate. Once a pair has “hooked up” it is the males duty to keep his female and chase off other suiters. Our complex society masks these basic instincts which get played out subconsciously and manifest as things like jealousy.

Before you assume he is cheating, put yourself in his shoes. If he was out with other girls all the time how would feel?[/quote]

She has a good point!!!! I always have been like that.

[quote anneliesehuss]jack:
she didnt even say what “happened” to her, just that she doesnt know whether to tell her man about the depression or not. also that the meds helped her but made her feel funky, so she stopped taking them. she wants to know if she should get back on the meds or keep not taking them. she didnt exactly say she was worried about anything and no shes not depressed, she has depression. depressed is sad, depression is prolonged sadness, that can cause thoughts of suicide and whatnot. before you try to help people please read the post thoroughly before insulting the poster[/quote]

Thank you for helping him see that point!!!

Well thank you at least I could talk to you!

Some people accus others of what they are doing them selves.

I just feel bad because it runs in his family and I dont want to make him overwhelmed with sad and anger people. I mean even now i feel like curling up in a ball and never leaving home again. Expecally with graduation and prom right around the corner…..
To many tings and so little time, i feel like it has already taken over and i feel like I walk around with a big rainy cloud over my head. Its rough