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• (2 votes) My Fellow helpers, I sit here telling people what they
  

  We all tend to be better at giving advice than to take it.
  Human flaw.
  
  However. You literally ask if you are a hypocrite. And you ask us to be straight forward.
  So here goes.
  
  Yes. I think you are somewhat of a hypocrite. (this is my personal opinion)
  
  Why do I dare to say that this bold?
  
  Well, first of all you ask for honesty. Second, we have been in a few arguments already.
  Debating on different topics.
  You from your religious point of view and I from a non-religious point of view.
  
  I have seen you saying that you have learned so much on this site. That you have learned that your truth is not the only truth.
  
  Yet I see in the middle of a post that is not about religion suddenly a prayer.
  I see a reply: “Don’t do that, don’t believe in that. It will bring you to the dark side”
  I have seen a post with several replies where you asked the suicidal poster to come too God. You even asked if he felt something already from God.
  The poster had claimed several times he was not religious, and after one of your comments he said “that’s it” with the gun against his head.
  
  He was a faker, but you, nor anyone, knew that at that moment.
  
  The first time we came across each other was in a debate on suicide.
  At one moment you claimed that our liberal view towards homosexuality is one of the causes of suicide. This is your view and you are entitled to have it.
  However I asked you if you thought I was a good person after all the other things I said already. And you agreed. Than I tell you I am gay, and thus to your opinion less of a person. I also tell you that people with your view towards homosexuality are those that nearly pushed me over the edge in the past.
  
  And suddenly the story changes. Suddenly homosexuality is not that wrong.
  It felt too me like you were confronted in a way you couldn’t deal with.
  Also because I had to address you twice before you replied on this matter.
  
  You have also claimed not to know a thing about religion, but that you just believe in God.
  Yet you seem to throw in prayers where ever you can, quotation and all.
  You even offer printer friendly options.
  
  And your God, who is to your own sayings not from a religion, is the only one that is right. It simply does not align with each other.
  
  Does this make you a wrong person?
  
  No. I can see that you are doing your best to help people.
  That it comes from a good heart.
  
  However, you seem to forget that not everybody shares the same faith.
  That various people can do things in various ways.
  
  And that pushing religion onto someone can have an opposed effect than desired.
  
  How about you ask a question instead of giving a prayer?
  How about you ask about their faith instead of throwing God into the ring instantly?
  
  I, and hopefully no one else, won’t ever judge you on your faith.
  You have a right to believe whatever you want. But so does everybody else.
  
  I think it will help you grow once you start seeing that.
  
  Even if it is your ‘task’ to tell people about your faith, there might be another way to do that.
  
  How does this all apply to what you just posted?
  Easy.
  
  You tell people what is right and wrong. You don’t let them question themselves and find their own truth.
  
  So, you expect that probably from yourself as well. Why not ask yourself the questions first? What do I really want? Who am I?
  
  With an ‘empty nest’ you start a new part of your life. Probably the part where it (finally) is mostly about you. How good would it be to be a whole person?
  
  And being whole is for me directly related to respect. Respect for others and for yourself.
  
  Probably there are things you want to change. Than start on them. But question first. What is it? Which small step can I take now?
  
  If you do it that way it’ll become an interesting journey instead of a sudden jump.
  And that might be just the way to improve yourself as you desire.
  
  Felicity, I wish you no harm. Everything but.
  I decided to write this down as you ask the question yourself.
  I used examples to show you what I mean. And the communication here is public after all.
  
  I hope my opinion and advice is somewhat worthy to you.
  And I sincerely wish you all the best.
  
  ‘kat.
  
  - written 1 month, 3 weeks ago – voted for by sansceriph, Sherooo

• (2 votes) ~Closed~
  

  Ok, basically you asked the question ‘How do I get rid of my phobia?’.
  
  Perhaps some facts can help you understand it better and therefor it can be less scary.
  Maybe it also helps not to judge other people just on their appearance and make fun of it.
  After all I assume it is not your desire to cause trauma for others.
  
  Starting at conception and lasting until about 14 weeks, all mammalian fetuses within the same species look the same, regardless of sex.
  After 14 weeks, genetically-male fetuses begin producing male hormones such as testosterone.
  Most of the time, males’ nipples don’t change much past this point.
  However, some males develop a condition known as gynecomastia, in which the fatty tissue around and under the nipple develops into something similar to a female breast.
  This may happen whenever the testosterone level drops because of medications.
  (from Wikipedia)
  
  Gynecomastia (male breasts) is something that occurs quite often.
  
  It is found with obese men, but more often it has to do with an imbalance of sex hormones.
  
  This is something that one can not control at first and for many men it is disturbing and even traumatising.
  
  Especially when a man (boy) is in his teens and is developing himself it is often very hard to discover the development of breast tissue.
  The knowledge that this most often will automatically disappear in a few years does not help enough to make the embarassment go away.
  
  What causes it? Often it is idiopathic, meaning it has no clear cause.
  
  However, there is proof it can be caused by one of the following things:
  
  -Medication
  -Medication containing hormones
  -Increased serum estrogen
  -Decreased testerone production
  -Chronic kidney and live diseases
  -HIV treatment
  -Several chronic illnesses
  -Spinal cord injury
  -Feeding after starvation
  
  Though often medication replacement can do the trick when it is because of previous used medication, when it has an other cause other treatment is needed when desired to remove the breasts.
  
  What one should realise is that at a certain point the breast tissue hardens and can only be surgically removed.
  
  In the US, but also several other places in the world, this is most often not covered by health insurance as it is considered a cosmetic procedure.
  
  There are also several chromosome varieties that appear in human.
  An example is Klinefelter’s Syndrome, or 47xxy Syndrome.
  
  This syndrome leaves males with an extra x chromosome and appears in 1 out of every 500 males and is thus quite common.
  Next to several other symptons, such as infertility and often a language learning impairment and some other things, about 30% is affected with gynecomastia.
  
  Surgical treatment is the only solution but, as stated above, often not affordable.
  
  Also there are many men that have decided to accept and embrace their body just as it is without feeling less male.
  
  As you see, there are many causes and actually none of them can be considered the fault of the person itself.
  However, due to a lack of acceptance that we have in modern day society it almost seems something impossible to deal and come to terms with.
  
  One side note, it might also apply to the transgender and third sex discussion.
  Not the existence of gynecomnastia in it self, but the way people accept it and embrace it.
  Note that this only applies to a very limited group of people.
  
  I hope this helps in dealing with your ‘phobia’.
  
  More information:
  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nipple
  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gynecomastia
  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Klinefelter
  http://help.com/post/176437-the-third-sex
  
  - written 1 month, 4 weeks ago – voted for by smoogie., Cosmic Fool

• (2 votes) Be Kind and Rewind ………… Let’s invite all of the people who have left to come back - no questions asked.
  

  What we should have, and what this post clearly shows that we have, is a place where there is trust, genuine care, where we can laugh and where we find comfort.
  
  And asking for help, getting help and giving help comes naturally in such an environment.
  
  - written 2 months, 2 weeks ago – voted for by Shellfish, elysium

• (1 vote) Is their anything wrong with being gay ?
  

  The question if it is wrong to be gay can unfortunately not be answered that simply as the opinions vary greatly.
  
  Several individuals and movements with a religious point of view condemn homosexuality as being wrong.
  Also law in many countries up to today prohibits homosexuality. People do get the death penalty for homosexual behaviour.
  And many many people agree on these points of view.
  
  However, you also have the flip side of the coin.
  Most ‘western civilisations’ (if not all) have acknowledged people with a homosexual orientation have a right to live and to express their love towards someone of the same gender.
  Further, it varies greatly from country to country (or state to state) which other rights apply for equality with people with a heterosexual orientation.
  
  Also within religion you will find many individuals and groups that support homosexuality more or less.
  
  Separate from law and religion there is the personal view. You will find that those opinions will vary as well and may align or contradict with the law/religion of the persons country and community.
  
  As you see, I can not provide you with an answer, as there simply is not one view the world has agreed on.
  
  There is however another matter that is interesting debating this question.
  The cause (if any) of homosexuality.
  
  Is it a choice or not?
  
  Research has shown several biological differences between people with a homosexual and a heterosexual orientation.
  However, it has not yet been defined if there is a ‘cause of homosexual behaviour’.
  
  It is a very sensitive subject which, once it is certain there is a physical reason why one is homosexual, can change opinions greatly.
  It can no longer be claimed that homosexuality is a choice, yet there is a possibility with it having a cause people will look for a ‘cure’.
  
  A lot of research has been done and will be done in the future, not only on human sexual orientation but also in the animal kingdom as homosexuality appears in other species as well.
  
  Please use these links for more research, if you want to read more. The links will bring you a lot of information and a variety of other articles more or less related to the matter.
  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Homosexuality
  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Biology_and_sexual_orientation
  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/LGBT_rights_opposition
  
  In my personal opinion being gay is not a choice, however ones sexual orientation can change in time.
  I feel regardless of one’s orientation we all have equal rights and should have access to the same institutions and opportunities.
  
  I also feel that one is entitled not to approve on homosexuality, as we have a right to our own opinion.
  However, I do not feel we have a right to judge upon one’s behaviour, especially if it will not cause you harm personally.
  
  Whether homosexuality is a choice or not, a lot of harm is done with condemning homosexuality.
  Within society, community and family.
  
  I’d advice someone who does not approve on someone’s behaviour not to be bothered by it and to leave to judgement to the person self (or your god of choice, but please do keep that to yourself).
  
  Treat a person as a person and (dis)like someone for his/her character, not the behaviour that you have nothing to do with.
  
  - written 3 weeks, 4 days ago – voted for by -Pollythings-

• (1 vote) girlfriend wants to stop having sex
  

  Your girlfriend has a fear of getting pregnant.
  And let’s face it, sex can make you pregnant, there is always a risk, no matter of the amount of protection you take.
  But the chance is very very small if you practice safe sex.
  Perhaps she should speak to her doctor to see if there is a pill that is acceptable too her or other ways for practicing safe sex, next too condoms.
  
  What you have to understand is that she is not rejecting you, but the risk of getting pregnant.
  However, what she has to understand is that physical intimacy is an important (and fun!) part of a healthy relation.
  We are all sexual beings, some more than others, but we all have a need for it.
  Especially when we are with someone we are in love with.
  
  You have to discuss this with her, but I’d advice you not to tell her that it is wrong or that her reasoning is stupid.
  Use a positive approach, try to let her rationalize her fear and seek for a way together that you are both satisfied with.
  
  I don’t know how old you 2 are, but perhaps she has been through things that make her extremely careful.
  Or she has been raised with ideas that make her act like this.
  
  Don’t judge her just yet, but try to have an open conversation about it.
  Preferably on the couch or something, not on ‘the moment itself’.
  
  And show her that you care and that you understand her fear, but also explain your own needs.
  Show her that you don’t want to get her pregnant (or at least not yet) but that you want to be physically intimate with her, as you simply love her.
  
  And sex is a normal thing.
  Try together to make it something normal again so you both can enjoy it.
  
  - written 4 weeks, 1 day ago – voted for by Anthrax

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• any good movie recommendations?
  

  El Labyrinto del Fauno, aka Pans Labyrinth.
  
  Though quite recent, it totally feels like a classic and quite dark, yet sweet too.
  - written 3 weeks, 1 day ago

• any good movie recommendations?
  

  The Birds? Psycho? Carrie? The Thing?
  
  Classic and Horror in one.
  - written 3 weeks, 1 day ago

• err… kinda a personal question,..
  

  learn to google than.
  
  http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&safe=off&client=safari&rls=en&q=dildo+%2B+household+items&btnG=Search
  
  I am out of this post. Good luck.
  - written 3 weeks, 1 day ago

• err… kinda a personal question,..
  

  nothing you say?
  
  http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&safe=off&client=safari&rls=en&q=make+your+own+dildo&btnG=Search
  - written 3 weeks, 1 day ago

• err… kinda a personal question,..
  

  Just google the question and you should get an answer there.
  
  Though sexual questions can be a part of this site I think it’d be wise not to get into this further.
  - written 3 weeks, 1 day ago

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